maybe they dont know what else to say???

Ok...let me go into this topic a bit deeper.


It's (almost) universally accepted, that men makes first contact with the women..let it be a bar, on street or even on a dating site.

It's been on like this for thousands of years, perhaps cavemen were doing the same thing, I would suspect so. There are of course exception for whatever culture or tradition at certain points in the world, but it's a small percentage and really doesn't make an impact or alter the rest of the world on dating and making a relationship.

Men finds it "normal" not to get accepted, or at least they should, especially if there are more other men competing for the same woman.

So we get to the point, when a man tries to make a contact and gets thrown off and he moves on to find someone else or tries again and again until he is successful with the female and a relationship develops. It's the same in the animal world.

Then we come to when a woman is making a contact to the male, and that's - if you ask me - entirely different.

When a woman tries to make a contact, it is - correct me if i'm wrong- supposed to be a bit more meaningful, coming from the fact, that women has a bit of a different mindset than men and us men should take the woman's interest more seriously than women should with men.

This is really nothing complicated and not something outrageous and men who protest that we are equal with women, should take a deep breath and accept the fact, that we aren't equal, when we get asked about dating and relationships, because from the single fact, that a woman might have to bear a child and needing support for a lifetime is makes it a more serious decision for her than for a guy, you can't fight this...a mother is more important to a child than a father, although I'm not going into a debate about just how important a father is (very), because I can already feel the onslaught I might get from single moms who feel better of by themselves raising their child, than having a man around.

So..anyway.
I just think it is important to keep in mind - again, it's my opinion- that even just a small email coming from a woman to a man, is actually more meaningful - or at least I think so - than a man's e-mail going to a woman. Looks small and insignificant, but the difference is still there...and i can't believe I spent 20 minutes writing this.

Ok...let me go into this topic a bit deeper.


It's (almost) universally accepted, that men makes first contact with the women..let it be a bar, on street or even on a dating site.

It's been on like this for thousands of years, perhaps cavemen were doing the same thing, I would suspect so. There are of course exception for whatever culture or tradition at certain points in the world, but it's a small percentage and really doesn't make an impact or alter the rest of the world on dating and making a relationship.

Men finds it "normal" not to get accepted, or at least they should, especially if there are more other men competing for the same woman.

So we get to the point, when a man tries to make a contact and gets thrown off and he moves on to find someone else or tries again and again until he is successful with the female and a relationship develops. It's the same in the animal world.

Then we come to when a woman is making a contact to the male, and that's - if you ask me - entirely different.

When a woman tries to make a contact, it is - correct me if i'm wrong- supposed to be a bit more meaningful, coming from the fact, that women has a bit of a different mindset than men and us men should take the woman's interest more seriously than women should with men.

This is really nothing complicated and not something outrageous and men who protest that we are equal with women, should take a deep breath and accept the fact, that we aren't equal, when we get asked about dating and relationships, because from the single fact, that a woman might have to bear a child and needing support for a lifetime is makes it a more serious decision for her than for a guy, you can't fight this...a mother is more important to a child than a father, although I'm not going into a debate about just how important a father is (very), because I can already feel the onslaught I might get from single moms who feel better of by themselves raising their child, than having a man around.

So..anyway.
I just think it is important to keep in mind - again, it's my opinion- that even just a small email coming from a woman to a man, is actually more meaningful - or at least I think so - than a man's e-mail going to a woman. Looks small and insignificant, but the difference is still there...and i can't believe I spent 20 minutes writing this.

So, are you saying that you think a woman is interested in you if she makes first contact?

I email people for all kinds of reasons. However, me emailing someone does not necessarily mean I'm interested in them.

And would you like to explain why you do the same thing you just accused this woman of????? Or does it not count that for 2 days we exchanged friends mail then poof you just stop writing even though you are online? How do you feel you deserve to go on a rant when you treat people exactly the same way? I mean it's no biggie to me but if you want to be throwing stones you need to move out of that glass house~

Unless she got any other reason to contact someone on a dating site, she should say so maybe?



but you do state your reason why you are emailing them if it's not because you are interested in them?

This is more than a dating site. So, I don't feel the need to start every email with "I'm emailing you because _______, not because I'm interested in you." I contact people because of what they say in the forums, because something in their profile was interesting, because they seemed like an interesting person and so on. That doesn't necessarily mean I want to date everyone I email.

Unless she got any other reason to contact someone on a dating site, she should say so maybe?

Ok so in a summary:



1. If anyone gets an email and it's "hey how are you?" or similar... that does not mean the person is interested in the other?

2. There is such an interest between members, that only goes as far as liking each other profile, doesn't want any further and closer relationship?

3.If I get an email I never talked to before..should i not treat it seriously, the person might be just "window shopping"?

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3. Sure treat it seriously, why not?

Well read through the thread...accordingly to some there is this window shopping going on..whatever that is...and if i get an email it doesn't have much meaning anyway.

Well read through the thread...accordingly to some there is this window shopping going on..whatever that is...and if i get an email it doesn't have much meaning anyway.

She got sidetracked with another dude.
Most guys start off with some sort of small talk..sometimes I have 10 IM windows up at the same time, and I usually stick w/ the conversations I find most interesting. (And no, "Hows it going" and "Hows your day?" ain't gonna cut it!)

Change it up a little. Next time say something clever, not cheesy tho, something other than the usual, something totally random. Keep it interesting!!
It gets old having to reply: "Good n u?" to your:" Hows it going?"
Especially when she has 10 windows open (and if she is remotely hot, she prolly has at least that)
I like to have big discussions usually, and it is hard carrying on a good convo with 10 guys at the same time..the ones that are just too usual, will get left behind/ignored... whatever.

Don't take it personal, just learn from it, to just be a lil' different than everyone else she is currently talking to.

Well I guess I have to stay away from hot women

less competition = more chance.