The thing that helps me in going to support groups is that they are not
neccesarily religious. We have many types of people. Some are Athiest;
Some Agnostic and Some believe in God. It is not a requirement to be
religious or even to be spiritual. Recovery and Salvation can be two
different concepts. Some are just as adamant about there being a God as
those as the ones that claim there isn't a God. So to bypass all the
controversy of that we have coined the phrase, "A loving God who may
express himself in our group conscience." We still have our bleeding
deacons and thumpers but the traditions balance out the steps giving us
checks and balances. The tradition that 'Our leaders are but trusted
servants; They do not govern' helps to keep many people from becoming
God so that the group conscience can take affect. Many members have
tried the religious route and the spiritual route. Many have tried jails
and institutions. When everything else just failed them they come to the
support groups.

I could use a support group.

The only problem is that I have no clue what I need support with.

Is there a support group for people who don’t know why the need support?

Believe or not there is Emotional Anonymous. I have only went to it once
when I was in Wichita. There are a lot of anonymous groups out there.
Groups are good therapy and you might consider starting a group of your
own if you find others to join you. The Kiwianas, Lions and Elk clubs
are some that meet around here.

Abra, I heard of a group that support people that don't need any
support. If you are interested I'll try to track them down

I heard of a group called Prostitutes Anonymous and their motto is don't
take that first buck.

Actually I think I just need some regular every day friends. (ha ha)

I play various instruments, I think my best bet is to just get with some
musical people and play music. That’s probably all the ‘support’ I
really need.

I’m just not even sure how to go about doing that. I’m totally
unskilled when it comes to meeting knew people. I’m just not a
sociable person, (not to be confused with ‘anti-social’ which actually
means to be against society, which I am NOT).

I just need to find some people to play music with I guess.

That’ll do it! :o)

Good idea. There are people who like to play musical instruments and
people who like to listen to them.

Ya'll could make some beautiful music together.

Ever thought of just leaving a note on the notice board in the local
shop? Seems to be the easiest way to make contact with people in a
reasonable distance.

I like classical, bluegrass, or folk. Although, I wouldn’t turn down an
opportunity to play other types of music. I’m also not real good, but
it would be cool to just play a few simply background notes just to get
started. I used to play with other people years ago and it is a real
rush to be part of that again.

Music does have a spiritual aspect to it.

Invisible wrote:
"Ever thought of just leaving a note on the notice board in the local
shop? Seems to be the easiest way to make contact with people in a
reasonable distance."

There's actually a local internet group in immediate area too. I think
my real problem is procrastination.

I’m like the person who goes to a party and stands outside until someone
actually pushes me in the door. (ha ha)

I think I have a built-in adversity or inhibition to becoming involved
in sociable situation.

Maybe that’s what I need support with?

See, we’re making progress already. You two have become my support
group!

Bluegrass is real popular around here. The rural areas are good for folk
music. I have sang in the choir but never got the gift for playing music
instruments. My grandfather played the guitar and my father did. My
daughter has the guitar that was my dad's. My son wasn't interested in
musical instuments but my daughter has restringed the old Gibson flat
top that was my dad's. Dad took it with him in Korea and Viet Nam and
used it for a weapon. It has bullets holes but he used wood putty. The
neck he had to use metal on it where he broke it over an enemy soldier
while he was in battle in Viet Nam.

Abra, I have the exact same problem. Over the years, my friends have
had to 'force' me to agree to go 'out', or 'do' with them.

I took up playing pool/billiards about 11 years ago. I have absolutely
NO problem going into a place to play pool. It's how I met most of my
current circle of friends. Now, when they ask me to go camping with a
group I don't know, or go to a rally, or a game night, I go. Only
problem is, I'm still very reserved, it takes a lot to get me to open
up. I just don't know how to start, or what to ask? So mostly I
listen, and wait for someone to ask me a qustion.

Music to you is like pool to me - it gives you an automatic commonality.
There's a comfort zone in that commonality. I can play pool for hours
with a stranger, be prefectly comfortable and find out all about them.
Or I can play with them for hours, talk pool and at the end shake hands
and leave.

Maybe music is it for you too. Hope it works out, if not, well, we can
be a support group of at least 2.

I feel the same as Abra:
My problem, however, is that I'm running from school and my job.
Sometimes I go to the local bar to grab a couple of beers, but odd
enough i barely talk with people in there.
I guess I'm very shy.
I guess i need a support group for shy people.

TLW

LW, I used to think I was shy, but I never really was. I have always
just felt kind of awkward, like I never really fit in. In my case,
though, there were reasons for that which I did not understand for a
long,long time. I not afraid of poeple, I'm not intimidated by most and
totally not impressed with anyone, just because they are "somebody".
Mostly I just want to get to know people before I "trust" them, so I
just don't talk. But how do you get to know people if you don't talk.

Is that like you? Or are you actually intimidated by people, and
nerveous around them?