no, not all men R..only 97%..gezzzzzzzzzzzzzz...lmao!!

97%? I dont believe that,,,,

I hate to say it Sanna but you are meeting the wrong guys...I hate when
people label or stereotype....aaaaauuuuuggggghhhhhh

women do it to...be specific on what you are looking for and ask them up
front what they are looking for

Thank you all for your imput!

I do beleive most of the time we all are fearful of commitment for all
kinds of reasons. I just would like some honesty right up front!
"What are you looking for?" Friend with benefits or a real relationship
with all the good and bad?

Now a days people cheat on each other with no real consequences to be
had. Divorce rates are very high because its pretty easy to get one!

People don't respect others feelings at all, and aren't willing to stick
it out and listen to each other to try to work on a marriage or
relationship. It just plain sucks!

BTW I'm dating anyone in particular. Its just I am bold and blunt enough
to ask what the guy wants if we do start to date! Just so I can maintain
the wall up if I need to! i just like to know what I'm getting into
before I go too far.

And yes, that stems from being hurt too many times in life!

Sanna, I could have easily written your post myself.

Bottom line, people don't give a DAMN about anyone but themselves and
their own selfish desires anymore. They want instant gratification, a
quick fix, with no sense of commitment, no attachment, no
accountability, to go along with it.

They don't want to answer to anyone, yet they have this sense of
"entitlement" that, just because sex is a "natural urge," that a friends
with (ahem) "benefits" arrangement should be perfectly okay.

Well, I, for one, am not "perfectly okay" with it. Not these days. I put
up with too much crap, too much anger, hurt, and resentment that goes
along with being too lenient with men who have the "I can have my cake
and eat it, too" attitude, and I simply won't do it anymore.

Or, at the very least, if *I* decide that's what I want, then, I will be
honest about it and say that right from the get-go. I won't pretend I'm
interested in a "real" relationship just so I can 'get me some,' which
is more than what you can say for a lot of people.

Honesty and integrity are just a thing of the past, pretty much, but
since the prevailing attitude is "don't judge people," well, it's kind
of easy to see why that is.

Honesty and integrity are just a thing of the past, pretty much,

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I really hope not..Thats what I am looking for and most women, who have
written me, are also searching for. I know it is a live and well today..
maybe, Its just my generation, Im speaking of?

Well, surely I'm not the "only" one who believes in it, so when I say
it's a thing of the past, sadly, I think that it's getting to more true
as time goes by.

One of the reasons for that is the general acceptance of the attitude
that "if it feels good, do it." And "Don't *judge* people."

People seem to think that, so long as the behavior is "consensual," so
long as it's not physically hurting someone, that there aren't any
consequences, any ramifications, to it.

Life is just one big happy clusterfreakingf***k these days and not many
people, from what I've witnessed, seem to really give a damn about it.

Jean, this is JUST the reason why we shouldn't accept
less, than what we're due!!! Eventually, it would have to end, if people
realized, they're not going for the oky doke. As in everything else, you
have to fight, for what you want!!!

I agree 100 percent and that's exactly what I'm doing. It is hard,
though, because it's so easy for people to get that instant
gratification from other people willing to give it to them, so you
either end up being alone/lonely, or you give in, if for no other reason
than you're simply tired of being alone, and realize that it's either
"that or nothing."

I mean, perhaps not literally but it sure seems that way sometimes.

Jean, I know how easy it is to give, and receive advise,
but it's still left to us! Once you throw in the HUMAN equation, well,
here we go!!!

I, too, miss the company of someone special, on my arm! I,
too, miss the touch, the feel of warth, that two people generate,
together!!! I, too, miss the kiss, that charges my being, that unites
two spiits, as one!!!!! ONE DAY, she'll be there! Just SOL, until she
does!

Last time I checked my profile, I didnt see that in there. Maybe you can
tell me where it is. Maybe I wil have to get new glasses.

Thank you, Broken, my sentiments exactly.