You are soooooooooo very welcome!!

i think we all have our standards for a reason.... why would u want to
lower them as to become miserable? that will never work sure some
things that u would like to have <the little things> those arent
standards and u can live without them... but i say no ..u take all these
years deciding and learning what u like and what u dislike that is what
makes u special... and if u are all these too why would you deserve
less? just do what sage said take a look at what they are <your
standards> put them in order of importance...if there are 5 so be it if
there are 10 so be it... doesnt matter they are your own set of
standards... take a look at the bottom ones can u live without that? or
perhaps if u have 7 of them meet a gal that has 5 of them try it out the
bottom two may not be as important anymore thats not settling.. for she
may really shine above the rest on your important ones... good
luck

See, they didn't quite finish the sentence. What they meant to say was,
"Lower your standards and go out with me."

ps..... good topic i think... thanks for giving me something to write
in

My mom use to tell me that all the time. I told her I lowered my
standards in 2 marriages and that was enough. I refuse to lower them.
If it means I'll spend the rest of my life by myself then so be it. I
won't settle for less than I won't and I'm alot happier by myself than I
would be with someone who is not what I wanted to start with.

Why settle for second best!

I agree with you all. I really don't intend to "lower" anything. I
really have no "standard" guidelines. It took me 10 years of single life
in my 20's before I found my last love and I wasn't "looking" then. I
can't really tell you what did it for me, but I was head over heels when
I met her. One year later, married for 16+ years, 2 children later. I
recon that was a pretty good time in my life. But shoot, things are a
lot different now a days. Some of you know what I'm talking about. And
we all learn as life goes on! Guess that just makes us more cautious and
"picky" if that's what ya want to call it. Thanks for all ya'lls replies
and I look forward to any more that might come along!!

We all have per sey standards or what it is we are looking for in
anothre person. Those are the things that we believe in ourselves. Could
be what we need to enhance our lives or just what makes us happy. And to
go and lower our expections of what we are looking for. Can you really
say you would be happy ? By settling for less than what you believe in
and need yourself. Sorry one should go for what they truly desire but
also to understand. If you are looking for someone to respect you, then
first you must respect them as well. One should never expect there
standards to be the things they don't give themselves. Only at that time
some should lower there standards for your standards should never be
more than you are willing to give yourself.

like i said before

why settle when you can select!!!