on my personal email from this site and you go to it and there are no emails.
Is it just people who just LOOKED at your profile and are those the ones that they put in mutual matches? I look at them and see NOTHING in common with many and some that I specify in my profile that I DON'T want? Does this site do that so it seems like that they are successful in matching you? Does Mingle do that to make you check out their site, because they get paid per hit from the sites advertising here? It's annoying because it makes you take the time to go to the site and see...nothing. There is not a help desk I guess because of it being a free site, but can we all post on this forum that we would prefer NOT to be notified unless we DO get an email from someone?
Is there a monitor for this site, who could tell us that if we do that, it will have any effect?

OK, basically as I understand it, that message means someone has rated you either a YES or MAYBE while going through their own Mutual Match candidates, in which you showed up.

You won't know who that person is until you rate some of your own MM candidates. If it turns out that both you and the other person have given each other YES or MAYBE ratings, then you will get an e-mail saying that this person wants to meet you on Mutual Match, and you will know who it is.

The whole process is based on not revealing anyone's identity until both people have expressed an interest in each other.

I think that's how it works, anyway!

Hi, evagoblin. LexFonteyne gives a good, accurate description of how matches come about.

As for the accounts that you see in your Mutual Match slideshow, it is not a random thing. Mutual Match certainly does not simply use accounts which have viewed your profile. Also, if you click the Match with Him button in a man's profile, your account will be added to his slideshow. This is how men outside of your preferences are getting into your slideshow.