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My fist post and I just have a few questions..
I never imagined dating in my 30s would be so much of a game..You go on a date and there is obvious chemistry..you hit it off really well..afterward you go home and its like a competition to see who will call or text first. Everyone is afraid they are going to scare someone off, afraid to say what they feel. If out send a text message longer than 3-5 words it must mean your obsessive. I just like to talk and communicate. .. men seem to flatter themselves too much thinking that if you text them a couple times a day that you are infatuated..lol.. I'm just looking for a really good friendship and not interested in a soulmate at this point. Also, as far as sex goes..I mean if you want it, you want it..and just because a woman wants it doesn't mean that she is a slut...lol I believe in being honest and upfront about what you want and hate playing these stupid games.. So answer me this, why is dating such a game? |
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if it were a "job" no one would want to do it....
Games are fun! |
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i just like to see boobs...
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I hear ya....and as far as a soul mate...I do enough damage to my soul right by myself I need no help...
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Edited by
TNLakeLady
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Mon 10/26/09 06:23 AM
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I agree.. same here. I can do enough damage
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My fist post and I just have a few questions.. I never imagined dating in my 30s would be so much of a game..You go on a date and there is obvious chemistry..you hit it off really well..afterward you go home and its like a competition to see who will call or text first. Everyone is afraid they are going to scare someone off, afraid to say what they feel. If out send a text message longer than 3-5 words it must mean your obsessive. I just like to talk and communicate. .. men seem to flatter themselves too much thinking that if you text them a couple times a day that you are infatuated..lol.. I'm just looking for a really good friendship and not interested in a soulmate at this point. Also, as far as sex goes..I mean if you want it, you want it..and just because a woman wants it doesn't mean that she is a slut...lol I believe in being honest and upfront about what you want and hate playing these stupid games.. So answer me this, why is dating such a game? I agree, you must be who you are form the first meeting and not play games, you want to call you do, you want to do this or that you do, how will someone get to know the real you if you do not do what you feel, like not calling right away because it was written somewhere (supposably experts) that it must be wrong and will scare them away or whatever. The first time you meet me I should be the same person as when we celebrate our first year together. Know me as I am today or do not know me at all. |
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Yea me too I agree..I can do that on my own..
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that is why I am a loner...I just don't play well with others...
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I understand..I like my space..I don't like someone all in my business telling me what to do and when to do it and that is why a choose a no strings attached relationship right now..
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Edited by
moonlight_ride62
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Mon 10/26/09 06:33 AM
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life is tough enough without all these freaking head games...
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You will only have games if you allow games. If you want to text a couple sentences, do it. If they don't like it, oh well. Be yourself and eventually there will be someone that comes into your life that will appreciate you for you!
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I agree with Tanya..if you're afraid to text or call then you are either over-thinking things or the guy/girl is not allowing you to.
If it's the first then calm down and be yourself. If it's the other, you probably don't want to be in a relationship that's going to be controlling |
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hey i could go for games from a woman
 it is better then watching re runs on tv.call no call one night stand.i game
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I don't know why it has to be such a game, but I do know that it is exhausting.
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I just had a major rant on my blog about this. I think its so stupid that, for instance, if a guy texts you you're 'meant' to wait a set amount of time before texting back. I refuse to do it, I reply to all my texts instantly because otherwise I forget. I'd rather do it while my phone is in my hand. If people want to play games they clearly aren't the right person for me.
I'm a believer in putting all your cards on the table, if people don't like what they see then at least you aren't wasting your time on them. |
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People are afraid.
Afraid of being hurt, yes they feel that chemistry tonight, but will they feel it next wk, next month? People are afraid of falling in love, of being vulnerable, of letting go of past relationships. Some people think they just want sex, but they really want intimacy-a close emotional connection with another person. jmho |
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The games people play...
Every night and every day... It never changes!' Just go with the flow Pick and choose carefully Just tell em... "Head games bore me!" 
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I don't know why it has to be such a game, but I do know that it is exhausting. I agree. |
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if it were a "job" no one would want to do it.... Games are fun! I think dating is fun and exciting. |
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Edited by
causality
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Mon 10/26/09 07:23 AM
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my guess is that some people never learned how to date, they are just copying what they think it is supposed to be like. my ex-wife apparently thought wedding vows were a game.
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