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Topic: is he serious???
ashley061885's photo
Wed 11/18/09 07:57 AM
ok so he hasnt been around since i was 3 months pregnant. my baby is 9 months old now and i am raising her alone. i actually see him at walmart the other day as i am gathering up the few needed items to make my spaghetti that night. he approaches me and follows me through the store wanting to tell me how much he has changed and bla bla bla then says"well can i at least pay for your food?" SERIOUSLY? AFTER 9 MONTHS OF NO HELP BUYING DIAPERS OR FORMULA OR CLOTHES OR WIPES OR FOOD U REALLY WANNA OFFER TO USE YOUR FOOD STAMPS TO BUY MY 9 DOLLARS WORTH OF STUFF?!?!?!?

tanyaann's photo
Wed 11/18/09 08:00 AM
Breath. And I hope you took his money!

As a single mother, who will probably never get child support.... if he is offering to pay or provide some support.. take it!

ashley061885's photo
Wed 11/18/09 08:01 AM

Breath. And I hope you took his money!

As a single mother, who will probably never get child support.... if he is offering to pay or provide some support.. take it!

LOOKING BACK AT IT MAYBE I SHOULD HAVE BUT I TOLD HIM H*LL NO. TGHEN STARTED YELLING THE WHOLE WHERE U BEEN FOR THE PAST 9 MONTHS AND AFTER HE GOT EMBARRASSED ENOUGH HE JUST WALKED AWAY.

tanyaann's photo
Wed 11/18/09 08:02 AM


Breath. And I hope you took his money!

As a single mother, who will probably never get child support.... if he is offering to pay or provide some support.. take it!

LOOKING BACK AT IT MAYBE I SHOULD HAVE BUT I TOLD HIM H*LL NO. TGHEN STARTED YELLING THE WHOLE WHERE U BEEN FOR THE PAST 9 MONTHS AND AFTER HE GOT EMBARRASSED ENOUGH HE JUST WALKED AWAY.


It's tough. But maybe he needed to hear that, he just might think about it and start being a father.

isaac_dede's photo
Wed 11/18/09 08:05 AM


Breath. And I hope you took his money!

As a single mother, who will probably never get child support.... if he is offering to pay or provide some support.. take it!

LOOKING BACK AT IT MAYBE I SHOULD HAVE BUT I TOLD HIM H*LL NO. TGHEN STARTED YELLING THE WHOLE WHERE U BEEN FOR THE PAST 9 MONTHS AND AFTER HE GOT EMBARRASSED ENOUGH HE JUST WALKED AWAY.

Don't punish your kids, because you're p!ssed at the dad...he was offering to help....let him.

tanyaann's photo
Wed 11/18/09 08:06 AM



Breath. And I hope you took his money!

As a single mother, who will probably never get child support.... if he is offering to pay or provide some support.. take it!

LOOKING BACK AT IT MAYBE I SHOULD HAVE BUT I TOLD HIM H*LL NO. TGHEN STARTED YELLING THE WHOLE WHERE U BEEN FOR THE PAST 9 MONTHS AND AFTER HE GOT EMBARRASSED ENOUGH HE JUST WALKED AWAY.

Don't punish your kids, because you're p!ssed at the dad...he was offering to help....let him.


You breath too!

ashley061885's photo
Wed 11/18/09 08:06 AM



Breath. And I hope you took his money!

As a single mother, who will probably never get child support.... if he is offering to pay or provide some support.. take it!

LOOKING BACK AT IT MAYBE I SHOULD HAVE BUT I TOLD HIM H*LL NO. TGHEN STARTED YELLING THE WHOLE WHERE U BEEN FOR THE PAST 9 MONTHS AND AFTER HE GOT EMBARRASSED ENOUGH HE JUST WALKED AWAY.

Don't punish your kids, because you're p!ssed at the dad...he was offering to help....let him.


how was that punishing my kid?

Ladylid2012's photo
Wed 11/18/09 08:07 AM
yep, let him help..you picked him, now live with it. At least he's offering something..some never do.

lilith401's photo
Wed 11/18/09 08:07 AM
Is there a child support order in place here?

ashley061885's photo
Wed 11/18/09 08:07 AM

yep, let him help..you picked him, now live with it. At least he's offering something..some never do.


he offered to pay for my 9 dollars worth of food that my baby cant even eat...so where is that trying to help??

ashley061885's photo
Wed 11/18/09 08:08 AM

Is there a child support order in place here?


i wouldnt waste my time....he dont keep a job long enough to pay anything out and wont stay off the pills and drugs...

tanyaann's photo
Wed 11/18/09 08:08 AM
Everyone STOP and breath!

OOOOOOMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM!


isaac_dede's photo
Wed 11/18/09 08:10 AM

how was that punishing my kid?


Because he at least right now is making an effort...I personally believe a kid has the right to BOTH parents...however, if you shut him down every time he tries...he will eventually give up...therefore you're taking your kids chance at having a relationship with their father....whether or not you want a relationship with him is irrevalent...let him have to opportunity to have a relationship with his kid. He offered to do something nice, you embarressed him because he offered to help? personally I say get over it.

ashley061885's photo
Wed 11/18/09 08:11 AM

Everyone STOP and breath!

OOOOOOMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM!





ok so i dont get how everyone here thinks i am in the wrong here. sure maybe if he had offered to buy the $60 worth of baby food i bought the day before or the money to buy a box of diapers and i had turned him down, then i would be the wrong one. but he offered to buy something that is in no way related to helping with my child!

ashley061885's photo
Wed 11/18/09 08:13 AM


how was that punishing my kid?


Because he at least right now is making an effort...I personally believe a kid has the right to BOTH parents...however, if you shut him down every time he tries...he will eventually give up...therefore you're taking your kids chance at having a relationship with their father....whether or not you want a relationship with him is irrevalent...let him have to opportunity to have a relationship with his kid. He offered to do something nice, you embarressed him because he offered to help? personally I say get over it.


personally, i say i gave him every chance o be in our life. i put up with his lying, his cheating and his drug use because i wanted my baby to be able to have both of us in her life. but i had decided enough was enough when, last yearm i found out he had stolen my sick mothers jewelry and sold it for loritabs!

isaac_dede's photo
Wed 11/18/09 08:13 AM


Everyone STOP and breath!

OOOOOOMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM!





ok so i dont get how everyone here thinks i am in the wrong here. sure maybe if he had offered to buy the $60 worth of baby food i bought the day before or the money to buy a box of diapers and i had turned him down, then i would be the wrong one. but he offered to buy something that is in no way related to helping with my child!

Because you are......he offered...even if it was little it was a step...

He tried to take a step up the stairs and you pushed him back down....

Ladylid2012's photo
Wed 11/18/09 08:13 AM


yep, let him help..you picked him, now live with it. At least he's offering something..some never do.


he offered to pay for my 9 dollars worth of food that my baby cant even eat...so where is that trying to help??



Your post didn't state his 9 dollar offer wasn't going to help...was for food your can't use.

isaac_dede's photo
Wed 11/18/09 08:13 AM



how was that punishing my kid?


Because he at least right now is making an effort...I personally believe a kid has the right to BOTH parents...however, if you shut him down every time he tries...he will eventually give up...therefore you're taking your kids chance at having a relationship with their father....whether or not you want a relationship with him is irrevalent...let him have to opportunity to have a relationship with his kid. He offered to do something nice, you embarressed him because he offered to help? personally I say get over it.


personally, i say i gave him every chance o be in our life. i put up with his lying, his cheating and his drug use because i wanted my baby to be able to have both of us in her life. but i had decided enough was enough when, last yearm i found out he had stolen my sick mothers jewelry and sold it for loritabs!

What I see here...is 'last year'

writer_gurl's photo
Wed 11/18/09 08:14 AM
If I were you, I would go to a lawyer or something and see if you can get child support:smile: You are entitled to that

isaac_dede's photo
Wed 11/18/09 08:15 AM

If I were you, I would go to a lawyer or something and see if you can get child support:smile: You are entitled to that

This I agree with for sure....

Then also if he starts to pay...maybe he really does care...at least for the kid

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