Topic: Hi all
Dro_In_Indio's photo
Sun 12/06/09 04:03 PM
Edited my profile. Shortened it up a little... but not sure... check it out and please give feedback.


Thanks in advance

Jill298's photo
Sun 12/06/09 04:59 PM
<---- loves to grill too flowerforyou

sun_devil_92's photo
Sun 12/06/09 05:12 PM
Really good profile. However, the only tweak that I might do is remove the inference to being sarcastic. To some women, they like that. However many consider it a definite turn-off.

The thing has to do with how sarcasm is conveyed. If it is back-biting to the other person and constant, then it drags down the other person and over time it can be draining to date someone who is sarcastic. Also, it might be a clue to that the person is negative in mindset, and turn-off to many.

If sarcasm is infrequently done, meant in humor, and often in self-inflicted (ie. you make yourself the target more often than others), then it can be cool. Yet, this is the paradox; by the time you explain all of this and try to convey this in a profile, women can become disinterested due to the verbose reasoning.

That's why I would leave it out.

I wish for you the best.

angelo54915's photo
Sun 12/06/09 05:14 PM
Thought you were straight to the point but I feel like it still doesnt tell enough

Jill298's photo
Sun 12/06/09 05:15 PM
hey now wait a minute... I like sarcastic and a sense of humor.

sun_devil_92's photo
Sun 12/06/09 06:09 PM
hey now wait a minute... I like sarcastic and a sense of humor.

I did say that some women do.

Dro_In_Indio's photo
Sun 12/06/09 11:24 PM
I added a little more... and defined my humorous nature a little better... =)

no photo
Sun 12/06/09 11:41 PM
Good Profile :thumbsup:

As to the sarcasm comments, there is nothing wrong with being sarcastic. It's when people are sardonic, that it's annoying and rude.

:smile:

sun_devil_92's photo
Mon 12/07/09 02:30 PM
Edited by sun_devil_92 on Mon 12/07/09 02:30 PM
As to the sarcasm comments, there is nothing wrong with being sarcastic. It's when people are sardonic, that it's annoying and rude.

Well, being sardonic is one element of it but not all. Just being negative is annoying and rude too. Yeah, there may not be an element of bitterness to it, but no one wants hang around with the Glee Club for The Cure.

OP, I guess I'm just noting it from some profiles that I saw from women that happen to note that they were straight-forward and positive. (I'm not meaning to infer that if a woman that doesn't put it in her profile is the opposite - just that I noted it from a population that had these traits) Thus I'd probably put in there (emphasis in italics):
I don't consider myself particularly good looking, but I am a very humorous guy, a little sarcastic, but never mean or negative.

Just an observation, and I wish for you the best.

MirrorMirror's photo
Mon 12/07/09 03:17 PM

Edited my profile. Shortened it up a little... but not sure... check it out and please give feedback.


Thanks in advance
smitten dreamysmitten

Dro_In_Indio's photo
Mon 12/07/09 03:26 PM
It's raining like a cow p.... nm... in this desert.... it's glorious!

Thanks for all the comments... I made a few changes...

Not Sardonic and rarely negative (I'm only human...)

sun_devil_92's photo
Mon 12/07/09 07:29 PM
You can say you have humor, or you can say something humorous, know what I mean? A lot of bio's say how they are when really, one just wants to catch a peek of who you are.

Very true. It is like the "nice" delimiter that I put in another profile feedback thread: for both "nice" and "humorous", it is used so often by people as "trigger" words for profiles to get attention that people really wonder if the person is it when they read the profile. Thus, it is better to show your "humor." (and dare I say - better to show your "sarcastic humor" rather than saying it)

In a way, it is a great way to show women what your humor really is. And besides, if they don't like it, then it is no loss to you since it meant the two of you were not a match. I had a ex-girlfriend that thought she was funny - let's just say that she wasn't, at least to me. Probably one of the main reason why we are each other's ex if you ask me.

Keep in mind my philosophy is not to find as many women as possible - it is to find the match for me. Thus take my feedback with that perspective, and I wish for you the best.