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Topic: Internet Dating
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Mon 03/01/10 09:02 AM
Do you think internet dating is just a lazy way to meet ppl? What do you think the bennies are?

velvetangel9's photo
Mon 03/01/10 09:11 AM
I think that its a way to weed out the people you wouldn't normally date anyway without hurting someone feelings. I personally don't want to pick up a bar fly I don't drink much anyway other than that theres not a whole lot of places to meet people I think. So the internet opens a whole new opportunity to meet people and talk getting to know someone before you go out. I don't think it's a lazy way at all!shades

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Mon 03/01/10 09:11 AM
Edited by TheresMyFriend on Mon 03/01/10 09:13 AM

Do you think internet dating is just a lazy way to meet ppl? What do you think the bennies are?


It's not really a "lazy" way to meet people...there are (sometimes) a lot of work that still goes into finding, searching, sorting, contacting, etc, etc.

I've been on the Net for 20+ years, (not all of that was looking for mate) and I've seen a lot of situations, and efforts (some of which have been my own) that were not successful, and some that were good to go!

I've just about come to the conclusion that it is best to look in your local area...because that IS where you are. Why put all that effort in someone, way off in another country (of which most wouldn't invest the time/expense/travel to meet anyway...and again...some would).

Bottom line...look as close to local as you can...even if it's on the Net...you never know where love will find you.

JMO-If I still have one!


glasses drinker waving

shoesmonkey's photo
Mon 03/01/10 09:14 AM


Do you think internet dating is just a lazy way to meet ppl? What do you think the bennies are?


It's not really a "lazy" way to meet people...there are (sometimes) a lot of work that still goes into finding, searching, sorting, contacting, etc, etc.

I've been on the Net for 20+ years, (not all of that was looking for mate) and I've seen a lot of situations, and efforts (some of which have been my own) that were not successful, and some that were good to go!

I've just about come to the conclusion that it is best to look in your local area...because that IS where you are. Why put all that effort in someone, way off in another country (of which most wouldn't invest the time/expense/travel to meet anyway...and again...some would).

Bottom line...look as close to local as you can...even if it's on the Net...you never know where love will find you.

JMO-If I still have one!


glasses drinker waving

You still have one and, I appreciate your input.

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Mon 03/01/10 09:15 AM
For me, it's just another way to meet people. It isn't about being lazy. It's about meeting people I may not meet in other settings. Does that mean I don't go out and meet people in person? Of course not.

skydancingA's photo
Mon 03/01/10 09:18 AM
As with everything else, the WWW opens up the world
to anyone wanting it.
Dating included.
The dating pool enlarges to huge proportions.

Swim!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If lazy, dog paddle.

LewisW123's photo
Mon 03/01/10 09:20 AM

Do you think internet dating is just a lazy way to meet ppl? What do you think the bennies are?



I don't think it's lazy. It's just a different way. Although I wouldn't make it the ONLY way you meet people.

The benefits are, you can pick and choose the people you want to contact and get to know, without ever having to leave your home.

The detriments are, eventually, you have to leave your home and meet them and find out what they are REALLY like.

Good luck with THAT.

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Mon 03/01/10 09:21 AM


Do you think internet dating is just a lazy way to meet ppl? What do you think the bennies are?



I don't think it's lazy. It's just a different way. Although I wouldn't make it the ONLY way you meet people.

The benefits are, you can pick and choose the people you want to contact and get to know, without ever having to leave your home.

The detriments are, eventually, you have to leave your home and meet them and find out what they are REALLY like.

Good luck with THAT.


You act like leaving your home is a bad thing.. laugh.

LewisW123's photo
Mon 03/01/10 09:23 AM



Do you think internet dating is just a lazy way to meet ppl? What do you think the bennies are?



I don't think it's lazy. It's just a different way. Although I wouldn't make it the ONLY way you meet people.

The benefits are, you can pick and choose the people you want to contact and get to know, without ever having to leave your home.

The detriments are, eventually, you have to leave your home and meet them and find out what they are REALLY like.

Good luck with THAT.


You act like leaving your home is a bad thing.. laugh.




No, not at all. Just that people in "real-life" are often not really how they portray themselves on the interent. So when the eventual "meet" happens, it can be kind of a let-down.

shoesmonkey's photo
Mon 03/01/10 09:23 AM



Do you think internet dating is just a lazy way to meet ppl? What do you think the bennies are?



I don't think it's lazy. It's just a different way. Although I wouldn't make it the ONLY way you meet people.

The benefits are, you can pick and choose the people you want to contact and get to know, without ever having to leave your home.

The detriments are, eventually, you have to leave your home and meet them and find out what they are REALLY like.

Good luck with THAT.


You act like leaving your home is a bad thing.. laugh.

It is if you rely on the net for too long. I want to find some new venues. I have stuck with only this for too long. IDK, maybe it doesn't matter How you meet someone. I guess it still depends on the PERSON you meet.

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Mon 03/01/10 09:27 AM




Do you think internet dating is just a lazy way to meet ppl? What do you think the bennies are?



I don't think it's lazy. It's just a different way. Although I wouldn't make it the ONLY way you meet people.

The benefits are, you can pick and choose the people you want to contact and get to know, without ever having to leave your home.

The detriments are, eventually, you have to leave your home and meet them and find out what they are REALLY like.

Good luck with THAT.


You act like leaving your home is a bad thing.. laugh.




No, not at all. Just that people in "real-life" are often not really how they portray themselves on the interent. So when the eventual "meet" happens, it can be kind of a let-down.


I guess I've been lucky, since most of the people I've met were just like they portrayed themselves to be online.

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Mon 03/01/10 09:28 AM




Do you think internet dating is just a lazy way to meet ppl? What do you think the bennies are?



I don't think it's lazy. It's just a different way. Although I wouldn't make it the ONLY way you meet people.

The benefits are, you can pick and choose the people you want to contact and get to know, without ever having to leave your home.

The detriments are, eventually, you have to leave your home and meet them and find out what they are REALLY like.

Good luck with THAT.


You act like leaving your home is a bad thing.. laugh.

It is if you rely on the net for too long. I want to find some new venues. I have stuck with only this for too long. IDK, maybe it doesn't matter How you meet someone. I guess it still depends on the PERSON you meet.


Yeah, definitely don't use a site like this as the only way you meet people. Get out there in the real world and meet others.

shoesmonkey's photo
Mon 03/01/10 09:29 AM
I'm going to complain about myself for once. I've relied on the net for far too long to find someone. I HAVE BECOME LAZY and whiny and too picky. I need to get my azz back out somewhere in the social action. And, I don't mean for the sole purpose of finding a SO.

LewisW123's photo
Mon 03/01/10 09:40 AM

I'm going to complain about myself for once. I've relied on the net for far too long to find someone. I HAVE BECOME LAZY and whiny and too picky. I need to get my azz back out somewhere in the social action. And, I don't mean for the sole purpose of finding a SO.



I would suggest getting involved in something in your community. Some type of volunteer work. Help out with a fundraiser, charity, hospital foundation, or even a 5k race. It sounds corny, like the typical "go to church, you'll meet someone there." But from my own experience, the quality of people you meet at a fundraising event or a foundation, is better than just going out to the clubs.

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Mon 03/01/10 09:41 AM
Supposedly everyone here is ready and able to date, is willing to meet, understands that some travel may be involved.

People ought to be prepared that the person they meet might not be exactly as portrayed online. That there may not be any sparks or chemistry when they finally meet face to face.

The online environment in some respects expands the available number of people to meet. In my case I work nights, in a smaller town.
That being said I have not limited myself to online dating. I have dated a couple of women form the job (bad idea), from where I attend church, and from other social activities I participate in.

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Mon 03/01/10 09:44 AM
In regards to searching & finding your S/O it is merely a tool to assist you in separating the wheat from the chaff.A weed whacker is not sufficient.laugh

Roco's photo
Mon 03/01/10 10:10 AM
there are much more cons then benefits...major con - it gives false hope to those that would ordinarily have no hope..

roko

skydancingA's photo
Mon 03/01/10 10:40 AM

In regards to searching & finding your S/O it is merely a tool to
assist you in separating the wheat from the chaff.A weed whacker is
not sufficient.laugh

hahahahahaha
I dunno.
A weedwhacker sounds verrrrry useful here.

markc48's photo
Mon 03/01/10 10:42 AM

Supposedly everyone here is ready and able to date, is willing to meet, understands that some travel may be involved.

People ought to be prepared that the person they meet might not be exactly as portrayed online. That there may not be any sparks or chemistry when they finally meet face to face.

The online environment in some respects expands the available number of people to meet. In my case I work nights, in a smaller town.
That being said I have not limited myself to online dating. I have dated a couple of women form the job (bad idea), from where I attend church, and from other social activities I participate in.
Dating people from work is always a bad idea. Sometimes it works, but usually one person loses a job.

PacificStar48's photo
Mon 03/01/10 10:47 AM
I don't think it is lazy. Personally I think it is much smarter than many of the venues that you could take to meet people.

I think a lot of paid matching sites and services are just rip offs. Going to a bar is pretty much how to find a looser.

It is easy to get distracted by people who are "safe" to talk to because they are long distance.

Being on line can be seriously stunting if it keeps you from developeing or maintaining real life friendships. They are easier. Only there when you feel like checking your computer. Delete when they feel like a drag.

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