i got this strange email from a friend her mother sneak onto her email to see who she is trying to show off to, her mom told me she allow her daughter to go buy her own clothes with her friends and she has been wearing thongs and they been showing on top of her pants and it's driving her mother crazy, she been wearing short skirts and just sexy things, so should her mother be worry, and she thinks she could be doing it for a boy from school, and my friend is just 14,,,,

Yep, society has gotten to everyone now....especially the kids. They need some type of supervision, I'm sure her and her friends hit Victoria Secret. Girls like to feel sexy and they like attention, especially at that age.

Tell her to have a rational heart-to-heart talk with her daughter and don't just let her do what she wants without her knowing.

i can tell you this.you cant watch your kids 24/7 especailly a 14yr old
my daughter snuck out of the house and that was how she was able to be with the bf when they wernt allow to be for he had turned 18, as in oregon if your 3yrs or older its declared sagitary rape..
my daughter had her son at 14(2months before she turned 15) she had her 2nd child the day before she graduated she graduated 1yr early.
she is 27yrs old now and has 3 kids. the baby is 4yrs old.
she also got married to the kids dad but she also divorced him. his own mom even said the day that they got married she would give it a yr, and she was right.

back when i was 14 i was still playing my gymnastics so i did not have that attention from the guys i was all was working out and all, so what do you think i can do for my friend

perhaps you could tell her that, if she is hanging with a nineteen year old at fourteen, she could be in too much of a hurry to grow up,,,,,,,as a friend express to her how important it is not to grow up too fast,,,

If she had not established a heart-to-heart relationship with her daughter since the kid was a child, it is not going to be easy to convince her not to do this now.

I think your friend needs to (if not already has that relationship) first establish it step by step. Then try to ask her kid not to wear that.


Most kids that had stable relationship with their moms and dads dont ask for attention from the outside.

Just a humble thought. Best luck

I tend to agree with you here.
But in all fairness,You can raise your kids up right.And they will still do as they please.

At the age of 14

Her mom has every right to take the inappropriate clothing and get rid of them. She can always talk to her first but girls that age will smile and "ok mom" you to death then leave the house in an outfit mom approves of and have someone bring her "trash wear" to school where she changes in the bathroom and starts her day while mom sits at home smiling -thinking- "what a good relationship we have"


Tough love should come into play here. I woulda burned that pile of clothes at the age of 14! Asked the school to call me if she's wearing anything inappropriate. Ya gotta watch like a hawk!!!

Now ya wonder why Chelsea has "Shes a *****" as her ringtone for me! Lol


Gotta love them kids!
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You are right, and I don't believe "in not doing something because my parent don't want me to do". I believe transparency, wisdom, and love is the way to live. Kids must understand why not to do this, and if they wanna do it, they can do it. However, there are cases when parental control should come into play. Like your friend's care, but what I wanted to say that she should focus in getting a heart-to-heart relationship (if not already established) with her daughter before trying to control her.

I think the best thing here would be to not just give her money to go buy cloth with her friends. Mom should go with.She may not like it.But is she wants new cloth,mom goes or no new cloths
That simple!

i agree with you but im wondering who'd allow a 14 yr old to hang with a 19 yr old and i have teens but they do not and are not allow to wear thongs and short anything thats "sexy" i have all girls and im a strict mom but not to the point to where my kids are hiding things from me or not being themselves. i can't explain it but my kids & me are close and yet they have their on identities & i've seen to it that no one can/should be interfering with them being proud & respectful of who they are. lol they know more is better and having more of a mind and more clothes& respect for them selves is what will lead them to greater greatness!

my friend has been getting into a lot of trouble and the clothes question was just a small part of the BIG question, i am really good friends with her sister and she is my age so that is why i know her younger sister so you understand a little more about this,

A parent needs to lead/live by example. Does mom wear thongs? Children will emulate their parents. Make sure that you are setting the example that you want your children to live by. If you want your children to respect you, you need to give them respect. Try to encourage them to befriend others who come from families with the same values as yourself. Encourage them to be involved in school activities. Good or bad, in the end they are going to make their own decisions. The most we can ever hope for is that we taught/gave them strong morals/values that will get them through those turbulent teen years.

Shoot her.

my adopted mother wears thongs well there my thongs, i guess you can say i am more like her then any thing i wear skirts all the time and pants are rare to me, back in school they did not care if i did as long as they can't see my panties they never said any thing, and i all was buy my clothes with my friends my mom is a little old fashion

thanx, I needed that...lol

hi

Teenagers like to make their own decisions and sometimes need to be steered gently in the right direction. So... sneaky, but effective...itching powder.

i agree thats my daughter she was being sneaky she went out the window to meet up with her bf who she wasent allowed to see after he turned 18
she of course got pg and had her son at 14 (2months before she turned 15)