This is what I have observed: Men and women are alike in that they don't openly declare everything that they want in a significant other. Men and women can see this trait in others, but they can't see that they have it, too.

That's about the size of it.

So, what I have done is to try to make it EXTREMELY clear about what I'm looking for, AND what I'm NOT looking for. I want to make sure there's no ambiguity about this at all, which is one reason my profile is 1400 pages long. (The other reason is I don't seem to have any ability to know when to stop writing.)

The thing that bugs me is that most of the 48,992,045,772,693 women's profiles I've read really don't say anything meaningful or relevant about what they're looking for. "I want an intelligent guy" is profilese for "I saw this in a thousand other profiles and it looks OK so I'm going to steal it" along with "I'm laid back and easy going," "long walks on the beach," "I love my friends and family," "I like to go out or stay in," "I'm shy at first but I open up once I get to know you," and blah blah blah blah blah blah.

I once wrote in a poem somewhere that I'd get better information about these women by throwing a dart at a list of adjectives on a wall.

But I don't want to have to slog through a trillion boring vapid empty profiles just to find out that the writers have no more substance than their output does.

So, when I see "I want an intelligent guy," I'm skeptical. Well, I'm skeptical even before that, but now I'm MORE skeptical.