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Topic: Dating tips
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Fri 09/24/10 06:28 PM
What are some good Dating tips for a women who is recently Divorced after being married for 10 yrs or more and is starting to date again?

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Fri 09/24/10 06:28 PM
dont take any crap from anyone...
shades

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Fri 09/24/10 06:36 PM
how about "don't date the same person 2 times in a row" for at least the first 3 years after the divorce is final. Sometimes the promise of a relationship "helps" you overlook little nagging thoughts about someone. You know we'll he/she seems very assertive.. which there's a little inner voice screaming in your head not assertive but an A** hole

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Fri 09/24/10 06:42 PM

how about "don't date the same person 2 times in a row" for at least the first 3 years after the divorce is final. Sometimes the promise of a relationship "helps" you overlook little nagging thoughts about someone. You know we'll he/she seems very assertive.. which there's a little inner voice screaming in your head not assertive but an A** hole


Good advice.... I think this translates nicely to any type of and duration of relationship that just ended!

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Sat 09/25/10 01:30 PM
I am *bumping* this because I think it's a good topic!

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Sat 09/25/10 01:34 PM
My One rule!

If she doesn't get along with her family... I'm out

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Sat 09/25/10 01:42 PM

My One rule!

If she doesn't get along with her family... I'm out


I've heard that before.. Why?

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Sat 09/25/10 01:43 PM


My One rule!

If she doesn't get along with her family... I'm out


I've heard that before.. Why?


I think.... one reason is if you can't problem solve with your family, how are you going to be able to within a relationship.

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Sat 09/25/10 01:45 PM



My One rule!

If she doesn't get along with her family... I'm out


I've heard that before.. Why?


I think.... one reason is if you can't problem solve with your family, how are you going to be able to within a relationship.


Hmm ok that's interesting but still not a reason to not date someone... What if the family is horrid and the person just stays away for their own survival/sanity?

I look forward to reading about this... Have to run to the store.. flowerforyou

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Sat 09/25/10 01:58 PM
Edited by tanyaann on Sat 09/25/10 01:58 PM




My One rule!

If she doesn't get along with her family... I'm out


I've heard that before.. Why?


I think.... one reason is if you can't problem solve with your family, how are you going to be able to within a relationship.


Hmm ok that's interesting but still not a reason to not date someone... What if the family is horrid and the person just stays away for their own survival/sanity?

I look forward to reading about this... Have to run to the store.. flowerforyou


Personally, I agree with you.

My step-mother is beyond crazy!

And, I don't have much of a relationship (or at least) close with my mother's side of the family because she didn't like her side of the family.
While, we are on my mother... she decided to run away from her life and problems by moving to Ireland and haven't heard from her since.

So, I think it is never good to exclude someone on one thing (most of the time... ya know, unless they don't get along with their family because they murdered them or something lol).

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Sat 09/25/10 02:01 PM




My One rule!

If she doesn't get along with her family... I'm out


I've heard that before.. Why?


I think.... one reason is if you can't problem solve with your family, how are you going to be able to within a relationship.


Hmm ok that's interesting but still not a reason to not date someone... What if the family is horrid and the person just stays away for their own survival/sanity?

I look forward to reading about this... Have to run to the store.. flowerforyou


Generally, if the family is horrid... there's a really good chance she/he is too.
There is a distinct link between failed marriages and failed families IMO. Reminds me of a song.

"Girls will become lovers and mothers... So mothers be good to your daughters too"

Have a great weekend everyone!

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Sat 09/25/10 03:35 PM
I have to disagree with you John..

I mean yeah in a lot of cases you're probably right but in a lot you're not... there are plenty of really great people that have overcome an awful family life...


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Sat 09/25/10 03:50 PM

I have to disagree with you John..

I mean yeah in a lot of cases you're probably right but in a lot you're not... there are plenty of really great people that have overcome an awful family life...




I agree, as a matter of fact Ive been lucky to know a few "survivors"...they are great people, despite their family of origin.

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Sat 09/25/10 04:39 PM
Be yourself?

Don't know, it's always worked for me.

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Sat 09/25/10 07:20 PM


I have to disagree with you John..

I mean yeah in a lot of cases you're probably right but in a lot you're not... there are plenty of really great people that have overcome an awful family life...




I agree, as a matter of fact Ive been lucky to know a few "survivors"...they are great people, despite their family of origin.



Ladies :heart:
My post had nothing to do with violence or emotional trauma.

I was talking more of a bickering, sibling competing and financial pettiness..... kinda way. "Don't get along" to me, means exactly that. Sorry for the confusion. flowerforyou

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Sat 09/25/10 07:27 PM
Well I was talking about the same as you in addition to the other.. I walked away from most of my family.. Why? Because I get to choose how I'm treated and I won't be used or mistreated.. I've been married and divorced twice.. Why? B/c I made the wrong decisions when I was young.. I've grown up and will never make those mistakes again.. I don't really care if those things make people not want to date me but it "does not" mean that I have issues.. It means that I don't deal with bs and will stay away from it.. I like my life drama free..

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Sat 09/25/10 07:36 PM

Well I was talking about the same as you in addition to the other.. I walked away from most of my family.. Why? Because I get to choose how I'm treated and I won't be used or mistreated.. I've been married and divorced twice.. Why? B/c I made the wrong decisions when I was young.. I've grown up and will never make those mistakes again.. I don't really care if those things make people not want to date me but it "does not" mean that I have issues.. It means that I don't deal with bs and will stay away from it.. I like my life drama free..


I'd date you love

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Sat 09/25/10 07:53 PM


Well I was talking about the same as you in addition to the other.. I walked away from most of my family.. Why? Because I get to choose how I'm treated and I won't be used or mistreated.. I've been married and divorced twice.. Why? B/c I made the wrong decisions when I was young.. I've grown up and will never make those mistakes again.. I don't really care if those things make people not want to date me but it "does not" mean that I have issues.. It means that I don't deal with bs and will stay away from it.. I like my life drama free..


I'd date you love


laugh laugh laugh Thanks John..

Um doesn't that blow your theory though?:wink:

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Sat 09/25/10 07:56 PM
drinks





My One rule!

If she doesn't get along with her family... I'm out


I've heard that before.. Why?


I think.... one reason is if you can't problem solve with your family, how are you going to be able to within a relationship.


Hmm ok that's interesting but still not a reason to not date someone... What if the family is horrid and the person just stays away for their own survival/sanity?

I look forward to reading about this... Have to run to the store.. flowerforyou


Generally, if the family is horrid... there's a really good chance she/he is too.
There is a distinct link between failed marriages and failed families IMO. Reminds me of a song.

"Girls will become lovers and mothers... So mothers be good to your daughters too"

Have a great weekend everyone!


I agree completely! Given that the family is resonably normal, and given that we all know that all families have issues - they r also the people you spent a good bit - if not most of ur life with. Within the "fam" ones learns to love, forgive, teach, learn. cooperate and other skills transferrable to a relationship

I love my family - they r everything to me

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Sat 09/25/10 07:57 PM



Well I was talking about the same as you in addition to the other.. I walked away from most of my family.. Why? Because I get to choose how I'm treated and I won't be used or mistreated.. I've been married and divorced twice.. Why? B/c I made the wrong decisions when I was young.. I've grown up and will never make those mistakes again.. I don't really care if those things make people not want to date me but it "does not" mean that I have issues.. It means that I don't deal with bs and will stay away from it.. I like my life drama free..


I'd date you love


laugh laugh laugh Thanks John..

Um doesn't that blow your theory though?:wink:



Ummm No not really...You chose to distance yourself from it :wink: drinker When you were married, you were communicating with them Yes? just curious

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