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Do you have the same friends since from when you were in diapers? Nope, I've moved around enough that there is practically nobody I know who I've known for more than a short time. And the only exceptions are people I very rarely talk to. Did you assimilate to an area as a young adult (call it home)? No, there has never really been anyplace I thought of as home. And I never stayed in any one place very long. I moved away from my parents' home at 15. Do your folks still live in the same house? They've been dead for years. Do you have a friend who could embarrass the *%^& out of you, but wouldn't ever!!!? No one is that close to me. Honest answers Lex! Have you (really) made peace with this (more than intellectually)? I'd like to think so, but there are days when I'm really not convinced. Rationally, I have to fall back on "it is what it is" because I can't go back and change it. I'll admit there's a part of me that would love to know what it's like to actually feel close to someone for more than a few months, but it all seems very unlikely. You know you say this often in one way or another and I always wonder why. You are smart, funny, handsome and talented. I would think you could take your pick. Perhaps you have expectations that even the best of us can't live up to??? Or maybe you just haven't met HER yet. |
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 DUDE!!!! Get the !!!! out of Kansas!!!!   Shut the !!!! UP Dean!!!!
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Do you have the same friends since from when you were in diapers? Nope, I've moved around enough that there is practically nobody I know who I've known for more than a short time. And the only exceptions are people I very rarely talk to. Did you assimilate to an area as a young adult (call it home)? No, there has never really been anyplace I thought of as home. And I never stayed in any one place very long. I moved away from my parents' home at 15. Do your folks still live in the same house? They've been dead for years. Do you have a friend who could embarrass the *%^& out of you, but wouldn't ever!!!? No one is that close to me. Honest answers Lex! Have you (really) made peace with this (more than intellectually)? I'd like to think so, but there are days when I'm really not convinced. Rationally, I have to fall back on "it is what it is" because I can't go back and change it. I'll admit there's a part of me that would love to know what it's like to actually feel close to someone for more than a few months, but it all seems very unlikely. You know you say this often in one way or another and I always wonder why. You are smart, funny, handsome and talented. I would think you could take your pick. Perhaps you have expectations that even the best of us can't live up to??? Or maybe you just haven't met HER yet. Well, the scenario is almost always the same -- someone comes into my life, seems to be drawn to me in a big way. They become a presence, they say things like "I love everything about you," they start out fun and interesting -- the best part of my past relationships has almost always been the process of getting to know all about them. But after a few months, "I love everything about you" morphs into "Now I need to change everything about you," and the demands begin; subtly, under-the-radar at first, but gradually more and more overt and vociferous. I need to be "fixed," altered, changed into someone traditional, compliant to the "norm," whatever that is. The one person I met who didn't fit snugly into this pattern had other emotional stability issues that have led to ten years of an on-and-off-back-and-forth series of entanglements which, frankly, I've grown tired of. But she is still -- even after all these years -- the only one who has the intellect, the creativity, and the sheer individuality to retain my interest. The odds of my finding another person who is intelligent, creative, AND who won't feel the need to change me, seem astronomical. I don't realistically expect to meet such a person. |
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Do you have the same friends since from when you were in diapers? Nope, I've moved around enough that there is practically nobody I know who I've known for more than a short time. And the only exceptions are people I very rarely talk to. Did you assimilate to an area as a young adult (call it home)? No, there has never really been anyplace I thought of as home. And I never stayed in any one place very long. I moved away from my parents' home at 15. Do your folks still live in the same house? They've been dead for years. Do you have a friend who could embarrass the *%^& out of you, but wouldn't ever!!!? No one is that close to me. Honest answers Lex! Have you (really) made peace with this (more than intellectually)? I'd like to think so, but there are days when I'm really not convinced. Rationally, I have to fall back on "it is what it is" because I can't go back and change it. I'll admit there's a part of me that would love to know what it's like to actually feel close to someone for more than a few months, but it all seems very unlikely. You know you say this often in one way or another and I always wonder why. You are smart, funny, handsome and talented. I would think you could take your pick. Perhaps you have expectations that even the best of us can't live up to??? Or maybe you just haven't met HER yet. Well, the scenario is almost always the same -- someone comes into my life, seems to be drawn to me in a big way. They become a presence, they say things like "I love everything about you," they start out fun and interesting -- the best part of my past relationships has almost always been the process of getting to know all about them. But after a few months, "I love everything about you" morphs into "Now I need to change everything about you," and the demands begin; subtly, under-the-radar at first, but gradually more and more overt and vociferous. I need to be "fixed," altered, changed into someone traditional, compliant to the "norm," whatever that is. The one person I met who didn't fit snugly into this pattern had other emotional stability issues that have led to ten years of an on-and-off-back-and-forth series of entanglements which, frankly, I've grown tired of. But she is still -- even after all these years -- the only one who has the intellect, the creativity, and the sheer individuality to retain my interest. The odds of my finding another person who is intelligent, creative, AND who won't feel the need to change me, seem astronomical. I don't realistically expect to meet such a person. Ah Lex, you gotta believe. For very different reasons I don't expect to meet anyone either. Our difference is that at this time in my life I don't care BUT you do. I might someday. I have total faith that there is a life partner out there for you, someone who won't want to change the things that don't need changing! |
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Do you have the same friends since from when you were in diapers? Nope, I've moved around enough that there is practically nobody I know who I've known for more than a short time. And the only exceptions are people I very rarely talk to. Did you assimilate to an area as a young adult (call it home)? No, there has never really been anyplace I thought of as home. And I never stayed in any one place very long. I moved away from my parents' home at 15. Do your folks still live in the same house? They've been dead for years. Do you have a friend who could embarrass the *%^& out of you, but wouldn't ever!!!? No one is that close to me. Honest answers Lex! Have you (really) made peace with this (more than intellectually)? I'd like to think so, but there are days when I'm really not convinced. Rationally, I have to fall back on "it is what it is" because I can't go back and change it. I'll admit there's a part of me that would love to know what it's like to actually feel close to someone for more than a few months, but it all seems very unlikely. You know you say this often in one way or another and I always wonder why. You are smart, funny, handsome and talented. I would think you could take your pick. Perhaps you have expectations that even the best of us can't live up to??? Or maybe you just haven't met HER yet. Well, the scenario is almost always the same -- someone comes into my life, seems to be drawn to me in a big way. They become a presence, they say things like "I love everything about you," they start out fun and interesting -- the best part of my past relationships has almost always been the process of getting to know all about them. But after a few months, "I love everything about you" morphs into "Now I need to change everything about you," and the demands begin; subtly, under-the-radar at first, but gradually more and more overt and vociferous. I need to be "fixed," altered, changed into someone traditional, compliant to the "norm," whatever that is. The one person I met who didn't fit snugly into this pattern had other emotional stability issues that have led to ten years of an on-and-off-back-and-forth series of entanglements which, frankly, I've grown tired of. But she is still -- even after all these years -- the only one who has the intellect, the creativity, and the sheer individuality to retain my interest. The odds of my finding another person who is intelligent, creative, AND who won't feel the need to change me, seem astronomical. I don't realistically expect to meet such a person. Ah Lex, you gotta believe. For very different reasons I don't expect to meet anyone either. Our difference is that at this time in my life I don't care BUT you do. I might someday. I have total faith that there is a life partner out there for you, someone who won't want to change the things that don't need changing! Thanks, and I truly appreciate the assessment about my being "smart, funny, handsome and talented." Just doesn't seem that this is what they're looking for.... |
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