So I met this girl last spring in one of my classes. One day I got to class early and was minding my own business. Anyways this cute girl comes in and there were chairs all around me open but she sat down right next to me. Anyways I proceed to introduce myself and we chatted. So the rest of th term we would sit together and talk. Just general stuff. How our weekends were, homework stuff like that. But I had a girl I was ind of seeing at the time and just wasn't really intreste in this girl that much. At the end of school though I added her on facebook and she went back home which is about 3hrs away for the summer.

Anyways fast forward and about 2 months ago or maybe a little less she messages me on facebook out of the blue saying

"Hey whats your cell #"

We talked occassionally on facebook some but never alot. Anyways we started texting each other and if I don't text her for a few days she'll always message me and if I reply she'll generally mssage me all day. The thing is is I've started liking this girl alot. Like really think she might be gf material. It's just hard to tell how she's feeling though. She is single but we've only been txting this summer and havent seen each other at all since school. When we text we basically just talk about each others day or whats going on. But I dont know since we havent ever really talked about dating or anything I never know how flirty to be.

I mentioned today that I was going to try and have a party before school. And she messaged back saying "we'll dont have until after the 1st"
And I asked her whys that and she said "because maybe I want to come :P and my roomate too" I dont know. Shes a really cool girl. But the thing is is I dont know if shes interested in me as in dating or as a friend. She doesnt know a whole lot of people here I dont think and Im one of the few she does. So I dont know if she wants to be friends when she gets back or if she likes me more than that.

Would it b wrong of me to ask her if shes into me or how should I go about it?

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This could go a few ways
She may like you (like a bf) and is trying to feel out the situation
She may be developing a friendship, because you hit it off so well
She may just be a very friendly person

I am assuming since your here and asking this question- that you no longer have the mentioned gf?

If you have the party invite her, See how she reacts to you in a social setting. Then maybe ask her out for something casual like Lunch, coffee. Then see how things go. Don't expect too much, let them happen. If its meant to be ----it will.
At the most you have a new gf. At the least you have a great new friend.
Besides it makes relationships better when you happen to be friends as well as in love.

Good Luck my friend.

We'll hopefully she interested in me more than a friend! Its just kind of confusing because alot of things would point that she is interested in me. I mean her sitting next to me, messaging me out of the blue, texting me each day if I dont say hi.

But then again yea like Ive honestly never hungout with her outside of school and weve only been texting so far this summer.....I really feel like I should be more flirty texting but my txting is kind of sucky and I really dont know how with her.

Ill get to see her next week hopefully. And hopefully be able to feel her out better then...I mentioned I was out driving around with a friend. And she replied saying

"I love cruising :) its basically a hobby haha"

Genereally Id respond with something like
"We'll we will definitely hav to go cruising one day when your back ;)"

But is ther any way to be even flirtier with it?

I mean what is so wrong with asking. I personally have never given anyone attention that I was not interested in at least in some way. I just think you should ask. The thing is no matter what anyone says, it is always going to be a risk. If you risk nothing then you will get nothing, so ask the girl out and Good luck :)

Thanks for your reply! I appreciat anyone taking the time too.
Well she had just messaged me saying

"we should hangout sometime :)"

And I replied with

"We will ;) Ill have to take you out when you get back"

And she said

":) I like that idea"

lol so hopefully thats a good sign. Once shes back in the city next week hopeuflly we can hangout and I can see how things are.

It seems you are getting all green lights form this girl. So try for it. Besides a little flirting never hurt anyone. Her responses sound like she's interested-- So don't be afraid--Go for it!!
Good Luck and keep us posted.

Dude!

What does the girl have to do?

Hit ya over the head with something?

Yes she is into you.

Haha well I hope your right! Once she's back Ill take her on a date. She's one of the first girls in a while I would consider actually dating. Lol thats saying something. So hopefully your right, Im interested to see how things can go between her and me.

"Let's Hang Out." - The Dragon Warrior

Guy, dont forget to give us an update on these love story.
goodluck

well clearly she is into you or she wouldn't bother. I mean it's one thing to talk to someone in class - it's another to be texting all day while you're apart. That is more than polite friendship. I just do not think you should do anything about escalating things unless you have broken things off with the other girlfriend as how you are (mis)handling things now is not fair to either of them. Once you are free & clear call her. It's more personal than texting, and ask her if she'd consider spending some time with you & pick something to do that you'd both enjoy and ask her to join you -nothing complicated- maybe a day hike or a bike ride & coffee, but something that is just the two of you. (In addition to the party invitation)

just my thought since you asked.

really

I'd have prolly given up by now....

Ill definitely tell you guys how it goes. Hopefully I have something good to report lol.

haha damn I didnt realize it was that obvious........I must be oblivious or something.

I agree. I think calling someone shows a higher level confidence and just overall is a better way of communicating. But yea Im definitely going to take her out once shes back..And to clarify Ive been single a while now. So no worries I dont have a girlfriend at the moment!

no ur a guy

that is synonomous with oblivious

hay it's OK - just a suggestion as a lot of people DO play the field

I was merely suggesting it cuz u sounded fairly serious about schoolgirl and just don;t mess it up by havin' y'alls ex drama & shyte

sounds like u got it covered tho

For what it's worth....I think she is being rather obvious. However, sometimes we don't immediately recognize the obvious because we over-analyze the situation.

Texting vs. phone call...

She's feeling things out, trying to get close while maintaining some form of detachment. She's looking for an "in" without trying to get too close too quick. She's letting it build for when you see her again.

If you want it, go for it. She made the first move.

Anyhow, this has all been covered already. I just happened to stumble on the thread.

If it was me in the same situation, I would have had the same exact thoughts you did. Been there a few times, and even had to tell a few that I wasn't interested in being more than friends. Of course, that was after I had spent a few months sorting it out inside my own head first. I don't like guessing games, so eventually I have to just buck up and roll the dice.

She's giving you all the signs, bro! There are still females out there who are just waiting for the guy to make the first move. With all the talking you two have done, I'm sure you're aware of her interests...ask her out! what do you have to lose?! If she's into you, great. If she declines, well hey, you still have a cool friend :)))

The ex is history! And while I will still talk to other girls even if Im dating. I would never cheat or do anything dishonest.