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I understand where he's coming from and I get what he means, but I don't agree with it. At least not all of it. Men and women both do it. Most of the time for the wrong reason. Before anyone, (male or female) decide to have sex, think about what you want, if you think you'll have the opportunity to get what you want out of it or not. I would say not to unless the person adds value to your life, but then you would be dating, and there would be no concern of whether or not they would still be there in 3 weeks. If a person adds any value to your life, it automatically means you're dating? |
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Its not always a bad thing it really depends on the girl I guess. Waiting until you both feel comfortable with it is fine. If they want a relationship and not just hit it and quit it I don't think it would be a problem. I guess the tricky part is figuring out what kind of guy they are.
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at my age, a relationship without a committment is a relationship without sex - I dont sleep with anyone unless I truely like them and hope it will be an eternity. I love sex, dont get me wrong, but once you lost the sex you better hope you are a good conversatoinist.
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well then whats the point if theyre just gona go on mingle and try to hook up with other girls anyway.....im a jealous girl and dont like sharing...if your gonna date me, dont try and date other girls please. it hurts my feelings. :(
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Edited by
iam4u
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Fri 01/20/12 11:46 PM
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well then whats the point if theyre just gona go on mingle and try to hook up with other girls anyway.....im a jealous girl and dont like sharing...if your gonna date me, dont try and date other girls please. it hurts my feelings. :( I THINK they should make love right off the bat,,I mean YES THE FIRST DATE... WHY? Because THEN,,they KNOW how the other in in and with THAT So as we date and build up to THAT moment,,and we share that romantic closeness with them,,and THEN they decide to move on,,or away from you because they found THAT in you lacking in SOME area of it.. SO I SAY,, Do away with waiting anf FIND THAT OUT SOON,,,THEN if THATS ALL GOOD,,,No time was wasted as NOW,,YOUR BOTH GROWING TOGETHER AS A COUPLE,,NOT,,APART.. I have dated weeks and months,,,them BAM,,have sex and find out,,,something wasn't right,,OR,,THEY just wanted to do ya,,,and EVEN IF THATS IT,,,,First date,,ITS DONE.....lol |
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For me sex shouldn't be an issue if someone truly values u.if he tastes it once he wil definitly ask for more,if he truly want to keep you he should be patient enough to wait.
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well then whats the point if theyre just gona go on mingle and try to hook up with other girls anyway.....im a jealous girl and dont like sharing...if your gonna date me, dont try and date other girls please. it hurts my feelings. :( Exactly, you just need to know their true intentions. That is why I think timing doesn't matter. If you are both into each other and your intentions are the same then you would be waiting just for the sake of waiting. Of course no one likes to be played and some people wait to see if they are being played or not. Don't do anything before you are ready but try not to stress out to much over it either. Is this a hypothetical or an actual situation you are in? |
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unfortunately - like it or not - you defintely risk losing him id u sleep with him right away not a value judgement - it is what it is - a double standard mostly - but as far as I can see it's alive & well so if u don't care if it goes anywhere ur fine to do that if YOU can live with that but if you want a future with him, it's best to wait - at least till you know if he is trustworthy and REALLY single - even better wait long enuff to see if he is relationship material himself If you're holding out on sex to find out if he's trustworthy, do you think most will actually stick around? That's a game as well. I say do what you're comfortable with. If you're comfortable enough with someone to have sex early on, go for it. If you really need to wait it out, then do so. Either way, it may or may not work out how you want it to work out. There's a happy medium. To soon and he can loose interest. To long and he'll think you're not interested or playing games. WHEN YOU BOTH ARE READY. |
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Sexual relationships aren't worth it. To some they are fun, appear to be but in the end, you'll crave for more always. We're all wired the same in that sense. 
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