To me it means for better or for worse. There is only one reason I would divorce or break up with someone. I have yet to meet a woman that can be that committed. It's not for better or for better.

Agreed. I'm not sure how realistic that is, though. In my experience, people say this sort of thing all the time, but rarely (if ever) actually stick to it.



Commitments, as presented to me, have always been initially dishonest, and ultimately highly manipulative. It's "for better or worse" as long as I fit into some generic, suffocating, pre-defined paradigm of what a man in a relationship is supposed to be and/or do. Of course, this is never presented up front.

commitment , to me, is a MUTUAL loyalty and devotion to each other

I would not stay with someone who could not be devoted or loyal, it would be trying to commit to a non commitment,, in my opinion

Well in my own words, committment is a simple way of just proving ur love to each other. If u can be committed to ur work then u must be committed to ur man or woman as well.

true, but even such a basic 'commitment' is contingent upon what one receives

I doubt people would commit to their job if it stopped paying them,,because that 'return' is an expected part of the commitment

much like loyalty and fidelity are expected by most people in their personal 'commitments'

Commitment is something most women are good at and most men are not. IMHO

For better OR worse? No, commitment is...for better AND worse. You know that you would stay and work through the worse to get back to the better.

Its not ever greener on the other side of the fence, just different crapola.

I have to agree with Lex on this one as well. Commitment leaves me puzzled.
It seems to be viewed in many different ways. You may be committed to someone however, that someone becomes something else or does something unimaginable...what is one to do then?
Where is it ok to say "I will not allow this" ... ?
It is scary to commit.

yes, many of us see commitment as a two way requirement, and others see it as only requiring one,,,,,

After my last temper tantrum commitment means, "Don't shoot the messenger". We have come to fragile cease fire arrangement. The lines of communication have been reopened. I have been able to give my report without being interrogated in exchange for the request that I lose my attitude. I don't usually negotiate with terrorists because I don't like being manipulated. The bargaining tables are open again. We have comes to the terms of agreement that we are both just trying to do our jobs. I have been able to go back to my original idea of walk softly but carry a feather in exchange for first shift getting off my back. I am no longer required to be a miracle worker and do the impossible. We have both come to the understanding that we are just human and to err is divine.

Commitment is following making good on your promises, whatever they may be and to whomever you make them.....

Well I was there for the better AND WORSE. However, vows and committment require two people. Not just one making all the effort.
With that said, I am still a romantic at heart, just a bit wiser.

Pure and Simple