are all me playing a game online i seem to find nice guys and then they end up saying they got somone either a wife or a gf or just plain baggage they cant handle...... you tell them what your looking forand then they seemok then throw it at you months down the line...... i give up lol

Welcome to the site. Not all are like that. Wishing you the best of luck in your search here.

I feel the same way.Forever a hopless romantic.

I know this game... Just like some women, some men like to feel like they're still desirable. I've never done this myself... But I have buddies that have done this. There are three reasons men will do this. One... They're no longer happy with the woman they're with and they're looking for someone else to "Trade-off" on. Another... They just want sex. Something different from what they're apparently used to and bored with, so they find someone to cheat with. The third... Are the most of the insecure. They lead a girl on via dating sites, pretending they're single. They're looking to get emotionally from this online relationship they seem to be lacking in their actual relationship. When they either get what they wanted, or they feel guilty about it all... so they come clean and tell the internet girl about their actual relationship... Hoping they'll be hurt/pissed and leave. There is one other possibility. I have used this one. If the girl they're talking to becomes emotionally enamored soo severely that subtle gestures and hints that they're an obsessive maniac, They'll just say they have a girlfriend to get them to leave them alone. I have on more than one occasion told someone I had a girlfriend. That's only when it gets to drastic measures and they don't know how to accept "NO". To some women... Having a girlfriend is the only thing that will stop them after being told repeatedly "NO".

Welcome to mingle2.
Not all people are the same.

And I thought finding a good woman was like looking for a needle in a haystack! lol Don't give up, there are good decent men (and women for me) out there who truly want to find someone for a forever relationship. These online forums are very similar to a used car lot or flea market, a lot of lookers but only a few takers. It truly is a numbers game so don't be disheartened. Your luck will change.