Navygirl..I agree too...It can be a way to protect their ego...I also agree with what you wrote awhile back when it comes to men who call and "market themselves" as "nice."...Do you call or refer to yourself as "nice" very often or boast and brag about being "nice?" I don't!..And I get nervous if someone starts calling me "nice" all the time..I usually protest and tell them that I'm not really a "saint" or perfect person. And I may start pointing out my flaws to get my point across. How about you?

navygirl..Doesn't it seem like boasting and bragging to go on and on about being "nice?" I admire men (and women) who try to "own-up" to what they might have done differently (themselves) in their past marriages or relationships...I've done this myself so I won't keep making the same mistakes over and over again...My husband did the same thing on his own before we met..He didn't blame his first wife for all the problems. He looked at mistakes he felt he made too...We all make mistakes. And everyone who crosses our path isn't going to fall madly in love with us...In the past some guys "felt more" for me than I "felt" for them and vica-versa...I didn't throw a tantrum and get stuck in the "blame mode" just because they didn't have deeper feelings for me...I didn't insist that I was "good" and "nice" and "perfect." And label them "bad" or "stupid" for not falling in love with me.