Topic: How to start conversations with the opposite sex in a bar
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Sat 02/02/13 02:09 AM
Edited by Eli13 on Sat 02/02/13 02:11 AM
This has always been a mystery to me. I have seen women across a bar and wanted to talk to them but normally have been too self conscious to break the ice.

I would love to know the best ways of sparking up conversation, without suggesting any ulterior motive. The standard "do you come here often?" is far too cheesy and a complement is often received as a "I fancy you and want to get in your knickers".

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Sat 02/02/13 07:29 PM
don't worry about "suggesting an ulterior motive" you DO have an ulterior motive and, trust me, she knows this. So quit worrying about it. Try "hello" can I buy you a drink, want to play pool, shoot darts......etc And, right , asking a bunch of stupid questions is just setting your self up for stupid answers - so don't be a cliche

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Sat 02/02/13 09:03 PM
A lot of times I tried but could never get past being asked by a woman,"What rock did you crawl out from?" Then one day, I knew how to answer that. Sure enough, that very night one asked me that and I showed her my bag that had a big rock in it. I put it on her table and left. The whole place went into laughter. Nasty, impolite and uncivilized wench. It made my day and evening....laugh

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Sat 02/02/13 09:33 PM
It is very simple. You say hello and introduce yourself. You may get a rude or nonresponse from her, in that case, just excuse yourself. Yet, there is always the alternative, that you will have initiated a romance or at the very least a pleasurable conversation/companion for the night as you drink your Jack, Jim or Jose.