Topic: 10 turnoffs to make a great gals wave goodbye
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Sun 08/12/07 11:16 AM
Just so the guys didn't feel left out, there was one for them too.
Great Gal Turnoff #1: Showboat Sammy
Maybe he owns a yacht off the coast of France. Maybe he has a timeshare in the Hamptons. Maybe his annual bonus is bigger than most guys' salaries. That's all well and good, but does it really need to be divulged on the first date?

Great Gal Turnoff #2: Messy Melvin
A-list celebrities can pull off the unkempt look. First-daters need to pay attention to shaving, clothing and bad breath. If the guy can't even put in the effort for a first impression, it doesn't bode well down the road.

Great Gal Turnoff #3: Rude Ricky
"Where's our drinks, lady?" If a guy treats the service staff with a lack of respect, a great gal will likely assume he'll do the same to her someday.
The last thing anyone wants is to be talked down to or disrespected.

Great Gal Turnoff #4: Cheapie Charlie
There will always be debate about who should pay on a first date. Some guys are traditionalists and want to foot the bill; others expect a 50-50 monetary split. In most cases, offering to pay is the way to go. Let her pick up the tab on a future date.

Great Gal Turnoff #5: Still-Married Michael
Marriage, separation and divorce are pretty cut-and-dry terms. If a guy says he's separated when he really means he's cheating on his wife, it's going to cause trouble. Be honest from the get-go and let the dating chips fall where they may.

Great Gal Turnoff #6: Hands-On Howie
Guys need to read the signals before assuming hand holding, massaging and other touchy-feely activities have the green light.
Jumping too quickly to any form of intimacy can make any guy seem too aggressive.

Great Gal Turnoff #7: Stereotyping Stephen
"Oh, you're one of those types of women." Jumping to conclusions about a date from the way she answers one or two questions is a definite mistake. Let the date unfold before making assumptions about someone you just met.

Great Gal Turnoff #8: Distracted David
His cell phone is ringing constantly, he's popping away from the table every 10 minutes, and he keeps interrupting the conversation flow. First dates require focused attention -- that means putting the phone on vibrate, making eye contact and being present.

Great Gal Turnoff #9: All-Business Barry
Some guys are great salesmen or outstanding negotiators. But there's a time and place for business and a time and place for leisure. Guys who treat first dates like business transactions will never close the deal.

Great Gal Turnoff #10: Nervous Ned
He can't sit still, he's banging his fork on the table, and he won't make eye contact for more than three seconds. Nervous antics are a real turnoff and make a great gal think a guy has something to hide. Work out the nervous kinks before the date starts.

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Sun 08/12/07 11:18 AM
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Sun 08/12/07 11:25 AM
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Sun 08/12/07 11:35 AM
It's amazing what you find when you are bored out of your mind and surfing the net, lol.

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Mon 08/13/07 03:04 AM
Most of the things you wrote are probably true. But, I don't think that #10 is remotely in the ballpark for some of us. I am one of the guys who has trouble looking a girl in the eyes in the beginning. It has nothing to do with having anything to hide!! Some of us are extremely shy and unsure in an intimate setting(i.e date) I conveyed this fact to the wonderful and understanding lady that I spent easily 100 hrs on the phone with before we met and I was still too nervous to look her in the eye. But now that we've spent some serious time together I'm much better about it. But I'll always have the issue. It's just the way I am. Again it has nothing to do with Cheating, Lies or any other sort of antics. Sometimes you need to cut us a little slack and get to know the reason why we do some of the things we do. Don't rush to judgement. It could very well be your loss by doing so.

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Mon 08/13/07 08:51 AM
I don't view these as judgements, but as things to be aware of.

Silkbutterfli's photo
Mon 08/13/07 08:54 AM
I didn't write the article, just thought I would share. It was posted on Yahoo's dating information.
It doesn't mean anyone is any one particular personality, just something to watch for.
Good luck guys!
There is one for the ladies too.

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Thu 08/16/07 12:20 AM
I agree with Ron... It has taken me about 5 yrs to be able to look people in the eye when taking to them (Men Im dating I can within a few dates if we get to the comfortable flirting stage.

I would like to add not to be too harsh if someone says something stupid or a little rude, as they might just be nervous.... I passed on a nice guy because of what he said about someone else when I had first met him... turns out the other person was actually worse then he said!

Now Im trying to get the courage up to ask him out, after I dated a mutual friend when he had shown interest in me first(the classic, "I picked the other guy and now realize I made a mistake :)"