I am sure this has been discussed but it is 'in my face' now. When it is our turn to take care of our aging parents and they (or in my case, my mom) fights you every step of the way, is totally unwilling to consider alternatives and still somehow wields an iron fist, how do we make them (her) listen. I pulled out my biggest gun this evening, reminded my mom of when she had these conversations with her mom. I have held that 'gun' till now when the time and mood seemed right to use it as an example to let her know some of what I am now up against. The conversation went quickly down hill and wisely shortly ended after that.

Any ideas that worked???

I wish I could help... but I haven't had to cross that road yet. You might try talking to someone from a Senior Center if they're near you? Good Luck. May you be given the patience you will need to deal with this

I work at the local hospital and they have social workers on staff to work with patients and family members. The MSW was of huge help to me when I was dealing with my dad after my mom died. I was taking care of him 24/7 and working full-time too. Dad called me home from work everytime he needed something. I took care of them until they were gone. After mom passed, the MSW helped me get dad moved into a nursing home. They have support classes at the hospital here too for family members of aging parents, etc. too. So, maybe check out your hospital and see what they offer.

Thank you so much for your support and idea. I will check with our local hospital to see what resources they may offer, great idea really and one I hadn't thought of.

Sorry to be so long getting back to you. Crazy busy day! Finally time to eat some comfort food and relax for the evening.

Thanks again!