I do like me nice rump roast now. I'm not gonna lie.....

I played and flirted at times with my husband and it was fun and felt natural...We had our own special language and ways...But I'm not a "natural flirt" with everyone...Guess we're all different...It's fun to watch others play and flirt...Go for it!

There isn't a lot of flirting going on where I live...And men and women tend to "talk straight" to each other... Or play and tease each other as "buddies." (Without reference to gender.)...Any compliments that are handed-out are pretty "basic." For example one of my male neighbors called me a "hard worker" the other day because I've been hauling a lot of boxes lately. (I'm selling leftover stock from our stores to a friend who still has a store in the area.)...Everything is pretty low-key...If a man or woman is dressed-up more than normal someone might tell them they look "nice" but no one would use "lavish terms." (Like beautiful or handsome or stunning or gorgeous etc.)...The culture is pretty low-key. Every now and then someone from a different culture comes into town and they are more talkative or boisterous or "flowery" and they "stick-out.".. Locals know right off the bat that they are "strangers" from someplace else...I don't think one culture is better or above any other culture...It's just a matter of what we've become "used to" from living in a particular region...I'm not used to "lavish" compliments about my "looks" or "lavish" compliments in general...I'm not used to flirting. Or compliments that reference my gender so I don't know what to make of them and can get embarrassed.

I'm not sure I have seen many people not use the art of swaying others. Coming up here after a few days and reading this I see almost every post up here as some kind of a sway. Or at least camps of opinions being developed. I also see how because someone is different they are judged and then put in a category.

I think (if I may sway you a little) that we ought to let people be who they are and let them rub up against us, and us them to see how we together grow. If we (and most of us are) are heading toward maturity in our thinking the best thing we can do is see that everyone has something to offer, something that is a little different from our personally trained and taught bubble. There are times when we need to close the door on those who hurt us, but there are so many things to learn from others who are from a different breed, and if we can put on our learning cap when near them we usually will grow (mature) in understanding the whole.

I agree...I think we all have a lot to learn from each other...I think it helps when we discuss our various cultures and backgrounds...What's normal in one culture can seem odd or "way out there" in another culture...Good to take the time to learn more about each other's set of norms and ways and customs.

Good morning (((Michael))) ...Nice post sir! ...I agree and I love diversity!...Swaying others is, in my opin, perfectly normal within the course of conversation or debating..I think the only reason it is more prevalent on internet forums is because that is the basis or concept behind them!...The longer I participate in the forum venue, the easier it becomes to filter positive and negative...As you stated, it is a fabulous opportunity to learn, grow, and even change when/if someone sways you for the right (positive) reason(s)!

I may throw a compliment out now and then, but never a dishonest one. The key to good flattery is making it honest, which may mean it's less often, but will be better-received and more appreciated. I'm also not the type to be entirely captivated with only a girl's appearance, so it would take getting to know her before I was impressed enough to start with any real compliments. Especially when it comes to calling a woman "beautiful" which isn't a term I could use to describe someone without knowing them, as that goes much deeper than anything at first sight. I guess what I'm saying is that I tend to compliment as I feel it, meaning it increases as I actually become more passionate about someone, so it's never excessive or empty words. And likewise, the way a person feels about you is equally important in how they're going to take your compliments, so I think most times you can tell when it's appropriate or desired on their end as well.

Wise words young man, drove me straight to your profile!! I have a nephew who lives in Cleveland and I am from Columbus, Ohio!...Soooooooooooooooooooooooooo, GO BUCKS!!!

One persons flirt, may be another persons "bluntness".

I have had people take offense, when we first meet/chat. Once they get to know me, they realize, that is just me.

Agree Don, initial contact can sometimes trip up even the best intentioned people...That's one reason I am partial to sites that offer forums....Among many other thing, forums provide an opportunity to redeem ourselves with someone we may have gotten off to a bad start with due to nothing more than unfamiliarity....

Dat's a Smart Woman Talking

Yep! Yu're on Point

And Most Pretty Women already Know they're Pretty, so it Means Nothing 2 them when yu say it, especially on First Contact

Well said and about time Kennee!

Yur Suspicions are in Order

About time ??

What?? It was a compliment!!

Had to laugh as I reread this thread. I realize social ineptitude is pretty prevalent....but DAMN!

You kids are hamstringing yourselves....(.gotta be honest...or sincere)...dumb s#!t like that is killing your flirt/flattery game.

The number one objective of flattery is to make the other person feel good.

It is easy and unforced and always makes them smile from a simple compliment.

If they ain't smiling or laughing....you are doing it wrong.

It is a simple flirt....it ain't like you are begging for sex.

(If you are actually implying that you really are after sex....you need to just stop...and go get a pet...cause at this point in life...you either got mojo or you don't)