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Topic: vis-a-vis or no?
oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Mon 03/04/13 09:04 AM
Can you fall in love with someone without meeting face-to-face? Or do you have to meet them to drive the final nails in your heart? I like a lot of the women on here (word is I'm a slut) and sometimes wish they lived near. They are my age to youngsters (40s), they all seem so nice. Maybe I'll get lucky in a face-to-face and mutual lightning will strike? So what about you, do you need to meet face-to-face?

BettyB Joined Tue 01/29/08 Posts: 31912	Mon 03/04/13 09:26 AM
I think you can fall in love with what you have perceived them to be , but for it to be real and not a fantasy you need to be with them day to day and in person before love can be real.

Phuque Joined Mon 11/17/08 Posts: 14151	Mon 03/04/13 09:28 AM
^^^ This.

Cutiepieforyou Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 43085	Mon 03/04/13 09:33 AM
I think you can fall in love with what you have perceived them to be , but for it to be real and not a fantasy you need to be with them day to day and in person before love can be real. I have to agree with Betty.

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Mon 03/04/13 09:44 AM
I didn't think of it that way, you're right. We build a mental image in our mind that is "perfect" to us, and inevitably become disappointed with reality because they can't match what we built them up to be. Interesting.

Cutiepieforyou Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 43085	Mon 03/04/13 09:51 AM
I didn't think of it that way, you're right. We build a mental image in our mind that is "perfect" to us, and inevitably become disappointed with reality because they can't match what we built them up to be. Interesting. Exactly!

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Mon 03/04/13 10:02 AM
who called you a slut ?

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Mon 03/04/13 10:19 AM
who called you a slut ? I think it's a rumor going around....

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Mon 03/04/13 10:24 AM
who called you a slut ? I think it's a rumor going around.... do you want me to help spread that rumor??

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Mon 03/04/13 10:28 AM
who called you a slut ? I think it's a rumor going around.... do you want me to help spread that rumor?? I'd rather have the women prove it was true!

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Mon 03/04/13 10:31 AM
who called you a slut ? I think it's a rumor going around.... do you want me to help spread that rumor?? I'd rather have the women prove it was true!

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Mon 03/04/13 01:35 PM
I don't see why not...Seems like you can pretty much fall in love with one person one day and an entirely different one the next. Of course that's assuming love exists and isn't simply a mental condition.

topherj37 Joined Fri 07/15/11 Posts: 38773	Tue 03/05/13 06:26 PM
I think you can fall in love with what you have perceived them to be , but for it to be real and not a fantasy you need to be with them day to day and in person before love can be real. I agree.

Winlei Joined Sat 01/26/13 Posts: 4048	Tue 03/05/13 06:43 PM
Can you fall in love with someone without meeting face-to-face? Or do you have to meet them to drive the final nails in your heart? I like a lot of the women on here (word is I'm a slut) and sometimes wish they lived near. They are my age to youngsters (40s), they all seem so nice. Maybe I'll get lucky in a face-to-face and mutual lightning will strike? So what about you, do you need to meet face-to-face? Love comes everywhere, theres always a connection between you two. Now if you think its just fantasy then wake up and make that fantasy a reality. Do not expect anything from her. When you see each other it may be easy to accept who she really was.

bastet126 Joined Fri 12/07/07 Posts: 15553	Tue 03/05/13 06:49 PM
at the time, it feels like love, looks like love, so it must be love. then you meet and you will know if you were right. or wrong. so enjoy it, whatever it is. and hope it's real. but yes, you do have to meet to know.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 03/05/13 08:05 PM
Can you fall in love with someone without meeting face-to-face? Or do you have to meet them to drive the final nails in your heart? I like a lot of the women on here (word is I'm a slut) and sometimes wish they lived near. They are my age to youngsters (40s), they all seem so nice. Maybe I'll get lucky in a face-to-face and mutual lightning will strike? So what about you, do you need to meet face-to-face? For it to be real love, you need to meet in person.

cuddlebunny00 Joined Sat 04/07/12 Posts: 550	Tue 03/05/13 09:17 PM
I think you can fall in love with what you have perceived them to be , but for it to be real and not a fantasy you need to be with them day to day and in person before love can be real. I have to agree with Betty. I totally agree with this

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14576	Wed 03/06/13 12:11 PM
I am infatuated with a man before I meet inperson. I do not meet any man inperson if I do not "click" with him online first. I am not out to just meetup with any Old man.

2KidsMom Joined Tue 09/30/08 Posts: 58206	Wed 03/06/13 12:13 PM
I believe so...sometimes mental can be very strong.