Topic: still alone
willyd54's photo
Tue 04/16/13 07:56 PM
I have been on this site for months and still haven't talked to any woman.I send messages and nudges and hugs and nothing.Do any of you ladies really want to meet a man or are you just looking to see who is on here?

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Tue 04/16/13 08:18 PM
Well my man, I was luckier than you, a week or so here and I got some replies even offer to marry, but it led no where, cause I am picky - one mistake: bye bye. They mistakes often. I am not saying I am Mr. Saint and don't do mistakes, I do, but if mistake in communication detected it won't go long with me glasses

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Tue 04/16/13 08:21 PM
By the way, I today chatted with one, she asked me to talk more about myself and so and I got to go to sleep before that message, then in morning I wake up and find out user got deactivated account. I guess many here are just to peek a boo and you are kinda right. Not all, but too many

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Wed 04/17/13 03:41 AM
No worries...there are quite aplenty who are real and true in their search!
Dont let the sourgrapes spoil your whole basket!

Good luck!

pennyg281's photo
Wed 04/17/13 03:56 AM
We are here . .try posting in the forums more and getting to know all the wonderful ladies.

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Wed 04/17/13 03:58 AM
Hello Willy,

You've been here for months but this is your first post in the forums. I used to be a regular here and met many amazing men and women. I made many friends and dated a few men ... one for 2 years.

My best advice to you is to join in the conversations. It allows people to see your personality. They get to know you. Then when you send a message, you are not some random stranger. You've already interacted with them in the threads, or they've seen you in the threads. In fact, you will likely notice an increase in people contacting you -- prompted by something you shared in the forum.

For every person that posts there are oodles of Minglers who lurk ... they don't post, you don't know they are there but they read, they observe. When people can see you in the threads, trust is built because they see a consistency of behaviour.

I can't tell you the number of times I was contacted in response to something I posted and I'd never seen nor heard of the person before. Some of my greatest online friendships started that way.

There are a ton of scammers on this site. The mods do a great job of cleaning up the place but scammers build profiles faster than I can take a sip of water. just tonight I had profile visits from 10-12 of them. It makes some women hesitant to respond to random emails ... and fewer still respond to winks and nudges without any other interaction.

This can be a wonderful way to meet people, form connections and potentially find someone special but as with most things in life...what you put into it is what you get out of it.

Also, you have not included very much information about yourself in your profile. It doesn't give a woman much to go on. Maybe let a little of your personality shine in your profile. It is your "first impression". Be confident and put your best foot forward.

Hope that helps! Good luck!

...and welcome to the forums! flowerforyou


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Wed 04/17/13 04:49 AM

By the way, I today chatted with one, she asked me to talk more about myself and so and I got to go to sleep before that message, then in morning I wake up and find out user got deactivated account. I guess many here are just to peek a boo and you are kinda right. Not all, but too many


More likely they were scamming.

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Wed 04/17/13 05:15 AM
aithough m also new here, and am also in same position that you are but i"ll advice you to stick around 4 some longer period and try 2 be patient.