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Topic: Single parents
unsure's photo
Wed 09/04/13 03:40 AM
My question is this, why would you really want to let your child meet a man right off? If you date someone, that does not mean that you will end up with this person..if this were true, would we need dating sites?
I am a single mom and I have been for a very long time. My boys are 25 and 18 now and my youngest son is still living at home. I still do not allow men to come into my home. My son is an adult but I want respect from my boys, one thing they can say about me is that I was a great Mom that never had strange men in and out of our home.
Being a single parent is hard BUT your children are number one. You have to stop and think, you do not really know these men at all. They could have a criminal background, do harm to your child, or who really knows..they could be crazy for all you know. I guess the main thing with dating is you have to STOP AND USE YOUR BRAIN! PROTECT YOUR CHILDREN!
When your children grow up do you want them to say that you had a different man in their lives every year? NO...so keep your life away from the kids!!!
Keep the men away from the kids. IT IS REALLY THAT SIMPLE!!!

willing2's photo
Wed 09/04/13 01:59 PM
I could see where a dude having a toddler makes for a great poontang magnet. :wink:

misswright's photo
Wed 09/04/13 03:12 PM

I think a revolving door of strange men is not the best route for a child. I would not introduce a stranger to my son unless I had developed a strong relationship that I believe will become permanent.

In other words, you should be the passageway to your son, as you are his protector. Not vice versa.

You have to invest yourself, then intro to child, then if potential mate passes the parent test, you can move forward.




This! :thumbsup:

No revolving door of men in my life while I raised my son as a single mom for 18 yrs. He's grown now and has so much respect for women.

I'll never forget the day we were talking and he was telling me about his buddy that had slept with this chick at a party the night before, saying how nasty it was and all, that if the chick slept with his buddy right off, who else had she slept with? "I don't want just some girl that'll screw anyone. I want a nice girl, a pretty girl, one that respects herself enough and thinks I'm special enough to make me wait. I'm not having sex with just anyone Mom. They're going to have to be super awesome to hook up with me!" he says just so matter of factly. Don't think I've ever been so proud of him, or myself! I musta done something right! bigsmile

On the other hand, his buddy grew up downstairs from us, same age as my son (16 at the time), and his mom had more guys going through there then the turnstiles at Fenway Park on opening day. Children see all. It didn't surprise me that he was out getting anything he could get his hands on. Kid had serious self esteem issues. Sad really. sad2

Parents should ALWAYS do what's in the best interest of their children. Exposing them to disappointment after disappointment isn't in their best interest, IMHO.

eddav's photo
Thu 09/05/13 06:27 AM

So I'm gonna be a single mom and I'm completely okay with this, but since I'm new at date again plus I will have my son, I'm not sure how to about all this. So advice would be awesome! Oh and if my about me is not interesting please let me know! :)

So, I'm going to be a single dad and I'm not OK with this.
I don't think that someone can come with advises.
The only advise would be: fix it, if you can.

What I've noticed is that people think about dating in this situation like dating in high school.
20yrs dating!=30yrs dating !=40yrs dating.
To be able to see a women in Oshawa, I had to ask a friend to keep a look on my kids.
(I'm from Mississauga)
1/2 dating time==4h babysitting time.
Doesn't work.
Relocation is a keyword and you have to be prepared for this.
Mortgage, rent,...forget it.
You might have one or the other.
Nobody will land in your home like that.

I don't really know.
That's my thoughts.

singledad19766's photo
Thu 09/12/13 04:22 PM
hey there everyone i am a single father son 5 and daughter 9 daughter has no women role model and things are changing i need advice please and ty

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