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Topic: OLDER WOMEN VS. YOUNGER MEN
navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Fri 06/21/13 07:11 PM Edited by navygirl on Fri 06/21/13 07:12 PM
Yes! Men have no problem having a younger girlfriend. Why can women not? My last boyfriend was 23, and I am 38, and it was not an age difference that we split up. It is all in the person not the age. In one sense of the word I agree with you here,and in another I don't. The great majority of "younger" women, at least from what I have seen,are not interested in older men. With few exceptions. One being MONEY and the other,SEX. Younger women,lets say 30 to 40. 99 times out of 100 will hook up with an older man in his 50's or older simply because he's loaded. Daddy Megabucks. The other,and I will try to keep it a clean as I can, 20 to 30 somethings that date men in there 40's on up. Simply because of what's hanging between his legs. Nothing more. Yes, To a degree you are right. It's all in the person,not the age. But over the years I have learned that most people get better with age. I can look back at when I was 35. I'm no longer that man. I'm a totally different person now than I was then. Mostly wiser and I would like to think a little smarter. As a matter of fact, I know I am. Honestly, I've had younger women to tell me that was one of the big reasons they were attracted to me. Wisdom and smarts. The guy you dated that was 23. By the time he's 43 he will no longer be that man he once was at 23. If anyone wants to date younger,Fine, I have nothing against it. I've done it myself. But, I have learned not to expect that woman of 30 to be on the same level with me. It's not gonna happen. I'm 51. I have dated as young as 25. We had a lot of fun together. But still, There is that little rift in there. And that's something you have to be willing to accept when you date younger than yourself. Hope you understand what I'm getting at here. Well stated. I agree that I am not the same as I was at 35 and as we age; we change drastically. Age is a big factor and very few couples of a large age gap between them last. You simply aren't on the same intellect or maturity level; unless the older person is extremely immature and lowers their maturity level to be like the younger person.

teadipper Joined Wed 10/19/11 Posts: 2732	Fri 06/21/13 07:16 PM
My ex husband's mother is 18 years younger than his father so it's the reverse BUT they have been together for going on 50 years.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Fri 06/21/13 09:39 PM
My ex husband's mother is 18 years younger than his father so it's the reverse BUT they have been together for going on 50 years. I think this is the exception and not the norm. Lets face it men are much more immature than women to start with so right of the bat; there is a chance his maturity level would be the same level as hers. I am not saying this to insult your ex husband's mother but this does make the most logical sense. I have met lots of young guys that were interested in me but they are creepy and even sleazy. I get bad vibes from every single one of them and it almost makes me sick to my stomach. I have good instincts about people so I know these instincts are spot on.

Charles1962150 Joined Tue 03/13/12 Posts: 3403	Fri 06/21/13 09:42 PM
My ex husband's mother is 18 years younger than his father so it's the reverse BUT they have been together for going on 50 years. Good for them. But I honestly believe that is the exception,Not the rule. Plus, You say they have been together going on 50 yrs. That would put them together around 1963. Don't mean to step on any toes here, Just being honest. That was a different time. In 1963 women and men were different than they are now. Women at that time were still raised to be house wives. Stay at home. At that time education for a woman wasn't that big of a deal. A woman would find herself a good man. Settle down,stay at home and make babies. At that time,Girls of 16 through 25 were way more mature than girls of 16 through 25 are now. Girls now are not raised the same as they were then. Now, If she is lucky enough to have good,decent parents that try to raise their kids right,They are not raised to be house wives anymore. They are raised to be self sufficient. There for, Not really needing a man. That's why now most women of.......20 lets say, Are not interested in older men. They really don't need a man to,Well, For lack of a better word,"Keep them up" or, "make a living for them" like it was in days of old. Back then a young woman would look for a husband that was older and more "fixed" in his job. Now, It's not the same. Now, They look mostly for the young guys with an "edge". The ones that will treat them like dirt,knock them up and leave them to raise the kid(s) alone. But, That's another subject for another thread.

Holly4459 Joined Sun 06/29/08 Posts: 34785	Fri 06/21/13 09:54 PM
I'm definitely young at heart and in my head I'm 19!

Holly4459 Joined Sun 06/29/08 Posts: 34785	Fri 06/21/13 09:54 PM Edited by Holly4459 on Fri 06/21/13 09:55 PM


rohitsinha876 Joined Wed 06/19/13 Posts: 1	Sat 06/22/13 02:21 AM
In most of the cases its love..and in a few its jus infactuation...i hail from India...here its sin..!!..lol...

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sat 06/22/13 04:43 AM
My ex husband's mother is 18 years younger than his father so it's the reverse BUT they have been together for going on 50 years. I think this is the exception and not the norm. Lets face it men are much more immature than women to start with so right of the bat; there is a chance his maturity level would be the same level as hers. I am not saying this to insult your ex husband's mother but this does make the most logical sense. I have met lots of young guys that were interested in me but they are creepy and even sleazy. I get bad vibes from every single one of them and it almost makes me sick to my stomach. I have good instincts about people so I know these instincts are spot on. IDK navy, I have had younger men interested in me who were charming and just a delight. In some cases they were just too immature to consider planning on anything serious with but in one case, just as mature and maybe moreso than men my age.....just not as "worldly" so to speak. I found all of them engaging and genuinely interested in gettng to know me, and relatively speaking not controlling for the most you may have well met some creepy ones and no one should do things that creep them out, but there are creeps of all ages out there. it might have been your own taboos that caused you to feel creeped out rather than anything being wrong with them (not saying that for certain but as a possibility). or maybe you just met a few creeps, unfortunately that can happen

krupa Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 18651	Sat 06/22/13 05:00 AM
I am younger than my woman....so what? We care for each other. We love each other. We compromise for each other. Money or possessions got zero to do with it...we are usually broker than the 10 commandments. We relate to each other and genuinely value each other. That is what sets us apart. There is no "me".....there is only "we". Until you get to that point....ya got no shot at a lasting friendship/relationship.

povis Joined Sat 06/22/13 Posts: 1	Sat 06/22/13 05:44 AM
Then why not call him closer to you

rage066 Joined Thu 06/20/13 Posts: 5	Sat 06/22/13 07:17 AM
Hi how are you

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Sat 06/22/13 08:01 AM
My ex husband's mother is 18 years younger than his father so it's the reverse BUT they have been together for going on 50 years. I think this is the exception and not the norm. Lets face it men are much more immature than women to start with so right of the bat; there is a chance his maturity level would be the same level as hers. I am not saying this to insult your ex husband's mother but this does make the most logical sense. I have met lots of young guys that were interested in me but they are creepy and even sleazy. I get bad vibes from every single one of them and it almost makes me sick to my stomach. I have good instincts about people so I know these instincts are spot on. IDK navy, I have had younger men interested in me who were charming and just a delight. In some cases they were just too immature to consider planning on anything serious with but in one case, just as mature and maybe moreso than men my age.....just not as "worldly" so to speak. I found all of them engaging and genuinely interested in gettng to know me, and relatively speaking not controlling for the most you may have well met some creepy ones and no one should do things that creep them out, but there are creeps of all ages out there. it might have been your own taboos that caused you to feel creeped out rather than anything being wrong with them (not saying that for certain but as a possibility). or maybe you just met a few creeps, unfortunately that can happen I have met older guys that were creepy too and yes I got that bad vibe as well. The younger guys were just users as its obvious they just want sex or money from an older woman and one thing you learn as you age is to recognize this right from the get go. All men can be charming when they want something from a woman. You have to understand that I work with younger men all the time so I know how they operate. I don't think young guys are taboos; they are just way to immature and I agree they weren't worldly in the least. I also don't find a younger man attractive. I just think he could be my son. Now I am not talking a younger man with in 10 years of my age; but I am 53 and have nothing in common with a 20 or 30 year old.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Sat 06/22/13 08:06 AM
all women are slutty so I have no opinion An opinion from a dateless man?

loyalmecca Joined Sat 06/22/13 Posts: 37	Sat 06/22/13 08:08 AM
I do not mean to offend anyone but that is what I have noticed in my 20 plus years of dating women and being online too. They are just as bad in real life as online.

loyalmecca Joined Sat 06/22/13 Posts: 37	Sat 06/22/13 08:22 AM
Men are just as bad most the time but there are poor saps like me who were brainwashed by cartoons when they were little or something who think their "true love" is out there hahaha

goldenhinde Joined Wed 12/12/12 Posts: 631	Sat 06/22/13 08:47 AM
Dear Bittermecca You have made me laugh today! It is very difficult to make an old whore laugh! I have not been as slutty as usual and needed a pick me up.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Sat 06/22/13 08:49 AM
Men are just as bad most the time but there are poor saps like me who were brainwashed by cartoons when they were little or something who think their "true love" is out there hahaha I realize that most people watch tv and think relationships should be like that but its not realistic. We are all flawed and aren't perfect. People lie in relationships so they won't hurt the other person or just to ego stroke. They also feel the need to change the other person which to me says you weren't good enough to start so they need to change you to meet their expectations. I am amazed that relationships even get off the ground knowing these things but as I said we are flawed and some are so desperate to be with someone that they will play into any role that suits the other person.

Inspirate Joined Sat 06/22/13 Posts: 1	Sat 06/22/13 08:50 AM
Judi, sorry to hear about you & I am just 21 & i can understand your feelings, i will very happy to get friend like you

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Sat 06/22/13 08:56 AM
Dear Bittermecca You have made me laugh today! It is very difficult to make an old whore laugh! I have not been as slutty as usual and needed a pick me up.

loyalmecca Joined Sat 06/22/13 Posts: 37	Sat 06/22/13 09:01 AM
Men are just as bad most the time but there are poor saps like me who were brainwashed by cartoons when they were little or something who think their "true love" is out there hahaha I realize that most people watch tv and think relationships should be like that but its not realistic. We are all flawed and aren't perfect. People lie in relationships so they won't hurt the other person or just to ego stroke. They also feel the need to change the other person which to me says you weren't good enough to start so they need to change you to meet their expectations. I am amazed that relationships even get off the ground knowing these things but as I said we are flawed and some are so desperate to be with someone that they will play into any role that suits the other person. I played into a role with my ex knowing she had other guys she made it soo damn obvious it was hard to ignore it and pretend to not know. To me all women are like her she is just more obvious about it and thinks she is in charge because she took psychology.