wus dating a girl the first time around cuz we were crazy for each other soo we tried it for a wile.
we had other counter parts than and well, she felt bad about it soo she left me 2 help get rid of the guilt.
but after we broke up with our counterparts we tried again for a wile but she ended up leaving me again cuz her friends never really approved even tho she had promised 2 stay no matter wut... *sigh* sooo now shes afraid 2 give it a third go. and her friends have scared her out of staying with me....

anyone with help or advice on this, plzzzz help!

Sounds complicated.
Find somebody new.

hmm, its a bit more complicated tho... i still love her but shes scared about trying again... and shes convinced tht shes going into councelling becuz of it... and im now on vacation in Hawaii and she had promised 2 wait till i returned.... but she refuses 2 show the same love and care for me....

find someone emotionally functional not severe dysfunctions...She should not need her friends approval on who she wants to B with.........

Sounds like it's going to be even more complicated after you return.
Good luck!

well, she insists on starting over from scratch as just friends again but her friends want me 2 move on and forget about her... but its 2 hard for me 2 just forget about her, cuz of the fact tht i still love her but she doesnt seem 2 care... said somethin on the lines of: i need 2 get a hold of myself again orr i need 2 wrk on myself first...

You are still young, and there are still plenty of single women available.

I'm confused, as in another post, you mention you're looking for a gf, yet you don't really seem to be over THIS one. It sounds messy. What I did was concentrate on what I wanted to do with my life, work-wise. You don't have to employed. Volunteering can also keep you busy. There's many organizations that need fundraiser's, or more carer's, etc. I did that, and it just helped me feel I was part of newer communities. Staying busy was my way of getting through it :)

LOL well, thts really hard 2 do wen ur on vaca. In Hawaii and have oodles of time 2 think and meditate about stuff... And its not soo easy 2 get over a girl i still have feelings for...

I do understand. That's half of the problem. Too much time on your hands. lol. Which is why I suggested keeping busy :) I'm not saying you don't have a life. I just mean that sometimes changing parts of your lifestyle, can bring positive result's. E.g, I went to dance class, soon after a certain guy broke up with me. If I kept my life how it was, it would only remind me of him, so I sought out challenges for myself. And when thoughts of him came slowly creeping into my brain, I chose not to think about him. Yes it hurt, but that always goes in the end. See how you feel in a year. I think a huge part of on-off relationships, is that both you and her believe that you'll never find someone else who you can have a long-term bond with, so you both keep running back to each other, because it's easier than separating and crying into your pillow. I get that. But if you have no faith in life, then you'll both just keep this up.

well, im a homebody and dnt enjoy sports all tht much, and i dnt exactly have alot of friends iether soo tht doesnt help much. and my part time wrk doesnt keep me very busy... and im more of a sensitive guy,and ive had the same bad relationships before and it gets increasingly harder and harder 2 forget the girls tht have left me

It can be done (the voice of experience).