Lets do another study? To me i'm being polite if i answer you or join in a forum that i can be comfortable in to give and receive knowledge about!! Lots of times some arrogant members post snide remarks to me,or about other members that also join in on that particular subject? To me this is rude and uncalled !! Yes i am also guilty of sometimes interpreting others answers and"in that forum" i apologise to them!! I hope all have some fun with this and get to know others better!!

I can be arrogant and I am ignorant on many things.

Keeping my mouth shut...has always been a problem.


Thank God.....I have people that like me in spite of this

I try to be helpful to all. If I can save someone from heartache or pain I will. Recently had a woman criticise me for my posting. Then had the gall to say no ones reading them. 24 hits doesn't sound like no ones responding to my post. To me this was rude and very mean. It just goes to show why she's still single at 50. No one likes a person who nitpick, bullies or puts others down for no reason other than to satisfy their ego.

Hey you! I find there are more arrogant and nasty users here. If someone writes me and says more than just hi, I write back as I would like the same done to me.

Good for you and I agree with your comments!

Same here especially on the job. The people i've worked for says my aggravation makes the day shorter,And they wonder everytime they see a smile on my face"what's happening next" been on these places for lots of years!!

Been there done that! I've put quite a few issues on the board since joining Mingle2 just to get Ignored ? But here i am 1 year still posting still mingling and a few friends" mostly from distant states" Still trying to fit in? Thank You for joining in!

Thank You for both of your comments! The way i also think is this is a Dating site? Some just want to be in the Forums? I guess you use Mingle as you wish and by doing so ignorance or rudeness is what shows you are?

arrogant me??... nahhhh I dont think I am...matter of fact I have been told I have low self esteem...so I guess I dont comment unless I know a little something, something on the subject ...nasty me?? ...I try not to be but I can get annoying ...also I can also tend to start trouble ,but I really really try not to on here

I'm with cha Graywolf!!! Be kind don't be snide
Oh wait that didn't rhyme :( you get the point!

I see you had to edit your original thoughts? Guess that was a tongue check happening? But again, Thank You!!!

Don't want to nitpick but how's this not judging someone and/or putting someone down?
It just goes to show why she's still single at 50

Wanting to help ppl doesn't mean you always get gratitude. Sometimes ppl don't want your help, meaning you're more of a busy-body. And sometimes when you give advice it hits the mark just a tad to hard and ppl aren't ready to face it. So they get angry (out of fear) and lash out. Which basically means "back off! Too close for comfort!"
Even if such a person says nasty things (which they often do in those cases) it should never be taken personally. Which takes strength of the helper, as it is ever so easy to react and lash out just the same.

Helping in a healthy way for both = reaching out and then letting go completely, unless someone wants to know more.
If you can't do that, you should ask yourself why you need to help others, cos then you get something out of it yourself, then YOU need it (which is the case for most ppl).

Got the point! now its my turn to take off for awhile, But i will be back later to see how things are going here. Work to do!! Be kind !

Know exactly what you mean, Some turn a"deft ear" to what is good advice and to what they Really want to hear? Some feather through a statement then give an opinion on what was Really said" i'm guilty of that" This really screws up a Good Topic! While others procieve it doesn't relate to their problem and avoid the topic all together? Thus leaving All out on knowing the people they are! Others use profanity to prove their stature in life and Importance to others to be included in theirs? Unless aggravated with a member i refrain from this then feel desricrated by using this" low tactic" myself!! I like giving good advice or "Keep my Mouth Shut!!" that's the reason i give 1 opinion and wait for a reaction from it!! Then refrain from interacting if "HATE" shows its ugly head!! I hope other members give their views on this topic in ALL age brackets that's my reason for posting on here and not just 50+ as i am! Please enjoy, be kind!!

There are quite a few threads created where the poster really cannot comprehend any other thought besides their own much less tolerate it. They are not really looking for feedback, discussion or debate, and for them kindness is a foreign word.

No matter how polite or well meaning your thoughts are... walking in every open door does not mean the hosts are always welcoming. All you can do is post your thoughts and ignore the complaints if there are any.

Again very true,But that's not my reason for starting this topic on here and i'm not looking for any brownie points to keep it going!! As stated before by myself"i know who i am" i'm just trying to find out about YOU! You in turn find out more about ME! So don't rock the boat then tell me i'm in a storm as i know better!! If you don't like being here there are other forums to ruin. Besides-have you met me or do you know me? Then how can you Judge Me?

I can be a cheeky b*****d, at times on here and I admit that. I always speak my mind though. Gets me into trouble at times, but people know where they stand with me at least? Good or bad!

Like I said..I'm trying to be nice here!

Go back and read some of the posts i've been on, And you will find out i speak my mind as well!! I can't and won't Sugarcoat ---- with anyone but i have some Years of Knowledge to back up what i say, And Listen to people(old or young) without letting my Mouth overload my AZZ and make a Fool of myself in front of others!!

Right back!!