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| Topic: WHEN TO SAY THE 3 MAGIC WORDS: I LOVE U | |
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Since he disagreed with what I said I doubt he'll agree with you though.
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No one ever agrees with me....
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I would agree with that but then that would disprove what you said.
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Edited by
ridewytepony
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Fri 12/27/13 11:08 PM
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I think it's possible to scare off someone that cares about you, if you move too quickly. Most things that begin quickly usually blow up just as fast if you rush them towards your idea of a happy ending. So you think its better to hold back how you feel because your afraid you'll be rejected? I don't consider it rushing towards anything, just being honest about how you feel. Would you not want your partner to be honest with you about how they feel? If its not gonna work and the 2 of you aren't on the same page is it not better to find out sooner rather then later? Its very awkward when a woman tells me they love me & I'm enjoying my time with her and things are going well.For the most part I haven't thought about it or I have no love feelings at that time.I also have never had a woman say it for the first time;then you explain your just not there yet and her not say it again. She will keep saying it and that would be fine if she just wanted to express her fellings BUT there is an ulterior motive behind it. So that makes it a selfish act.it just recks things, and she crys and "we" feel bad, it just puts the other partner in a compremising posision.it just slows the process way down. I almost left the woman I ended up marrying due to this.but you know in the end after she got everything she fought for; then she didn't want it. Then said "I pushed her away for years" when I just was honest and had to fight and fight to keep firm boundaries. She didn't show respect for me by not respecting my boundaries. I talked about people wanting to be rewarded earlier on in relationships by saying "I love you" To me its just like holding a door open in public. It used to burn me azz when someone couldn't say thank you as not everyone does and thats beyond me.I was talking to this old pro psychologist and he said "why do you do it? you don't do it to be rewarded for a thank you, you do it because you wanted to.  I would never have a relationship with ANY human that pushes my boundaries. |
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I think it's possible to scare off someone that cares about you, if you move too quickly. Most things that begin quickly usually blow up just as fast if you rush them towards your idea of a happy ending. So you think its better to hold back how you feel because your afraid you'll be rejected? I don't consider it rushing towards anything, just being honest about how you feel. Would you not want your partner to be honest with you about how they feel? If its not gonna work and the 2 of you aren't on the same page is it not better to find out sooner rather then later? Its very awkward when a woman tells me they love me & I'm enjoying my time with her and thing are going well.For the most part I haven't thought about it or I have no love feelings at that time.I also have never had a woman say it for the first time;then you explain your just not there yet and her not say it again. She will keep saying it and that would be fine if she just wanted to express her fellings BUT there is an ulterior motive behind it. So that makes it a selfish act.it just recks things, and she crys and "we" feel bad, it just puts the other partner in a compremising posision.it just slows the process way down. I almost left the woman I ended up marrying due to this.but you know in the end after she got everything she fought for; she didn't want it. Then said "I pushed her away for years" when I just was honest and had to fight and fight to keep firm boundaries. She didn't show respect for me by not respecting my boundaries. I talked about people wanting to be rewarded earlier on in relationships by saying "I love you" To me its just like holding a door open in public. It used to burn me azz when someone couldn't say thank you as not everyone does and thats beyond me.I was talking to this old pro psychologist and he said "why do you do it? you don't do it to be rewarded for a thank you, you do it because you wanted to. I would never have a relationship this ANY human that pushes my boundaries. This so much. 
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The hair action in that video made it all worth it.  Thank you!!!
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Then, there's always those 3 other magic words "pass the potatoes".
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I first saw that video because of my oldest sister. She had recorded it onto a VHS tape from MTV. It's such a funny song.
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hmmm...whats "coughing off"? Slang/ coughing up the possession (to hand them over) Coughing up the information to the police or coughing off meaning:comming out off your mouth/ giving the information needed. often used in plea bargain agreement I coughed off to one charge but they droped the other. or If one was entering a guilty charge and I said "how was your day honey" and she may say "I just coughed off to that murder beef but part off the deal was I get to spend a night with you baby.   ..lol clear as mud |
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I first saw that video because of my oldest sister. She had recorded it onto a VHS tape from MTV. It's such a funny song. think they were a one hit wonder?? They may have had another on the charts but nothing that comes to mind. Ugly kid Joe was the name of the Band, I remember that video well |
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No, I think it's better to hold back my feelings until I get to know the other person better and see if they're really who I think they are, and not just what I've built them up to be in my head. I've rushed into things in the past, based on pure emotion, and it never failed to explode in my face because I didn't use caution. If the relationship is right and if both parties are committed to making it work, there shouldn't be any rush to "seal the deal." What's the hurry? Unless you think the other person is going to leave if you don't declare your feelings fast enough, and in that case, it's not a healthy relationship anyway. This is an example of waiting until your sure you know that your in love, not an example of knowing your in love and wondering if you should tell your partner or hide it. I agree that its good to make sure you know what your feeling before you act on them |
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Edited by
paintecards01
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Sat 12/28/13 12:44 PM
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No, I think it's better to hold back my feelings until I get to know the other person better and see if they're really who I think they are, and not just what I've built them up to be in my head. I've rushed into things in the past, based on pure emotion, and it never failed to explode in my face because I didn't use caution. If the relationship is right and if both parties are committed to making it work, there shouldn't be any rush to "seal the deal." What's the hurry? Unless you think the other person is going to leave if you don't declare your feelings fast enough, and in that case, it's not a healthy relationship anyway. This is an example of waiting until your sure you know that your in love, not an example of knowing your in love and wondering if you should tell your partner or hide it. I agree that its good to make sure you know what your feeling before you act on them I'd still rather hide it instead of running the risk of scaring them off. Or even worse, not scaring them off, but not having them say it back. I told a guy I loved him once and he told me that I shouldn't. Such an epic fail. |
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I first saw that video because of my oldest sister. She had recorded it onto a VHS tape from MTV. It's such a funny song. think they were a one hit wonder?? They may have had another on the charts but nothing that comes to mind. Ugly kid Joe was the name of the Band, I remember that video well Plenty of one hit wonders. Then there are hits that make you wonder why they are hits. Like I kind of like Milkshake. But it's also one of the most pointless songs and the video doesn't exactly fit what I would think it would be about. Some girl out shaking her booty to draw the guy out. hahaha |
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Edited by
indignus
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Sat 12/28/13 05:11 PM
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I'd still rather hide it instead of running the risk of scaring them off. Or even worse, not scaring them off, but not having them say it back. I told a guy I loved him once and he told me that I shouldn't. Such an epic fail. Don't fear failure. Not failure, but low aim, is the crime. In great attempts it is glorious even to fail.�� - Bruce Lee |
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I'd still rather hide it instead of running the risk of scaring them off. Or even worse, not scaring them off, but not having them say it back. I told a guy I loved him once and he told me that I shouldn't. Such an epic fail. Don't fear failure. Not failure, but low aim, is the crime. In great attempts it is glorious even to fail.�� - Bruce Lee Good words. Thank you. 
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Oh how I miss the days of sex..drugs and long haired rockers  Just kidding 
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I'd still rather hide it instead of running the risk of scaring them off. Or even worse, not scaring them off, but not having them say it back. I told a guy I loved him once and he told me that I shouldn't. Such an epic fail. Don't fear failure. Not failure, but low aim, is the crime. In great attempts it is glorious even to fail.�� - Bruce Lee Good words. Thank you. Anytime |
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Oh how I miss the days of sex..drugs and long haired rockers Just kidding Tell it to the judge. |
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I really need someone to say that to,every minute of the day.
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