You are very generous to think of the baby's needs. Try getting social help or a lawyer, not some nameless folks on the internet.

& that hurts.. Not bcoz we are nobody, doesnt mean we cant help another person.. Not all problems in math can only be solved by mathematicians & scientists..
& so with her problem..

& that hurts.. Not bcoz we are nobody, doesnt mean we cant help another person.. Not all problems in math can only be solved by mathematicians & scientists..
& so with her problem..

Is this not "social help"?! And as for a lawyer why would I do that?? If I do go along with this by all means lawyers and papers and so on, but until that decision is made I will seek advice from people as everyone has there own story and life experience and that's the best way to learn on most cases.

This is a social media...far different from a social worker who specializes in adoption or a lawyer who can make sure you get visiting rights. If you are in the USA, lawyers have their fingers in everything. Good luck with your adoption.

I'm in Australia and you can only adopt legally, thank you

Always wanted to visit Australia. Lots of childless couples there wanting children? I know there are in USA. At any rate, thanks and like I said, good luck on your decision.

doing whats best for the child is always a parents job


bless you for not making it about you,

Children need love and ideally they should be with their mother and father, but if there is not going to be a mother and father, every other option is really second best,, in my opinion

its up to you to decide what type of second best it will be, whether you can be better for the child than a mother and father couple is a very delicate personal decision, I think it would be awesome for the child to have you in its life as well as a mother father couple,,,,single parenting is very hard and I don't know about Australia but here society is very hard on those who struggle to take care of their kids,,,

it would be wonderful to keep your child out of love and commitment, it would be no less wonderful to give it the chance to grow up with a mother and father out of love and commitment


I think you are approaching it very selflessly by thinking of what will be the healthiest situation for the child,,,,

Yeah and look what letting Lawyers get their greedy paws into everything has done to the US and my country, the UK? They ruin everything they touch and cause more problems at times than originally had to be solved in the 1st place!

yeah, the success of lawyers and social workers in placing children and knowing individuals rights doesn't compare to the success of people on public forums,,,,

You just jump in and don't understand what people are talking about at times? What I was saying is that they make decisions about childrens lives and futures and put them in childrens homes, where the kid ends up running amok and getting involved in crime, etc! I've saw decent children getting took away from their families in my area, when I was growing up, that ended up that way. All thanks to the social workers and Lawyers, deciding what was best for them? What a life of crime, drugs, or both? No way is that right for any child. Oh and for the success of people on public forums? I'm doing fine, but i've put the hard graft in to get there. Don't get nothing in life, just sitting around waiting for something to happen? You gotta MAKE it happen!

what I am talking about is

if you are thinking of committing suicide, its probably BETTER to seek counseling than resort to a public forum IN SPITE of the fact that counselors sometimes make things worse


if you are experiencing heart palpitation, its probably BETTER to go to where there are TRAINED PROFESSIONALS in medicine , even though they are not infallible and also sometimes mess up,than to resort to a general public forum for an answer


if you are having custody issues with a child, its probably BETTER to go to a lawyer, even though lawyers aren't perfect and also can mess things up


if you were in an auto accident, its probably BETTER to turn to a lawyer or someone TRAINED In accidents than people in a general public forum on the internet,,,


,,,,see the theme here?



if there are people TRAINED in a specific area, its probably best to seek their help than anonymous posts on a public forum with people that have only God knows what actual knowledge or experience or training in that area

the odds are BETTER ,, lets say,,,,,although nothing is perfect

does the father want the baby?

oldhippie is right... we don't know the OP.
there are people I know who definitely should not be parents. Its not an insult to us on mingle. We each have our own views on adoption for varies reasons.

Everyone has there own opinion and are free to speak there mind, each to there own I say, and forums are good for different options and that's all I'm looking at, lawyers and families are just heartbreakers I know I actually went through that as a child when my parents divorced and that was just the worst, so speaking from experience I will put the needs of my child first before anything else....

As for the child's dad he wanted me to abort this child due to family and religion I said I was going to keep it and just do it, as I don't think it's right thing to do....

And thats what I call a woman with pride :) ..