I've created my profile and am trying to answer emails buy it keeps telling me to enter a code. Which I've requested to be resent a few times. I'm not getting it. I am getting my messages alerts though. I'm using an old email address that I'm never on because the one I tried to sign up with says "email address already in use" which isn't possible. HELP PLEASE!!!!

Once an email address has been used, it is forever linked
to that username.
I am guessing that your new username is showing the old usernames email.
Your new username will require a new email address.

As for email verification, that sounds like you need to do this:
Send an email as directed below:

"For anybody that has checked their spam folder to no avail,
please send an email from your registered email address
to the following address:

m2.support@nextc.com

Give your message "verification" for its title."
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So, you would go to whatever email you have listed here:
http://mingle2.com/inbox/mail_settings
and send an email to: m2.support@nextc.com
with "verification" as the subject.

They will take it from there :-)