also, your example doesn't serve much purpose, because pointing out a specific ritual characteristic for an ancient culture has nothing to do with a manner of conduct, characteristic for men not of certain culture and background, but rather of certain concept and perception of themselves, the world in general and the women in it, irrelevant of their culture or nationality.
I am sure every self-respecting woman anywhere in the world, including America, would be able to distinguish between a well placed term of endearment, and an unpleasant and unwanted attention of an overly eager and lecherous stranger. I am not at all a prude, and like I said - have nothing against pet names, but there is a time and place for them, and it is NOT between strangers, especially in a setting of barely getting acquainted and gaining first impressions.
I am sorry, but a message saying "hi baby, your so hot, i wanna make relation with u" is never going to fly with me, not just because of the inappropriately intimate way of addressing me, or the ridiculously illiterate writing, but mainly because what it tells me about the person is that they are shallow and do not approach this with the necessary respect.
I think most women would agree with me, as will the real men around here. The rest would probably feel offended, as they would recognize themselves in my post. :)

we never truly know someones culture from the internet,until we get to know them or observe them a while

where they are living may not be where or the culture with which they were raised,,,,,,

I would be offended with 'do you want to make relations' whether it was prefixed by hi sweety, or just hi

the op suggests the offense is in using the term sweety or honey,,which isnt offensive to many who understand it as a greeting or a way that many people speak(like the 'texan' you might excuse for that same word),

for me, whether something is offensive or not IN PRINT(where intent is only really determined by complete context) is more about the full context of what is written and therefore define the intent of the introduction


but not the intruduction itself,,,,

Thank you, klc! I, too feel that we have stirred quite far from the initial topic of my thread, it's been kind of abducted in places, even :) I guess it is drained now. The people who understood me, did so at the very beginning, and of course there were those, who were determined to misunderstand, no matter how clearly and eloquently my point has been presented.
Anyway, wish you well, to all of you who found the time to comment!

Humm okay I'm gonna put in my two cents in as well.. I live in Texas. So sweetie, honey ,baby,doll ect are heard daily... From those I work with to wait staff....

In person face to face I'm use to those words being spoken....

But.......when online when I get a e-mail saying hi sweetie ect.. it even hits me wrong...if I have never interacted with them. It's like hell at least get to know me first..

Honestly most that send e-mails for the first time with all the sugar and spice poured on turn out to be scammers...

Just be careful and if a e-mail strikes you the wrong way delete and block... If they try to get you off site report them...

Heck not sure how many times I have called some of the guys here sweet thang..... But that is normally those that I interact with either through the forums or e-mail... I don't mean anything by it just a friendly jester....