Topic: my bloody new end neighbours
mom333's photo
Fri 02/13/15 10:01 AM
my son left 4 bags of rubbish in the thru way leading to the street when I told him never to do that. the neighbour came and told me and I told my son of and made him bring the bags back to our garden so that they can be bought out to the bin men on Sunday. well anyway as me and my son were heading back inside the "new neighbours" well the woman told me that her landlord told her I was not allowed to use the thru way to take my rubbish out well I consider myself a nice person and ive lived here a long time with my kids and the neighbours but I did not take to kindly to her telling me I cant use the thru way which is as much mine as it is hers. I was polite and said if my landlord tells me I cannot use it which he wont because its his thru way really then I wont use it, since that is not going to happen she will have to deal with it. and then her son who is about 10 tries to shout at me and she had to tell him to go back inside. I am absolutely fuming. would you be upset if this was your neighbour?

DavidCommaGeek's photo
Fri 02/13/15 10:07 AM
Edited by DavidCommaGeek on Fri 02/13/15 10:08 AM
I got upset at my neighbor a couple weeks ago. He had parked right next to the trash-cans ("rubbish bins") we leave out on the curb so the city can collect them. Since his car was in the way, the truck didn't take my trash, and I had a lot of it that week...
Not quite the same predicament, but I've noticed that some neighbors can be extremely pushy and confrontational. Mine keep taking me for granted in minor ways, which is excessively annoying.
As far as I am concerned, through-ways are public property - they are built and maintained by the city, so as long as they're not on the property of either building, neither landlord has the power to allow or disallow people to use them. Unless there's a gate, and is owned by one building or the other, then tell your neighbor she's got nothing to say. (And if there is a gate, and you have a key to it, I'd say that speaks for itself.) My guess is that since that's where your trash is taken, it has to be publicly accessible by the rubbish-men.

Though I'd say your son also deserves a mild swat for leaving trash out where it doesn't belong. I think I can understand her complaint if that's what she thought your family was doing.

soufiehere's photo
Fri 02/13/15 10:11 AM
No.
It appears you (your son) instigated the confrontation
by leaving out the trash.
Which po'd the neighbor before it began.
She was reacting...to your actions.

Ignore the news about what the landlord wants, it is hearsay :-)

mom333's photo
Fri 02/13/15 10:15 AM

I got... I suppose "miffed" is the right word, at my neighbor a couple weeks ago. He had parked right next to the trash-cans ("rubbish bins") we leave out on the curb so the city can collect them. Since his car was in the way, the truck didn't take my trash, and I had a lot of it that week...
Not quite the same predicament, but I've noticed that some neighbors can be extremely pushy and confrontational. Mine keep taking me for granted in minor ways, which is excessively annoying.
As far as I am concerned, through-ways are public property - they are built and maintained by the city, so as long as they're not on the property of either building, neither landlord has the power to allow or disallow people to use them. Unless there's a gate, and is owned by one building or the other, then tell your neighbor she's got nothing to say. (And if there is a gate, and you have a key to it, I'd say that speaks for itself.) My guess is that since that's where your trash is taken, it has to be publicly accessible by the rubbish-men.

Though I'd say your son also deserves a mild swat for leaving trash out where it doesn't belong. I think I can understand her complaint if that's what she thought your family was doing.
in England if you have a through way you have to take your rubbish through it and leave it on the street yourself. I think she just does not want people walking past her back door I do feel for her because the way her house is situated our houses are separated and private and hers is right onto the through way. I wouldn't want people there either but that what you get if you live on the end house.

mom333's photo
Fri 02/13/15 10:24 AM

No.
It appears you (your son) instigated the confrontation
by leaving out the trash.
Which po'd the neighbor before it began.
She was reacting...to your actions.

Ignore the news about what the landlord wants, it is hearsay :-)
true and if it was the other way around I would be angry that the boy left rubbish there, but I scalded him right there and then and told him to sort it out, I don't thinks appropriate to be dishing out orders like she did because it was not necessary. plenty of the people wouldn't have even bothered to tell of their kids and just walk away, I actually was proactive and polite about it knowing it was my son in the wrong. she has told the other neighbours not to use the through way either so I know it not just me she has angered.