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Topic: Being Left Alone
miles143 Joined Thu 10/23/14 Posts: 54	Thu 06/04/15 01:50 AM
You have every right to leave someone. But atleast tell them why! Because what hurts more than being left, is knowing that you're not worth an explanation of why they left you.

2469nascar Joined Fri 11/22/13 Posts: 5231	Thu 06/04/15 01:58 AM
You have every right to leave someone. But atleast tell them why! Because what hurts more than being left, is knowing that you're not worth an explanation of why they left you. there the ones not worth it,,sounds like thay have alot of growing up to do,hang in there and move on,,,,

germanchoclate1981 Joined Wed 10/18/06 Posts: 1245	Thu 06/04/15 02:18 AM
Respect and common decency aren't common anymore. I've been in your shoes more times than I care to remember. All that aside, the actual 'reason' doesn't matter. It could be something you said or did, didn't say or do, or the same for him. No matter what the reason what you really want to feel is closure. The reason makes you feel rejected, or make you reject him. That still doesn't make leaving you hanging the right thing to do. Think of it this way, if you didn't call in sick to work, your employer can't reach you because you don't answer your phone but they find out you're working somewhere else do you think they'd keep paying you? Of course not. They'd start looking to hire someone in your place regardless of how they felt about you as a person. No response IS a response, NO. It still hurts I know.

miles143 Joined Thu 10/23/14 Posts: 54	Thu 06/04/15 02:20 AM
You have every right to leave someone. But atleast tell them why! Because what hurts more than being left, is knowing that you're not worth an explanation of why they left you. there the ones not worth it,,sounds like thay have alot of growing up to do,hang in there and move on,,,, Of course, moving on is the best thing to do. Its one of the choice we have after we are being left.

thinhmingle4 Joined Thu 11/27/14 Posts: 14	Thu 06/04/15 02:21 AM
I had this feeling before

Pansytilly Joined Mon 06/09/14 Posts: 11310	Thu 06/04/15 02:21 AM
i hope you find closure...

imfeelingred Joined Fri 05/08/15 Posts: 8	Thu 06/04/15 03:04 AM
That feeling really sucks.when you just assume it's totally over and there's no closure in ur relationship.and you got the surprise of ur life when you found out he already deleted and blocked you in social network sites without any explanation what's your fault.he ignores your calls and messages but still keeps you in Skype.you want to hate him but you still love that jerk.your getting hurt in the process but you still have a soft spot for him in your heart.moving on is easier said than done. oh well,life.but I do believe in karma....what goes around,comes around.

singleman960 Joined Wed 03/25/15 Posts: 116	Thu 06/04/15 03:47 AM
You have every right to leave someone. But atleast tell them why! Because what hurts more than being left, is knowing that you're not worth an explanation of why they left you. I can certainly sympathize with you cause that has happened to me before. It is their own cowardly way of dealing with leaving you. hope you find the one who will treat you right.

Friendly_Woman Joined Mon 04/27/15 Posts: 728	Thu 06/04/15 03:57 AM
I think not telling someone why, hurts much more than telling them why. I'd want to know the reason. A man or woman, who just never comes back, without explaining why, is dodgy. And if they see each other, in the street one day, I'm sure the one who left, will try to make up some sort of excuse, as long as it sounds decent. "Can we be friends? After what YOU did to me? No. We definitely can't. Goodbye". That's all I'd say to him and I'd walk off holding my head up high. After all, he chose to leave.

IgorFrankensteen Joined Thu 10/01/09 Posts: 5444	Thu 06/04/15 04:16 AM
Caution: this may not be as obvious as it seems at first glance. What are the details here? I have also been dumped without explanation, or ignored without explanation, but I have chanced to have been through enough that I have seen that there is more than one side to such things, and more than one reason for it. For one thing, I have seen many situations where the person bemoaning being "dumped without explanation," actually WAS told, and told very clearly for a long time, that they were becoming less and less desirable as friends or mates, but they refused to listen. It can be like being fired from your job suddenly (at least it seems like it to you), while from the bosses point of view, you were told over and over again that you weren't performing up to required standards. You thought it was a normal thing to get a notice every few days that you failed to do something correctly, and so you ignored them. Same thing can happen in relationships. People argue again and again, or even more commonly, one of them constantly CORRECTS the other one. I have myself experienced people who would tell me at almost every meeting or exchange, that I wasn't doing what they wanted or needed me to. Eventually I gave up trying to please them and left. No reason to explain why you're leaving to someone who so clearly doesn't want you there to begin with.

miles143 Joined Thu 10/23/14 Posts: 54	Thu 06/04/15 05:00 AM
I had this feeling before that moment, you dont know what to do. You keep questioning yourself why it happened like that or like this.

miles143 Joined Thu 10/23/14 Posts: 54	Thu 06/04/15 05:10 AM
i hope you find closure... i hope so.

miles143 Joined Thu 10/23/14 Posts: 54	Thu 06/04/15 05:15 AM
That feeling really sucks.when you just assume it's totally over and there's no closure in ur relationship.and you got the surprise of ur life when you found out he already deleted and blocked you in social network sites without any explanation what's your fault.he ignores your calls and messages but still keeps you in Skype.you want to hate him but you still love that jerk.your getting hurt in the process but you still have a soft spot for him in your heart.moving on is easier said than done. oh well,life.but I do believe in karma....what goes around,comes around. yeah. right! karma is always around. the problem with other guys are they are dying to get you in the first place. And when they dont like you anymore. They just left you hanging.

Rooster35 Joined Wed 05/27/15 Posts: 1776	Thu 06/04/15 05:27 AM
Caution: this may not be as obvious as it seems at first glance. What are the details here? I have also been dumped without explanation, or ignored without explanation, but I have chanced to have been through enough that I have seen that there is more than one side to such things, and more than one reason for it. For one thing, I have seen many situations where the person bemoaning being "dumped without explanation," actually WAS told, and told very clearly for a long time, that they were becoming less and less desirable as friends or mates, but they refused to listen. It can be like being fired from your job suddenly (at least it seems like it to you), while from the bosses point of view, you were told over and over again that you weren't performing up to required standards. You thought it was a normal thing to get a notice every few days that you failed to do something correctly, and so you ignored them. Same thing can happen in relationships. People argue again and again, or even more commonly, one of them constantly CORRECTS the other one. I have myself experienced people who would tell me at almost every meeting or exchange, that I wasn't doing what they wanted or needed me to. Eventually I gave up trying to please them and left. No reason to explain why you're leaving to someone who so clearly doesn't want you there to begin with. I agree. Usually the signs and the words make the feelings obvious. Often, the one who's left "without an explanation" has made clear by actions or hints that time together is a burden or a chore. The one being left out emotionally can't or won't explain something that, to him or her, is so obvious. Then there the ones who disappear from our lives more strangers than they were when they got in... Such is life.

joethebricky Joined Sat 08/04/12 Posts: 12740	Thu 06/04/15 05:28 AM
You have every right to leave someone. But atleast tell them why! Because what hurts more than being left, is knowing that you're not worth an explanation of why they left you. there the ones not worth it,,sounds like thay have alot of growing up to do,hang in there and move on,,,, Well said young man. If it's any consolation, it's probably better that you are rid of him if leaving without a word is anything to go by. All the best for the future.

miles143 Joined Thu 10/23/14 Posts: 54	Thu 06/04/15 05:28 AM
You have every right to leave someone. But atleast tell them why! Because what hurts more than being left, is knowing that you're not worth an explanation of why they left you. I can certainly sympathize with you cause that has happened to me before. It is their own cowardly way of dealing with leaving you. hope you find the one who will treat you right. i know someone who said that, some of men are just shy to tell frankly if they dont like the girl anymore. But you are right, they're just coward. Those kind of person are not man enough to tell the truth. But im not generalizing about everything.

miles143 Joined Thu 10/23/14 Posts: 54	Thu 06/04/15 05:43 AM
I think not telling someone why, hurts much more than telling them why. I'd want to know the reason. A man or woman, who just never comes back, without explaining why, is dodgy. And if they see each other, in the street one day, I'm sure the one who left, will try to make up some sort of excuse, as long as it sounds decent. "Can we be friends? After what YOU did to me? No. We definitely can't. Goodbye". That's all I'd say to him and I'd walk off holding my head up high. After all, he chose to leave. Wow! what you said to him is awesome. Its a slap on his face. Nice one.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Thu 06/04/15 05:56 AM
it is a very odd phenomenon. I come from a small town, went to small schools up thru undergrad school. I never encountered this type of behavior until I moved away from home and was divorced years later. So it is either something accepted in the midwest, or times have changed.

miles143 Joined Thu 10/23/14 Posts: 54	Thu 06/04/15 06:13 AM
it is a very odd phenomenon. I come from a small town, went to small schools up thru undergrad school. I never encountered this type of behavior until I moved away from home and was divorced years later. So it is either something accepted in the midwest, or times have changed. You forgot something. Feelings has changed too in unexpected way. and when that time comes, they dont know how to deal with it.

miles143 Joined Thu 10/23/14 Posts: 54	Thu 06/04/15 06:13 AM
it is a very odd phenomenon. I come from a small town, went to small schools up thru undergrad school. I never encountered this type of behavior until I moved away from home and was divorced years later. So it is either something accepted in the midwest, or times have changed. You forgot something. Feelings has changed too in unexpected way. and when that time comes, they dont know how to deal with it.