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Topic: Let hear your experience and challenges on dating online
Geez100's photo
Sun 10/18/15 03:51 AM
Is it achievable, is it work for you are good getting what you want, give us testimony

Elizabeth734's photo
Sun 10/18/15 04:01 AM
Am on for two weeks now,met some1 that's spinning my head we are together almost every minute of the day,I've changed my profile to (hooked)I pray it last forever. cheers

Geez100's photo
Sun 10/18/15 04:40 AM

Am on for two weeks now,met some1 that's spinning my head we are together almost every minute of the day,I've changed my profile to (hooked)I pray it last forever. cheers

Amen good to hear, and you will see it in the fullness and be careful Goodluck, let us know as it progress

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Sun 10/18/15 05:46 AM

Am on for two weeks now,met some1 that's spinning my head we are together almost every minute of the day,I've changed my profile to (hooked)I pray it last forever. cheers

Wow. Lucky you. That fast! Just keep ur head cool. congratulations and stay happy.

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Sun 10/18/15 06:07 AM
Right now I'm so frustrated by all the scammers I'm ready to deactivate my account. Sure I've been contacted by lots of guys, but they are all either 10+ years older, looking for sex, or pretending to be in the military & stationed in west Africa. What's worse is the self doubt. Am I being too cautious & refusing to believe someone who could be as amazing as they seem? I can't figure out what I can ask that'll help me be sure. Not sure I can trust this site eit her as someone I reported as using a well known KIA soldiers pic is still active. Why is this so hard?

Geez100's photo
Sun 10/18/15 06:43 AM

Right now I'm so frustrated by all the scammers I'm ready to deactivate my account. Sure I've been contacted by lots of guys, but they are all either 10+ years older, looking for sex, or pretending to be in the military & stationed in west Africa. What's worse is the self doubt. Am I being too cautious & refusing to believe someone who could be as amazing as they seem? I can't figure out what I can ask that'll help me be sure. Not sure I can trust this site eit her as someone I reported as using a well known KIA soldiers pic is still active. Why is this so hard?
Please don't come out from mingle2.com now just give a try Am also frustrated but when I saw your comments I have from let's give ourselves a chance to prove Am aullualy looking for real love that can make me happy for life and I promise I will respect and adore you Because life is so sweet when you see you real partner especially when both couples are God fearing
Please note am not here for money and don't send me money All I want is your love. I don't won't any body to toy with my emotions and I will never disappoint or hurt you is aspected, , the only challenge I have is the older once are more serious they resrit there age, so give me a chance distance and age does not matter what count is love, care and respect, faithful and honesty, truthful and trustworthy, I will appreciate if you welcome me

Geez100's photo
Sun 10/18/15 06:43 AM

Right now I'm so frustrated by all the scammers I'm ready to deactivate my account. Sure I've been contacted by lots of guys, but they are all either 10+ years older, looking for sex, or pretending to be in the military & stationed in west Africa. What's worse is the self doubt. Am I being too cautious & refusing to believe someone who could be as amazing as they seem? I can't figure out what I can ask that'll help me be sure. Not sure I can trust this site eit her as someone I reported as using a well known KIA soldiers pic is still active. Why is this so hard?
Please don't come out from mingle2.com now just give a try Am also frustrated but when I saw your comments I have from let's give ourselves a chance to prove Am aullualy looking for real love that can make me happy for life and I promise I will respect and adore you Because life is so sweet when you see you real partner especially when both couples are God fearing
Please note am not here for money and don't send me money All I want is your love. I don't won't any body to toy with my emotions and I will never disappoint or hurt you is aspected, , the only challenge I have is the older once are more serious they resrit there age, so give me a chance distance and age does not matter what count is love, care and respect, faithful and honesty, truthful and trustworthy, I will appreciate if you welcome me

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Sun 10/18/15 07:11 AM
Yes Mystique80, this site is very much a center for scammers. Everyone says to be active in the forums, but that wont help you find a date since the forums are populated by nice folks who live in other states or countries LOL!

The people who actually send you any messages are not generally the ones you are looking for. As for the scammers, it's very easy to tell by their spelling/syntax & the fact that they always want to "Yahoo messenger" or want to message off site immediately. Update your settings to filter out who can send you messages & keep on looking in the real world b/c that is where success usually lies. On line dating is only supposed to be used as a supplementary tool, not the only access when looking for dates. Perhaps put in your profile that you will never send anyone $, or that you are unemployed LOL! May help weed out the scammers. In over a year I have only gotten 2 messages from "real" men on this site who were local. Every single other one has been from scammers.
Sighhhhh....

Geez100's photo
Sun 10/18/15 07:25 AM

Yes Mystique80, this site is very much a center for scammers. Everyone says to be active in the forums, but that wont help you find a date since the forums are populated by nice folks who live in other states or countries LOL!


The people who actually send you any messages are not generally the ones you are looking for. As for the scammers, it's very easy to tell by their spelling/syntax & the fact that they always want to "Yahoo messenger" or want to message off site immediately. Update your settings to filter out who can send you messages & keep on looking in the real world b/c that is where success usually lies. On line dating is only supposed to be used as a supplementary tool, not the only access when looking for dates. Perhaps put in your profile that you will never send anyone $, or that you are unemployed LOL! May help weed out the scammers. In over a year I have only gotten 2 messages from "real" men on this site who were local. Every single other one has been from scammers.
Sighhhhh....


Yes you are right in everything you have said, I believe you but they are still good and genuine men

Geez100's photo
Sun 10/18/15 07:31 AM

Yes Mystique80, this site is very much a center for scammers. Everyone says to be active in the forums, but that wont help you find a date since the forums are populated by nice folks who live in other states or countries LOL!
You have an age limit inbox let's talk
The people who actually send you any messages are not generally the ones you are looking for. As for the scammers, it's very easy to tell by their spelling/syntax & the fact that they always want to "Yahoo messenger" or want to message off site immediately. Update your settings to filter out who can send you messages & keep on looking in the real world b/c that is where success usually lies. On line dating is only supposed to be used as a supplementary tool, not the only access when looking for dates. Perhaps put in your profile that you will never send anyone $, or that you are unemployed LOL! May help weed out the scammers. In over a year I have only gotten 2 messages from "real" men on this site who were local. Every single other one has been from scammers.
Sighhhhh....

blah..blah..'s photo
Tue 10/20/15 09:23 AM
the forums are a good way of chatting to genuine people,if all else, fails, then you have some new friends?
unfortunately due to the sheer amount of scam profiles now,most of the people i talked to and became friends with, including myself, have either deactivated or just don't use this site anymore, which is a shame, as a couple of months ago it was a fun site, and the forums were very busy, now there are hardly any new interesting posts.

one day last week i logged on and went to the forum homepage, every single post was a scam message or an advert,so i never even bothered, just logged straight back off.
i know there aren't many mods and they have a hard job as it is and it's not a criticism of them, but there are just too many scammers on here now for it to be enjoyable.

good luck to everyone i have met and spoke to and good luck to everyone else i haven't!

Geez100's photo
Tue 10/20/15 03:08 PM

the forums are a good way of chatting to genuine people,if all else, fails, then you have some new friends?
unfortunately due to the sheer amount of scam profiles now,most of the people i talked to and became friends with, including myself, have either deactivated or just don't use this site anymore, which is a shame, as a couple of months ago it was a fun site, and the forums were very busy, now there are hardly any new interesting posts.

one day last week i logged on and went to the forum homepage, every single post was a scam message or an advert,so i never even bothered, just logged straight back off.
i know there aren't many mods and they have a hard job as it is and it's not a criticism of them, but there are just too many scammers on here now for it to be enjoyable.

good luck to everyone i have met and spoke to and good luck to everyone else i haven't!


Why is life like this good people always suffer for the bad is unfair

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Tue 10/20/15 06:10 PM
For me it's a problem finding a man I'm really interested in and a man who is not in a hurry. Want some time to get to know someone.

Geez100's photo
Wed 10/21/15 04:54 AM

For me it's a problem finding a man I'm really interested in and a man who is not in a hurry. Want some time to get to know someone.


It has also been difficult for me, good people always find it add to meet and if they mee or see they will fall in the wrong hands, most of the ladies I see whom I know are real and genuine from their heart are older then me and some don't want younger men that has been my challenge, well you are older then me also and you look real and honest I don't mind if you don't mind us to give it a try by knowing each other first that will be nice

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Wed 10/21/15 06:20 PM
It would be nice to find a man who I feel compatible with and close to my age. I know I dislike cold weather so that is something I don't want. I want to be attracted to someone too. I am not finding anyone who fits that, to start with. I might be willing to move but I see that most guys my age are living where they want to live forever.

akdey's photo
Thu 10/22/15 08:52 PM
Hello dear can we be friends

akdey's photo
Thu 10/29/15 04:24 AM
Hello dear. .I'm also alone. ..can we be friends?

MelMaxx's photo
Thu 10/29/15 07:42 AM
~~~~Thread BUMP....to clear the cobwebs

vineet7's photo
Sun 11/01/15 06:38 AM
I would still rate this site ahead of sites like match.com which is a paid site. Scamsters are on paid sites too. Fake profiles are in abundance on match.com too. As the number of scamsters increase in leaps & bounds, their presence will surely be felt, not only on mingle, but at all other places. To beat scamsters, is not very difficult. Some of the key rules are:

1. If the profile has a pic, right click on the pic and search for it on google. You will know who this pic belongs to.

2. Ask for key details and search for it on google.

3. Scamsters have improved their English. So, a message with right grammar & spellings don't mean much.

4. First message with request to contact on specific e-mail id will lead you to a scam. Beware!

5. Any message related to money should be out-rightly rejected.

6. Never send any money to a online friend you have never met, whatever the request may be. Never share your bank details.

7. Do not interact with people with a sad story.

8. Messages too good to be true are generally fake. Remember, to win a lottery, you need to buy a ticket!

9. Easy money is always related to a crime. Stay away from easy money.

10. Research before going on a on-line date. The meeting must take place in a public place only. Inform a friend before you leave for a date.

11. Never register on a new site when asked by an on-line acquaintance.

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Mon 11/09/15 12:06 AM
Edited by Been2LongSince on Mon 11/09/15 12:07 AM
Experiences and challenges of online dating... ...have a couple hours?? :)

Been online dating for the last 5 yrs since my divorce (I wanted kids, she changed her mind, so we amicable split). I've had maybe 3 dates in that time. Obviously, none went beyond that as we were looking for other things or not really compatible. But seriously... 3 dates in 5 yrs?? And these were all initiated by her.

My entire life since jr high school - no girl or woman has ever said "yes" to me asking her out. I'm a very polite, caring, respectful, giving person and a bit shy - so I don't act like a d-bag when asking someone out, but I get "friend-zoned" quite easily - especially since I'm average looking. All relationships I've ever had have come from women knowing me from mutual activities where they see what a great guy I am. So then they ask me out. And it either works out for while or not.

I thought online dating might be easier for me as I can put up a profile and women can see how great of a guy I am. But it doesn't seem to be working in my favor at all. Being 5'7", I don't fit in the "tall" category that a lot of women want - they like their high heel shoe collection more than finding real love (I know not all women are like this, but this is one of the challenges I face). Online dating is like grocery shopping - you scan products and read label after label and while you may run across a great product that would really be great, you eliminate it because of some trivial stat (height, weight, hair, or whatever) and because you're overwhelmed by the volume of products out there.

I have tried pretty much every online dating site - paid and unpaid. This is one of the last sites I've tried. The hopeless romantic in me doesn't want to give up, but my realistic brain keeps reminding me of the definition of insanity - doing the same thing over and over again while expecting a different result every time.

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