HOW a longtime a single,separated or divorced man arrives to share suddenly in a new relationship; everything on his life (everything!)living room,kitchen,bathroom,bed,auto,...good and bad moments,laughs and tears,ideas and projects,,,and even $$...etc??. In my opinion; it's not an easy task!

HOW? HOW? HOW?

thanks for your serious comments

IMO 1 of 5 ways.

1. They don't, and they're perpetually single. Sometimes they think they are by making little confessions, and little sharings, but it's mostly trying to do the minimum to keep the other person around, to give the appearance of bonding and growing.

2. Lots of time, until they have "dated" or been in a relationship with someone long enough that the other person is pretty much family, and they don't hide things so much as just not share until it becomes immediately relevant.

3. They take a risk and just do it. Sometimes by choice. Sometimes due to fear of losing someone they are extremely attracted to and have positive associations with. They just ejaculate everything, sometimes in stages, and hope for the best.

4. They compromise and keep whatever they care about separate. Separate $, bad moments internalized, conflict avoidance, separate bathrooms, separate closets, personal space (e.g. man cave, sewing room).

5. They simply go through the natural process of a relationship where it's not seen as "sharing."
There's no "this is mine, this is yours, and I'm choosing to share mine with you, but I feel I'm losing something and I need you to acknowledge that, or I need you to share something in return."

Instead there's just this kinda "this is what we/I/you need to do, this is how we've decided it's going to get done, this is what we've got to do it with."

op ...I heard a really nice saying ... To heal you have to learn to trust again ... personally that is pretty true ... I always thought it was forgiveness ... but trust issues may be in your psyche... holding you back too...