Do you settle for less because you feel you are not good enough to date someone as some calls it, above you?

Past friends and I have discussed this and shared our thoughts - oh, she/he will not go out with me, she is too pretty or he is too good looking, I am out of her/his league, he/she looks fit and trimmed and he/she overweight, poor vs rich, non-materialistic vs materialistic, educated or not educated……..the lists goes on. Feel free to add...

..another good example to this, a past net friend had a weight problem, guys didn’t take interest in her much and the skinny gals got more attention than her. She accepted guys with weight problems like her even average Joe and older blokes that are lazy and not much going for them blah. This young woman was bright, well mannered, funny and just a nice people to get to know. She disappeared for while and one day she returns a totally different woman. She looked slimmer and sexy. The same blokes that didn’t look at her before wanted to date her.

An experience like hers, I wonder if you members have stores like this too. It doesn’t have to be a physical look ,….

Personally, if a man way out of my league materialistically takes interests in me, I would question his motive. I tend to lean towards people who are like my present self who breaths the same lingo, interests, experiences…though I know being too comfortable here I will not grow.

I know what you mean. I never thought myself that great looking. (Mainly due to skin problems due to meds.) I don't think I would question motives though. If someone is interested in me that is "out of my league" I would jump on that train and see where it leads. My shyness has cause me a few missed opportunities in the past so I try to be more assertive.

well sin 39, aren't you a breath of spring air. u speak the truth from australia.

A young man told me the other day, he really like this girl but she was always interested in the "cool" type of guys. (whatever that is lol) He said she is too good for him. I know there's more to his issue...but I have heard more people think the same.

Duffy

Chazster - sad how some pass you by because of your skin problems eh....their loss.

I have the opposite thing going - I am going for the highest class possible. Gotta have brains, wit, charm and the body of a goddess.

But that's me.

aim high......


































until "last call"

I don't but into the league or class distinctions.
One day you might be rich and well educated and the next broke or you fall on your head, leaving you with the brainpower of a labotomized circus chimp and drooling all over yourself.
People are people. No seperation other than the ones you create or don't.

ha ha!!

Actually sin I dont know if they pass me by because of it. Its just one of those things that we don't like about ourselves. We always see them as worse than other people. I actually think girls are less shallow about those kinds of things than guys. My last girl friend said it didn't bother her and I have had other girls interested in me when my skin was worse than it currently is.

Anyway if they pass me by because of it then they weren't worth it anyway. I am sure dating will become easier in 8 months when I graduate and have a job. I will actually have time and a promising career doesn't hurt either. Women like successful guys lol.

Your aim must be something you can achieve or accomplish too, otherwise you are talking from your a-ss That is the reality for some!

Everyone puts their pants on one leg at a time, they eat sleep and sh*t like the rest of us....

Settle for less?


Never....I settle for my worth.

I wonder why some people are not happy in their relationships, did they settle for comfy?

Did they cheat themselves for not being honest to themselves?

I know there's an overall package that comes with each relationship but look at how you look at people and their profiles, pics, their nature, blah blah... do any of what I said came to mind or you gonna think its too shallow to agree oi no one is going to kill ya for thinking, its a wise thing to do that benefits you!

the only people above me are tall people

Gypsy tried to make me settle for less once, she said I could only get the happy meal at MikceyD's when she dragged me out shopping

the real issue here is perfectionism
for someone who cannot tolerate imperfections
is always disappointed
and experiencing constant disappointment
merely interferes
with the joyful imperfect life all around us

Hey never diss the happy meal!!!! I had it today!!!

i wanna happy meal

ummmmmmmmmm happy meals all round????

did it make you happy?

unfortunately no but I was starving and the drive thru was on my way home.... thats what you get when you forget to eat......you go bananas when you see any food chain!!!

When two people with two separate lives come together, inevitably there are differences in ideology, personality, character, lifestyle, perspective and expectation. As a result, it requires understanding, effort, and compromises to unite the two people, while still maintaining each individual’s identity. The more differences there are between the two, the more effort is required to make the relationship work.

Perhaps, instead of thinking whether someone is “in our league” or “out of our league”, we should be thinking of compatibility. Whether it is social status, possession, or lifestyle, if the two people are at the different ends of the spectrum, then it is so much harder. For example, if one person likes the nightlife party until 3 o’clock in the morning, but the other gets the high from being athletic, which requires proper diet, rest and training, then the lifestyle incompatibility is an issue.

As for your friend, she should see the silver lining in her prior situation. Does she now really want to be with those people who passed her off before? I sure hope not. The few people who wanted to be with her before, for her personality and qualities, would likely to stand by her side through thick and thin, because it was love, rather than lust. No matter how beautiful, wealthy or healthy we are today, we never know for sure what will happen to us tomorrow. A trying time is when we really know who truly loves us. It is better to find out who is real now than tomorrow.