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Topic: The "I'll call you" lie.
catinidaho Joined Fri 10/24/14 Posts: 10625	Mon 05/30/16 05:17 PM
It's not that easy at the end of a first date when one person liked the other person and the other had no interest.

Maxsterx Joined Mon 03/07/16 Posts: 2314	Mon 05/30/16 05:34 PM
Or...it was nice meeting you..shake his hand and don't mention anything about calling or making a second date  In the event of a potential rejection, maybe men and women should start walking with small consolation prizes in their purse or wallet. I wouldn't mind weeping my way through a free avocado facial Parting gifts?... like on a game show?...actually, thats not a bad idea.

peggy122 Joined Sun 12/27/15 Posts: 6525	Mon 05/30/16 05:45 PM
Or...it was nice meeting you..shake his hand and don't mention anything about calling or making a second date  In the event of a potential rejection, maybe men and women should start walking with small consolation prizes in their purse or wallet. I wouldn't mind weeping my way through a free avocado facial Parting gifts?... like on a game show?...actually, thats not a bad idea. Yeah. Its kinda like saying . " You sucked, but thanks for playing !"

Maxsterx Joined Mon 03/07/16 Posts: 2314	Mon 05/30/16 06:23 PM
Or...it was nice meeting you..shake his hand and don't mention anything about calling or making a second date  In the event of a potential rejection, maybe men and women should start walking with small consolation prizes in their purse or wallet. I wouldn't mind weeping my way through a free avocado facial Parting gifts?... like on a game show?...actually, thats not a bad idea. Yeah. Its kinda like saying . " You sucked, but thanks for playing !" Handing them appropriate porn cd.

SitkaRains Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 17228	Mon 05/30/16 06:26 PM
It's not that easy at the end of a first date when one person liked the other person and the other had no interest. I disagree we are all adults. What one make want the other may not. So end it with class on both parts. There is no reason to lie. OR be rude just wish them well.

avinash2544 Joined Mon 05/30/16 Posts: 6	Mon 05/30/16 06:30 PM
hi

avinash2544 Joined Mon 05/30/16 Posts: 6	Mon 05/30/16 06:31 PM
yes

avinash2544 Joined Mon 05/30/16 Posts: 6	Mon 05/30/16 06:34 PM
Well thank you for your honesty! I will quietly continue to enjoy it for what it was and STOP fretting over what I did wrong! hi

Dewman01 Joined Sun 05/15/16 Posts: 12	Mon 05/30/16 10:34 PM
I hate when a girl lies and she says I'll call u and she never does

SparklingCrystal 💖💎 Joined Mon 05/20/13 Posts: 33251	Tue 05/31/16 02:40 AM
I've thought about this. If you are on a first date with someone and you're having that feeling by the end that you're not into wanting to go out again, how do you end it? This was nice. Bye. This right here is the main reason I Pay my way... And when I know it isn't going to work..I smile thank them for their time.... shake their hand.. and as I walk away I wish them the best in their search.end of story... First dates honestly IMHO there isn't a lot vested there ...it is a meet and greet to see if we want to date so to me if someone says I will call you I am like sure you will ... Seeing is believing on this stuff. My point exactly!

SparklingCrystal 💖💎 Joined Mon 05/20/13 Posts: 33251	Tue 05/31/16 02:45 AM
It's not that easy at the end of a first date when one person liked the other person and the other had no interest. It is the easiest at the end of a FIRST date. Like Sitka said, there's nothing vested yet. Sounds like you feel that even after a first date you owe someone?? You don't owe them anything. You just spent a bit of time together, you're not feeling it. End of discussion. It IS as simple as that. But if you have a problem with saying "no", feel insecure maybe, I can understand it's not so easy. I can be somewhat insecure and shy too, but I've ended up in LTR because of that, not having the baws to say "No" when I should have. And now I flatly refuse to let that happen to me again. That gives me the strength to just do it. And I've learnt there is nothing to it. You owe it to yourself to not get involved in something that doesn't feel right. And sure it can be a tad awkward if you sense the other IS interested. But you know, that is their problem, not yours. Don't make it yours. THey're adults, and should be able to handle such things. If they don't they weren't right for you to begin with. Don't let this stuff stop you from dating (if you do).

Valeris Joined Wed 01/21/15 Posts: 453	Tue 05/31/16 08:51 PM Edited by Valeris on Tue 05/31/16 08:52 PM
"I'll call you later..." laying in bed "OH C*AP I FORGOT TO CALL HIM!"