i just posted on a topic and it got me thinking. when someone cheats on you then your left wondering why after you find out. simple. same reason i smoke.

eh? yeah.

i smoke because its something i do. i dont remember when i started or even why now. i just know i do. i know its bad but i do it anyways.

when a significant other goes behind your back to get something you would freely give them, they know its bad. (if they care. if they dont to hell with them.) there is probably any combination of a million reasons why.

you cant do anything about it once its happened but there is a chance to stop it from happening. it involves communication and honesty. you need to talk with them about things they want and perhaps even desire. heres a few ideas.

if you see her lookin at pictures of ripped guys and she is kinda all oggling them. take a moment to look in the mirror. maybe a lil flabby in the middle. get a gym membership. stick to it. get results. make sure its you she oggles over.

if your sex life is gettin kinda played out from same ol same ol. spice it up. try some new things. rent a dirty movie. buy some toys. hell go to a trip club. something. men if she has asked you to go down on her and your all like "naw man. i dont do that stuff man its all weird." you need to buck up and prepare to dive. i havent met a woman yet who didnt love it once you got started. and practice makes perfect. same for you ladies. men love oral sex too.

maybe the bodies and sex lives are fine. maybe its a matter of someone not getting enough attention. always offer to spend time with each other and not just be in the same room. if your playing on the computer and they want to cuddle, get off the computer and cuddle. the internet (barring the end of the world) will be there tomorrow. they may not be.

stress sucks. it makes you cranky. but when you get home even from the worst day of work always remember who you are talking to. the person you speak to is someone you care about. never yell at them. never hurt them. beating your spouse until they are too scared to go anywhere is never a way to win her love.

look at the one you care about. always tell them you love them. dont forget for even one day. tell them several times. show you love them. do for them whatever you can even if it means you will yourself do without.

these are only a few things. it works with both sexes. its not foolproof by any means. sometimes it will just happen no matter what you do. but ive noticed time and again its happened to someone and if they had followed one of the 5 things i mentioned above it would have help saved it.

feel free to leave feedback and opinions.

My ex-husband cheated on me over and over, guess that is why he is my ex now, i still love him, and we have two daughters but dont do what I did and try to get back at him by cheating yourself , two wrongs dont make a right....

As I said on the other thread .. they stay with YOU as a safety net. Promise.

its all pretty harsh. sometimes thats what you end up being. i hate that too.

I've cheated before. Been cheated on too.

Don't do it, it's bad for all parties involved.

I know, you get all hot and heavy and in the moment, but in the end, you only end up hurting yourself, your loved one, and the new one.

It really is on you to not cheat since you're in that position.

Now, if you're the one being cheated on, then that's a different story, and I'm sorry that it happened to you.

OP......uhhhhhhhhhh come again???? I cant believe you spout that stuff out of your mouth????

A cheater is scum.....not worth anyone's time...has nothing to do with the other person.

If you cheat, you are a piece of garbage. That is that, no question about it.

Anyone who doesn't agree with that, YOU ARE A MORON.

I have been cheated on in every relationship I have been in. I have no patience for cheaters anymore.

I have been cheated on and it really sucks. I can tell you that I was doing the things listed and I still got cheated on. The only thing I can figure is the guy that cheated on me is a moron that didn't realize what he had and now I am so much better off!! I do think that cheating can be a symptom of problems in a relationship but it is never the person who got cheated on's fault! Cheating can also mean there are some problems with the cheater themselves, issues that they need to work on or it will keep happening.
just my 2 cents.

Is that a mini me?????

Lee...

I think so g/f




By the way...

cheaters are SCUM, I agree. There is never a reason to cheat, if your not happy get out of it, enough said.

Cheaters: Why they do It?

Because they have no honor, courage, integrity or character........

my baby daddy said he cheated for something different. it doesnt matter why a person does it the fact is they did. i tried new things with him but it was never enough. He cheats because he wants to, doesnt want to be tied down, same goes for females that do. The fact is its wrong and hurts alot of people and puts them through hell and back. so just dont do it :)

Been there and got the t-shirt, apathy. I think we hang around and forgive in much the same way a battered spouse does, although not quite apples to apples. Karma will come around the corner and run over her dogma -- I know it did for my ex.

course some people are greedy and just wanna screw as many people as they can i suppose. sometimes no matter what it cant be helped.

Its quite simple. No one would cheat if they would just be happy with what they have, but unfortunately it doesn't work that way.

With a woman, its the idea of "She wants what she cant have" The idea is, the less obtainable something is, the more she must have it, and no matter how big the obstacle, she will do anything to get what she wants. Usually once a girl gets what she wants, she doesn't want it anymore, and then moves on to someone or something else.

With a guy, its the "What if" scenario, Hes with a girl, and sometime down the road meets another girl whom he finds to be very attractive, and he thinks to himself, "What if I was with her instead of my current girlfriend?" Granted that sounds stupid, but its true. Its basically like a child, wanting everything that he sees in sight.