There is nothing wrong to be single but loneliness is a problem. Singleness helps you to discover yourself ,prepare yourself to be ready for a relationship which could lead to marriage. The problem we face today ,we jump into things without preparing

Im a single guy dated a lady recently but I've discovered that we were not meant to be, I've spent time preparing myself so that I know what is expected of me. As a man that have a vision you don't want to bring somebody into your life that will destroy that vision.

That's why you need to take it slow, being hasty will often crush your dreams.

Hi Dravin ,yes brother ,I'm taking it real slow now, I think the best way to start a relationship is to be friends first, and take it from there.

A lady, moving on high heels, has a lower speed than a gentleman on wheels ...

Smiles, I see you like high heels

There might be.
The more you do anything, the more practice you have at doing that thing, the more comfortable you get in doing that thing.

If you're going to be single, have lots of relationships with friends, family, coworkers, in general, IMO.

Ask anyone that's been married for 40 years what it's like to just be dumped into the dating pool.


Loneliness is a push to not be single, because single can be problematic.


Relationships are better at that, IMO.
If you want to know what you look like, do you just look at yourself?
Or do you find a mirror?
Relationships = mirrors. How you treat and interact with people is reflected back at you. Who you are is reflected back at you.
Then the danger comes from the cracked, warped, and funhouse ones that give you a distorted image. e.g. if all your relationships are based on internet/text/email/impersonal interaction.


IMO this is like saying "staying out of school allows you to do nothing but think about how to prepare yourself to go to school."


IMO the problem we face today is we try to over prepare, or by not thinking and only jumping into things focused on how we should feel afterwards.

You can't learn to swim by building a boat first.
You can't learn to swim by jumping into any random body of water because you think swimming will make you happy.

I don't get lonely very often, and there is nothing wrong with being single.Not everyone should be looking to get married. It's not for everyone.

So far so good, OP.

In my experience and observation, people have to make mistakes in several directions before they really understand themselves and the world. So my on word of caution to you would be not to come down on yourself too badly if your latest strategy turns out to have drawbacks of a different kind than the rush-into-love approach you've set aside.

Always more to learn.

You can be in a relationship and still be lonely.

Being single does not mean loneliness by any means. I like being single. The.only reason I get lonely is by allowing myself to be lonely.

I am really sorry if you got dumped after 40years. Like I said singleness is important, when a cake flops you look at the ingredients, the problem might not have been with you , bt there was a problem before you got married, that thing was brought into the marriage by the single one. Sex and love doesn't keep a marriage together but information, as a single guy I'm learning the needs and wants of a woman so that I know what is. The needs of a woman is different from the needs of a man.

I'd like to think that I am being prepared for the greatness of a soul that I can be worthy of.......then I am worthy of the same preparedness.

To be honest before God, the devil is fighting marriages, and woman if you don't pray for your husband or marriage the devil will destroy it.

I agree that relationships would do better with more cake.

a prudent wife is from the Lord, brother I pray that God sent you the right wife

GOSH!!! I love cake!

Me too. Let's find a wife who will bake us cake!

If she's ok with being barefoot...cool

Well she'd have to be to make good cake.