Topic: Is it Lust or it is Love
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Sun 08/21/16 10:02 PM
People these days tend to confuse the two. You must havr lust to love a person. Of which from the definition of love, i think lust dont fit it... Bt in reality they walk side by side.

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Mon 08/22/16 04:48 AM
Those things have ALWAYS been confused. Often, on purpose.

The biggest challenge for most of us, is that ut takes a while to figure out which is which WITHIN OURSELVES. And only after we do, do we have a shot at identifying it in someone else.

Keep trying and observing, within and without, and you'll find a way.

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Mon 08/22/16 07:45 AM
Is it Lust or it is Love

I don't know.
What "it" are you referring to?

All that comes to mind from this question are teenagers being flooded with hormones, driven to emotional knee jerks, and then saying something like "You just don't know! It's true love! It's real! You can't know how I feel!"

Something from an after school special.

People these days tend to confuse the two.

I don't think most adults do.
I think at best a lot of adults believe love easily accompanies lust.
But I think a lot of people promise or confess love in order to satiate lust. And the pleasure incentivizes the rose colored glasses to keep from questioning it too deeply when they're interacting.
So it's not confusion so much as trusting something that isn't real.

You must havr lust to love a person.

Well that's going to make mothers day awkward.

Of which from the definition of love, i think lust dont fit it

I think it fits in with Websters definitions.
Which definition of love are you using?

in reality they walk side by side.

IMO not really.

I do think a lot of people tend to not understand the process or role of love and lust in relationships and mating and when lust starts waning they think the relationship and love is "stale."




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Mon 08/22/16 09:05 AM
I will try to help and clear up some of the confusion, Lust is when all you want out of the other person is sex. Love is when sex is only one small part of the relationship and the other person becomes an intricate part of most aspects of your life. You can have lust that turns into love but it seldom works the other way and it is possible to lust after someone and never love them.

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Mon 08/22/16 09:38 AM
Edited by CowboyGH on Mon 08/22/16 09:53 AM

People these days tend to confuse the two. You must havr lust to love a person. Of which from the definition of love, i think lust dont fit it... Bt in reality they walk side by side.


Incorrect my friend....

Lust is a physical, turn on, sexual form of attraction
Love is more mentality, emotional, sentimental form of attraction

The two can be confusing at first, but become clear when you sit back and think about the intentions, or the thing that influences your emotion... one will last forever, the other bout 10 minutes.

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Mon 08/22/16 09:45 AM


People these days tend to confuse the two. You must havr lust to love a person. Of which from the definition of love, i think lust dont fit it... Bt in reality they walk side by side.


Incorrect my friend....

Lust is a physical, turn on, sexual form of attraction
Love is more mentality, emotional, sentimental for of attraction

The two can be confusing at first, but become clear when you sit back and think about the intentions, or the thing that influence your emotion... one will last forever, the other bout 10 minutes.


I agree with this 100 percent..

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Mon 08/22/16 02:18 PM
The two become very clear with age and experience.

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Mon 08/22/16 09:35 PM

Is it Lust or it is Love

I don't know.
What "it" are you referring to?

All that comes to mind from this question are teenagers being flooded with hormones, driven to emotional knee jerks, and then saying something like "You just don't know! It's true love! It's real! You can't know how I feel!"

Something from an after school special.

People these days tend to confuse the two.

I don't think most adults do.
I think at best a lot of adults believe love easily accompanies lust.
But I think a lot of people promise or confess love in order to satiate lust. And the pleasure incentivizes the rose colored glasses to keep from questioning it too deeply when they're interacting.
So it's not confusion so much as trusting something that isn't real.

You must havr lust to love a person.

Well that's going to make mothers day awkward.

Of which from the definition of love, i think lust dont fit it

I think it fits in with Websters definitions.
Which definition of love are you using?

in reality they walk side by side.

IMO not really.

I do think a lot of people tend to not understand the process or role of love and lust in relationships and mating and when lust starts waning they think the relationship and love is "stale."




Well that's a different way of putting it. Sounds like many people aren't grounded just like putting the cart before the horse and justifying the two lust and love. Could we call it cart before the horse syndrome?

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Mon 08/22/16 09:48 PM

The two become very clear with age and experience.
I agree but not everyone some are so ingrained in there way of life they can't see or won't rewire the circuit. The don't know how to get out of there own way.

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Mon 08/22/16 11:34 PM

People these days tend to confuse the two. You must havr lust to love a person. Of which from the definition of love, i think lust dont fit it... Bt in reality they walk side by side.

..no..love is a deep feeling that can hold dear to many..and is shared..lust is a surface feeling..it to pertains to many but only for self gratification ...so love is above lust..and holding hands..hmmm