i was just at a funeral of a friend.there were OVER 140 people in the church.i am not proud of the fact that i have not shed a tear for anyones funeral since my mom passed away 15 years 7 months and 4 days ago.i am seriously wondering if my nickname of heartless-s.o.b. is true about me. why is it when a gal hurts me that i shed one and only one tear but at a funeral of a friend or family member i don't shed any? does anyone have a logical reason for this? PLEASE i need advice. peace.

Well i give u some advice...DONT BE SO ****ING MORBID<<<<HOW THE HELL DO U EXPECT A RESPONSE>>>>>>ARE U CRAZY?????

Maybe just maybe if you allow yourself to shed a tear or two your afraid that you won't stop........or it could be because you were taught that men don't cry........what a bunch of bs.......go ahead shed those tears tonight in the shower so it mingles with the water if that will make you feel better about it.......leave it out

last time i shed tears at a certain funeral was my older brother--since then haven't shed at any funreals i've been into--
guess that's part of life--

well - sorry to hear about your friend. in reference to your question - everyone reacts differently to lousy situations. just because most people cry, doesn't mean you have to. i am not a cryer either. as long as you have another outlet for your emotions, i say not to worry.

ahhhh the wise man hath spoken.hey shadowdog.

hey joe--

mementoman i think you may need help.but i am who i am.been on here ALOT longer than you.

Everyone deals with grief in their own way... It doesn't make you heartless just because you don't cry.. I am sure that you are sad, but you should not automatically think there is something wrong with yourself. I don't think anyone should be programmed or told how they should grieve...

my father was military ..saw the viet nam war twice,he taught me that men dont cry and because i looked up to him and respected his wishes as a young boy i couldnt cry..if i try to it doesnt feel right..does any of this sound familiar...

so shadowdog what's new with you? got caught by a gal yet?

tombraider i was in air cadets. they were starting in on "no tears is the sign of manliness" b.s..

btw--my older brother passed on in 1965 after the drunk knocked him clear thru the yard of normal house's yard--changed since then--

sorry to hear that sd.

klc those are good words of wisdom.

I am been on a lot longer than you???,,,,,,,,,oh my god you cant even spell english u stupid yank,,,dont you mean i have been on here a lot longer than you????? go eat a ****ing donut or corndog u stupid yank....or go start a war you cant and wont win,,,like usuall

yea--i'm chattin' with blondesrockermom now--

It's alright. There is no rules to emtions or how to act. It's alright. Sorry to hear about your loss. I hope everything gets better for you soon.

someone one here has a problem.calling a canadian a yank? what is wrong with that?

kids------