What cliches make you shake your head?

for me, it is' be yourself' , 'thats not me', 'thats just who I am'

quite literally

We cannot be anyone but 'ourself', we can be a version of 'ourself' that focuses on happiness, or that focuses on acceptance, or that might focus on a hundred different things

but we can not be anyone but us,,,

what is at the top of your silly cliche list?

sometimes what a person may say ...
can put me on a defensive side...or I can decide to just look at it in a different way ...


but your right we are who we are ... but there are other factors ...
that not all know about yourself ... which can make it complicated too...

Pretty much anything put on a dating site profile has become cliche.
Those always shake my head.

Other than that cliches only really make me shake my head when they're used as an entire point or an attempt to end a conversation, a shortcut where one isn't warranted, rather than start a point or further a conversation.


That's only meaningful if you had access to a 3rd person absolutely objective godlike perception of yourself and/or others.

We can communicate "ourself" in ways that give other people the wrong idea.

To me "be yourself" has come to mean "be aware of who/what/how you're communicating to the other person/people (if you give a crap about them)."
IMO "be yourself" can be a relevant shortcut to remind someone that the perceptions of others are different and matter.

Everyone has social facades they've cultivated and nurtured, some their entire lives.
Ask the people that hate social gatherings, and need their "personal space" or "me time" in relationships.
Those are the people with either weak/inadequate social facades, or extremely strong ones that require so much effort and mental/emotional energy "down time" is needed to "recharge" them.
Social facades take energy and effort. To maintain them, and get them to adapt to fluid or new situations.

There is always that disconnect between how you see yourself and how others see you, and both help define who you are and how you see yourself.

There is always that disconnect between who you are in control of your emotions and who you are when your emotions seem to take over.
You can't see yourself as a "rational and logical" person, and easily deal with "omg, that date was so great, I keep giggling like a schoolgirl, I must be happy."

Try not to worry about it.

How can you try and not worry about something, you either do or you don't.

I have a love\hate with "It is what it is."

I certainly agree with dealing with reality...Let Go Let God..etc

But it's so overused and often in the wrong context. I guess I just have a problem with all things trite.

Topic: Cliches

That's life in the big city, I hate that one.