Bouncing off a posting in another thread...
When approx do you start thinking about the future with the one you're seeing? To start to look down that road?

Reason for asking... men often know within 5 mins she's the one he wants to grow old with, yet I've also noticed many men do not want to think about the future too soon? That seems to contradict? So how does that work for you guys? Can you even look down the road, if so, why don't you?

And girls, do you think of the future almost right away or can you date someone for yonks without doing that?


I know I can't. When I invest in someone, I need to know it's potentially going somewhere. I need to feel it's not "just dating".
I don't do 'just dating', I can't. When I'm not interested in a future with a guy I'm not interested in dating him either. It's the way I'm wired, if I don't feel he is a potential match, I simply lose interest on the spot.
Plus, I get attached easily so there has to be mutual interest for more than that, otherwise I'll end up getting hurt.

Which boils down to: When I date a guy for the 2nd time or more, I am interested in a future with him. Otherwise he wouldn't have made it to round 2
Suffice it to say that in all the 4 yrs being single no one made it to round 2 but him