Topic: Why????
RaceryChyck's photo
Sat 11/24/07 03:24 PM
Okay here is the situation.. I was dating this guy for almost two years, we have a kid together, and he calls it off saying he doesn't want to be in a relationship/commitment. And this happened about two months ago. Well he has gotten jealous when i met with an ex last week and now he is upset cuz I am going to go meet someone tonight. But yet he went and screwed a coworker on thursday night and then was butt sore when she told him that she doesn't want a relationship. But yet she told him today that the only reason she doesn't want to date him because of his past relationships and wants him to prove that he could be faithful to start off with.. And he is telling me that he doesn't want to hear about me meeting someone else or seeing anyone else.. And he knows I still love him and care for him and he says he doesn't believe me since I am going to meet someone. I told him it isn't like me and this other guy are going to jump into a relationship right off the bat.. And i am not gonna screw this guy right away either. I am sooo confused on what to do. I want to meet this other guy but I hate it when people are upset with me.. And to top all this me and my ex, who's mad at me, live together.. I really want to be friends with him and us to raise the baby together. If I had my way we would still be together... What should I do????

Jill298's photo
Sat 11/24/07 03:40 PM
You can't move on while you are still living together... and obviously you still love your ex so it's really not fair to this other guy that you want to meet.
You need to be able to cut your ties with your ex (besides things that have to do with your child) Only talk to him about things that regard the child you have together. Before you get into another relationship, you can't still be in the middle of one with your ex, trust me, I tried it... It fails miserably everytime.
One of you needs to move out so both of you can move on.
He doesn't have the right to be jealous if he is not with you anymore.
I hope this helps.

nanafry's photo
Sat 11/24/07 03:46 PM
If he doesn't want a relationship tell him to move on and OUT, and get on with your life. You can do it, believe me it is better to not be with them just because of a child. The child will suffer in the long run, I know my children did.

RaceryChyck's photo
Sat 11/24/07 03:52 PM
well the reason I haven't booted him out if cuz I can't afford the bills on my own and we don't sleep together.. He sleeps on the couch right now.. We have had sex in the last week but because of what happened thursday I am done with his games.. I am not going to sit here on the back burner waiting for him..