Topic: why boy/girl cheat after having so much love to bury each ot
aLsxxx's photo
Tue 07/11/17 10:36 AM
Can anyone tell me

Basha's photo
Tue 07/11/17 12:23 PM
For the thrill I guess~

I love pizza's... doesn't mean I can live eating only pizza's all my life~

Annierooroo's photo
Tue 07/11/17 12:50 PM
To be honest I don't know
All I can put it down to is selfishness

soufiehere's photo
Tue 07/11/17 01:01 PM

why boy/girl cheat after having so much love to bury each ot

If you already buried someone we will need a map.

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Tue 07/11/17 01:02 PM


why boy/girl cheat after having so much love to bury each ot

If you already buried someone we will need a map.

surprised laugh
Soufie, have you had a coffee and cake at Pisces new place?

IgorFrankensteen's photo
Tue 07/11/17 02:13 PM
I suspect that the reason most younger people end up cheating, is not so much because they are dishonest, per se. I think it's because they promise NOT to cheat, without having any real understanding about what an adult commitment really is. And since they really are just kids, when caught, they use little kid excuses to explain themselves.

discgolfpoet's photo
Tue 07/11/17 02:48 PM
Agreeing with previous quotes, ppl who cheat have lost the concept of love and what it truly means

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Tue 07/11/17 03:14 PM
why boy/girl cheat after having so much love
Can anyone tell me

Mating instinct is stronger than social conditioning if social conditioning is not consistently and constantly reinforced.

Pair bonded, biological process developed, love interferes with lust.
Full on, biological, pair bonded love doesn't fully develop without pregnancy.
Full on, biological, pair bonded love only lasts about as long as it takes for a baby to be able to run and physically feed itself.
Pregnancy is not a guarantee for pair bonded love, but pair bonded love is not possible without pregnancy. The purpose of love is not actualization of personal emotional fulfillment. It's to keep a relationship together long enough to provide for the survival of offspring.


Socially defined "love" is only as strong as society's enforced rules, only to the degree of recognized power, and only to the degree of perceived benefit to upholding (living up to expectations) society's (the group) rules.
e.g. experiments on kids. Put a chocolate cake in front of them and tell them not to touch it, then leave the room. Most kids sneak some cake.
Their mother tells them they will lose their favorite toy, get a spanking, the kids don't eat the cake.
Some stranger they've never met before tells them they will ground them or take their favorite toy, the kids sneak some cake.
Some stranger they've never met before menacingly tells them he/she will spank the kid, the kids don't eat any cake.


People cheat because they don't really have to fear the risk, cost, or consequences.
Do they get fired? Jailed? Strung up in public?
No.
They may destroy a relationship. May.
In today's society what is worse, someone making a mistake? Or someone refusing to forgive, holding anger or playing the victim?
If someone cheats, do they have difficulty in finding a new relationship? Someone else?

If a relationship fails, is there much difficulty in finding a social support group? Other people to date or be in a relationship with?
If one person is emotionally hurt, is their life over? Does it follow them around as part of their identity? Are they consumed by it?
Or is the ideal in social training that you can overcome anything, that there are people that can help you, that you can be independent, and strong, overcome, and survive anything? That they're the bad guy, you're the good guy?

Are the risks, costs, consequences to cheating any worse than anything else that ends a relationship?
What's the divorce rate? What are the options for dating new people?

Realistically and practically in society; what's the difference between
a relationship failing because one person cheated vs. growing apart vs. wanting to be "just friends" vs. divorce for financial reasons?

People cheat because the driving purpose to get into relationships anymore is more about selfish individual emotional fulfillment rather than mutual benefit, purpose, and living up to social ideals.




squirtd's photo
Tue 07/11/17 03:16 PM
that's what they was taught I went through it