Topic: help me out....
fivespeedrt's photo
Sat 12/01/07 03:32 PM
im wondering somtimes if im too nice.... everyone wants to be my freind but no one want a relationship .... hmmmmmmmm.... everyone that i know says im fine keep being who i am but at this pt its still landing me with nuthin... im waiting but lookin at the time is gettin a little borning lol... any advice?

stevenpwis's photo
Sat 12/01/07 03:35 PM
just be yourself, your time will come

fivespeedrt's photo
Sat 12/01/07 03:36 PM
yeh i guess thats right i have been in some bad realtionships but all of them have seemed to teach a life lesson in some odd way or another

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Sat 12/01/07 03:38 PM
enjoy the time off ..if you know what i mean...glasses

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Sat 12/01/07 03:38 PM

...im waiting but lookin at the time is gettin a little borning lol... any advice?

Nice guys are boring too

read my hundred other posts about nice guys lol

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Sat 12/01/07 03:41 PM

Nice guys are boring too

read my hundred other posts about nice guys lol



that might take too long lol im just a simple ( well somtimes i wonder lol ) that has an active life that wants somone to share it with... its hard finding women who like fast cars and know anything about them lol

angelsway's photo
Sat 12/01/07 03:43 PM
your a cute guy, dont be in a hurry....maybe your lookin for the wrong type of girl....maybe you need a nice girl to go with your nice guy...

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Sat 12/01/07 03:45 PM
i have tried alot of diffrent people i want nice but not boring she has to know how to have fun. but not so much that i have to look after every little thing she does to make sure she dosnt get herself into trouble lol

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Sat 12/01/07 03:45 PM
I don't think there's really any way to find out if a person you just met will become a friend or something more. Being nice is actually a good thing, yes some girls do like the whole 'bad boy' attitude but in the end up most of those relationships end badly where as the nice guy has a lot more chance of sustaining a relationship. This is of course my personal opinion any 'bad boys' out there need not go on a rant :p

To be honest, and this is cliche'd as frak, you really have to stop looking. I think if your in the mind set when you meet a girl that you want a relationship that through some means they know and it puts them off thus leading to the dreaded friends zone XD

fivespeedrt's photo
Sat 12/01/07 03:49 PM
good pt... i try to let things fall as the may but they usually dont go anywhere lol

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Sat 12/01/07 03:50 PM

that might take too long lol im just a simple ( well somtimes i wonder lol ) that has an active life that wants somone to share it with... its hard finding women who like fast cars and know anything about them lol

well if a female partner is what youre looking for in terms of a girlfriend or anything like that, you really don't need that many commonalities. throw the concept of preferences out the window for now. consider preferences after you've mastered ATTRACTION.
You've already got a killer weapon in your arsenal - an active life - share that life with ANY lady and it will boost her dopamine through the roof, which in turn translates to intimate feelings toward you.
Get a rockin badass attitude to go along with your lifestyle cuz I THINK that will be congruent to who you are. A badass attitude will attract women like crazy. Forget Mr. Nice Guy, man.
Instead, aim for being a GOOD guy, not a "nice guy." A nice guy is a doormat. A good guy is the door. Yes, it is possible to be a badass good guy. Most action movies have at least one.

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Sat 12/01/07 03:54 PM
Hmm its a tough one, i mean i couldn't tell you how i get a girl to see me as something more than a friend. I don't think anyone could pin down the formula for it 0_0

I mean of course you have to give of those subtle signals that you want something more, granted most of those come naturally and subconsciously through body language and such..i realize i'm being very little help here matey....but i think this is just one of those things that we'll never really know the answer to. Billy Connoly had it right, the world of relationships would be a lot easier if we had a season for this kind of stuff ;)

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Sat 12/01/07 03:55 PM
well that is ture im a little bit of a bad ass my passion is cars and goin fast and im very good as drag racin at the track people seem to like that ... and the fact i drive a shiny red sports car

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Sat 12/01/07 03:56 PM
hey its cool i dont think there will be a day we will figure women out

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Sat 12/01/07 03:59 PM

hey its cool i dont think there will be a day we will figure women out

pay attention - there's a pickup artist right here talkin to you

we figured women out...and im givin u the answers lol

what you want, obviously, is to have women respond to you in an attracted and sexual manner, correct? men respond to women like this primarily based on the woman's looks. women respond to men like this primarily based on his social value and how he makes her feel. guess what that all boils down to?

confidence.

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Sat 12/01/07 04:01 PM
ture ture good pt

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Sat 12/01/07 04:02 PM

Hmm its a tough one, i mean i couldn't tell you how i get a girl to see me as something more than a friend. I don't think anyone could pin down the formula for it 0_0
...

Attraction + Comfort = Seduction

(Attraction + Comfort) - Attraction = Friend Zone

fivespeedrt's photo
Sat 12/01/07 04:04 PM
math is finally simple lol

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Sat 12/01/07 04:06 PM
I guess different people have different definitions of nice. I don't think nice guys are boring...boring guys are boring. Nice guys don't have to be doormats, tools are doormats. I think being a nice guy just means that you're not a scumbag, you don't treat women as mere sex objects or beat kittens, get in a bunch of fights over stupid stuff etc. Someone can be genuinly nice but still assertive a bit bold, daring etc.

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Sat 12/01/07 04:10 PM

I guess different people have different definitions of nice. I don't think nice guys are boring...boring guys are boring. Nice guys don't have to be doormats, tools are doormats. I think being a nice guy just means that you're not a scumbag, you don't treat women as mere sex objects or beat kittens, get in a bunch of fights over stupid stuff etc. Someone can be genuinly nice but still assertive a bit bold, daring etc.

Well, it's just that the Nice Guy is a cliche nowadays... the tool who tries to succumb to every whim of the female he admires, who tries to simulate all those romantic things he saw in the movies and heard in emo songs...
A guy who's actually respectful but has confidence within himself and is assertive is someone I refer to as a Good Guy.