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| Topic: a friend... a lover... where's the limit? | |
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in need for coffee now... I might as well make it an Irish coffee :) I have very closed friend and happen to be female.... we never crossed the line to act or being sexcual active as if we are in relationship... maybe somthing wrong with US  because she was only a friend... but if you considered her a romantic partner, things sure would have been different... So, no! I don't think there was any thing wrong with you. a few years ago, I had a similar situation with a female friend... maybe one of the most beautiful ladies I ever personally met... she had troubles with her boyfriend, who was also my very close friend, and I invited them to my house to lossen things a bit.. both are my close friends... somehow, she and I ended up alone in my house... almost drunk, after a heavy dosage of barbecue.. and she did the greatest mistake of laying down on the sofa... like a half-naked blond mermaid.. I entered the room and was shocked with her beauty and allure for seconds... came close to her, knelt down on her with my elbow on her abdomen, and looked her in the eyes and said.. "how about putting something on you? I fear you would catch some cold"... with a wicked smile of course... she hit me with a pillow and said... don't be silly... for more than two hours we remained there sitting speaking and chatting... the topic of sex was there... but only in regard to her problem with her boyfriend... they were on trouble and seeking break-up... we always met alone for so long.. but neither made the slightest attempt... and I can't deny my admiration of her beauty and allure, and she knew it... yet, we were friends, and we remained friends even after they broke. Friendship is a sexless relation... but with this magical ingredient called sex it turns into something more deeper and radiant... but you need chemistry first. cheers |
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Age and motivation changes the reasons for intimate relationships. I already procreated, I already raised my family. I faced my own mortality and survived but not without a toll. Most intimate relationships require a sexual component. Not for the sake of the sexual act but to bring intimacy to its highest degree. At a certain point in maturity, replication is no longer the driving force. Sexual activity can be a form of self-gratification or placed on the back burner to more important things like compatibility and companionship. As we age, our priorities change. You are asking questions and making assumptions to a wide demographic. If you restricted this discussion to only people in their sexual prime you would likely get different results. Additionally, you are making your discussion on a dating website that has people that have been hurt in relationships. If you posted it on a site of swingers only, you will get different results. When I was in my sexual prime and single, every relationship with the opposite sex had a sexual agenda. It was vital to the relationship that we had a healthy sex life together. Now, however, my priorities have changed a bit. While sex is nice, it is not a requirement for a relationship. Hormonal changes and all that jazz. I still like sex but I have learned to slow down and appreciate it more. I couldn't 'wham bam thank you ma'am' even if I wanted to, and I don't. I respect women too much for such a childish tactic. it was nice reading this... a new realization that I never come to reflect on.. Thank you Tom... and really I wish you good luck and success. actually... I never considered priorities change... you know.. how could I when I'm not there, yet?? Also, it's not only the age, it's the achievements... you raised a family; so, definitely I can imagine that even the body will want different things, now. Human beings always amazed me... we are too complicated in our bodies and basic programming. however, since I was 18 I had always mixed with a group with very old men.. we all were Syrian, of course... my father and his friends... the worst bad boys I ever met... their main topic had always been jokes about wwomen and sex with them... and usually about their wives... I never forget the jokes they made, the younger of them all was a father in his med-thirties... my age today. The older was his father, he was around 80s.. he's gone now. Anyway... the jokes and tales they made about women and sex was the greats ever... never my cheeks and abdomen muscles ached me for three four days due to laughing so hard like they did after a picnic with this agey group. I loved to go with them... I was new to the career.. you know... so, their jokes had double impact on me at that time... but there's one thing.. I could see at that time that they didn't seem to be in need for women as I did... except to make joke, of course.. loooooool and they sounded dreadfully so experienced... it was great to sit with such people... the elder. so, I agree with you, Tom. Everyone has his/her own priorities... cheers |
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There is no difference. It's just a useless title. Both can include sex or exclude it.
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