Well...................do you play chicken with ceiling fans while jumping on a trampoline like me? See, if you don't, it might be a deal breaker. See, the trampoline covers the entire living room, and I have vaulted ceilings, so... it's perfect!!!! buttcha gotta doo it wit mee see... yannowhadymeen?

of course it will work. In LDR, on both ends there is flexibility to understand eachother then arguments. There is more trust on eachother and more caring just not to hurt by any foul expression.

I believe they exist, yes.

I believe it is very RARE for one to work long term without at some point becoming no longer 'long distance'.

have you ever been into LDR?

No

I don't see how you can trust someone you may be talking to just by texting alone . If you can meet that person face to face multiple times in the process of starting the relationship maybe you'll have a chance but , from texting back and forth without ever seeing them I just can't see it in this day and time . Too many imposters .

true

Are you in a relation with someone??
I was searching the one just like you

yrs

undoubtably they exist.

But the head comes into conflict with the heart.

This brings you down as time goes by. Or maybe it's just me..

The more you like them, the worse it's likely to get.

Best just friends....really.

Charlie

Long distance, dating, living together, married, don't matter..... if both of the people involved want to make it work..... they make it work.

True enough.. But sometimes you want to be with them, but you can't. It brings you down...sooner or later. which is not good for either of you.

I agree KitKat. Key word... both! It doesn't work well if one keeps running away every time things seem a little bleak. It takes time and trust, especially if you haven't met in person, to build a relationship.

It also requires taking off the rose colored glasses and getting to know the real person, not just the one you imagine them to be. That's one of the dangers of long distance relationships before the two actually meet. It's way too easy to get caught up in the idea of love and romance, but until you actually meet face to face, you won't know for sure if that feeling is a reality or simply a fantasy. I feel it's important to be able to talk openly about this without one or the other feeling threatened. It helps keep things in perspective.

But ultimately, if they both have a true desire and want it to work, they will both hang in there, at least until they have a chance to meet. Wishy washy or running back and forth doesn't work!

wise words my friend. and ok as long as your head rules all of the time.

In which case, what's the point.....?

Sounds like the conversation of an old married couple, haha. And that on Easter day!
It is really quite simple: if the other party is wishy-washy and running back and forth it is up to you to decide what you do with that.
Are you going to sit and wait around hoping it will change? Are you going to try and convince them and change? Are you happy with that treatment? Why did you attract this person who does that, as something in you will have attracted it. Are you going to put up with it? If so, why? Don't you feel worthy of someone who does go for you without being wishy-washy?
It's easy to put all responsibility & accountability in the other's camp, but you and no one but you is responsible for your happiness and how you allow to be treated.
If you decide to put up with it then that should be the end of discussion. Accept what they are like. If you don't want that, then end it.

Well said Crystal

There was a time when I would have and did put up with that kind of thing. I want more and deserve more. And I am worthy of more! These are things I realized when asking myself the questions you mentioned. Wishy washy no longer serves a purpose in my life and I will not stand for it anymore. It's one of the many "no longer serves a purpose" things I sent away when I had my full moon ceremony, haha.

Happy Easter!

Fair play to you. :-).

"Hope is an optimistic state of mind that is based on an expectation of positive outcomes with respect to events and circumstances in one's life or the world at large."

As a verb, it's definitions include: "expect with confidence" and "to cherish a desire with anticipation."

So a long distance relationship is going to require a huge dose of HOPE.. and an optimism that can conquer the many moments of dejection, and despair. The confidence of the parties involved will be severely challenged.. No doubt about that..

If you come across a soul who speaks to you, moves you, and has opened up a desire to meet this person.. just like any difficult task in life.. you would need to get your self in order. Yes, you have to use your head.. but that doesn't mean you rationalize yourself to death over a decision. You have to counter with your heart..

There will always be doubt, and then you overcome.. there will the "I want this NOW" feelings.. and the world will create many obstacles.. and you overcome again.

It is each involved person's responsibility to tackle those obstacles so that they may come together at the middle ground.

It is not fair for one of the two, to make the situation turn successful.. it is a joint effort.. the whole way.

That meeting of the mind and heart is essential before taking the road of the long distance relationship together.. it is a hard travel.. and some may not be up for the challenges that will arise.

That being said.. most everyone knows themselves.. are you that person? Or are you not? If you are.. it will most likely work out if the other person is as like minded as your self.

If you are not that person.. and you feel you cannot overcome the despairs, the loneliness, the impatience for the amount of time it takes to make the goals a reality.. you have a strong chance of it not being successful.

Myself.. for some dumb reason, have either been cursed or blessed with a strong heart, and yet still a mind for overcoming most obstacles. So I still believe..

May everyone be successful at whatever path they find themselves going down...

Very well put City b. :-) Thank you.