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Topic: Back Up Plans .......
Fade2Black's photo
Sat 12/08/07 08:57 AM
Edited by Fade2Black on Sat 12/08/07 09:13 AM
You know dating helps us discover ourselves .. right? huh Become more in TUNE with who WE are while we get to know the opposite gender.


So ya, I realize I tend to keep more than one man at a time. *EDIT ... not like 'keep' as in leading on .. but more not committing to anyone in general. I like to keep my options open until 'the ONE' ....

I wondered for the longest time WHY????

WHY do I DO that? Am I insecure, or a Playaaaaaaaaah... or WTH is it???noway

And last night it suddenly came to me. ohwell


(((((((( I LIKE TO HAVE A BACKUP PLAN smokin ))))))))))))

You know, 1 down .... you just say (((((( "NEXT?" ))))))



Whatchu ladies think? laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh

mommyof1's photo
Sat 12/08/07 09:00 AM
I think you're nuts!!!!!! :tongue:

newintown24's photo
Sat 12/08/07 09:01 AM
It's always good to have a back up plan. :)

Fade2Black's photo
Sat 12/08/07 09:04 AM
Thanks new .... drinker

Ruthie, you just jealous I think these things through laugh

Maudred's photo
Sat 12/08/07 09:06 AM
Having a "Backup" plan is terrible. :/ Thats so not cool to lead two guys on at once, just so you wont get hurt? Guys have a heart too...Granted its barried under years of not being a woman.

no photo
Sat 12/08/07 09:10 AM
Edited by shutterbug on Sat 12/08/07 09:12 AM
Is it a back up plan...or just waiting for someone better to come along? ohwell

flowerforyou

For myself...I don't believe in 'playing', (as you put it), two at a time...I consider myself to be a one man woman.

Fade2Black's photo
Sat 12/08/07 09:12 AM
Now now Maudred .. maybe I stated it wrong. I don't LEAD anyone on. I just KEEP MY OPTIONS OPEN. :tongue:

There is absolutely nothing unethical about that.

And it's not about not getting hurt. Just not puttin the heart on the tracks when there's no need to.

It's common sense in my book ...

Maudred's photo
Sat 12/08/07 09:13 AM
sorry didnt mean to offend, I miss interpreted it, I had a girlfriend once, that I had dated for 3 years. Ended up she was dating her ex also, I was just the "Backup" XD

Fade2Black's photo
Sat 12/08/07 09:14 AM
okay .. okay .. I restated it in my OP

it's just about not getting tooooo serious about any ONE person.

Is that better ....

Stop throwing the black books at me laugh laugh laugh

Clancybee's photo
Sat 12/08/07 09:14 AM
noway I don't have a plan....let alone a backup plangrumble grumble grumble

Fade2Black's photo
Sat 12/08/07 09:16 AM
No I'm glad you said what you said Maudred ... I think I stated it incorrectly.

:tongue:

and I'm sorry about your situation.

I don't do this if I am in a relationship, I just tend to run FROM relationships .......... *sigh*

no photo
Sat 12/08/07 09:21 AM

No I'm glad you said what you said Maudred ... I think I stated it incorrectly.

:tongue:

and I'm sorry about your situation.

I don't do this if I am in a relationship, I just tend to run FROM relationships .......... *sigh*



"I don't do this if I am in a relationship, I just tend to run FROM relationships .......... *sigh*"

Why are you running from one to another Fade...do you really give them a chance? Can you not see through their imperfections maybe? Just curious. flowerforyou


Maudred's photo
Sat 12/08/07 09:21 AM
I apologize for what I said, you know why you date more then one guy now, but now you just gotta find out why you run :p

Clancybee's photo
Sat 12/08/07 09:25 AM
Edited by Clancybee on Sat 12/08/07 09:26 AM
Most people run from some thing they think will hurt them..smokin
Bees, snakes, Lions and tiger and bears..OH MY!!laugh

Nektarios's photo
Sat 12/08/07 09:28 AM
However you want to put it, I don't think it's moral to be in a romantic type of relationship with more than one person at a time. It is best to keep things strictly at the level of friendship (without benefits) until you are able to decide who you actually want to date. That is the best way to be loving, because it is the best way to guard against anyone getting hurt. It's best not to look at situations by drawing a line you don't cross over, but rather by examining how you can best love the people you know. Look out for the best interests of others, and that will reveal what is right.

Fade2Black's photo
Sat 12/08/07 10:22 AM

However you want to put it, I don't think it's moral to be in a romantic type of relationship with more than one person at a time. It is best to keep things strictly at the level of friendship (without benefits) until you are able to decide who you actually want to date. That is the best way to be loving, because it is the best way to guard against anyone getting hurt. It's best not to look at situations by drawing a line you don't cross over, but rather by examining how you can best love the people you know. Look out for the best interests of others, and that will reveal what is right.


noway noway noway


Who said anything about 'benefits' ??????????????? :tongue:

Jtevans's photo
Sat 12/08/07 10:24 AM
admit it Fade,you're just a playa :tongue: :wink: laugh laugh laugh

oldsage's photo
Sat 12/08/07 10:31 AM
Maybe Ms. Fade & I are similar.
I am not looking for any SINGULAR relationship. Won't commit to any ONE person, like my freedom & being able to flirt freely.
I Am waiting for my kids to move home; 6 yrs.; & then may look at things different. I WANT to pass my home on to my son, too much blood, sweat & tears in it. Best yrs. of my life were here with Gwen, her daughter & my son. Want my grandkids to experience living in a park. All of my present wants, say "NO LTR."
Sound familar Fade?

buttons's photo
Sat 12/08/07 10:36 AM
well im wondering...... do u let them both know? that u date others? if so..... that is not playing.... thats being truthful.... and i think its just u havent found the right person yet.....flowerforyou

rockman888's photo
Sat 12/08/07 10:36 AM
:tongue: we as men know when you ladies have a "back up plan"you can just feel when someone is not giving it there all...and are divided in love and life...i have went through this for the last almost 5 years even catching her in the act 4 times...finally had the balls to say no more..there has to be decent weman out there somewhere in this great big world and i am gonna find me one!

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